I find a lot of women are outright hostile at the idea. Are they just angry not to hold all the cards in the relationship dynamic? Worried that I can't be manipulated by denying affection? Aghast that I will have other financial priorities than just them?
I'd say it's morality stuff, but it's Tinder and people are mostly using it as a meat market. What I'm proposing a slow paced relaxed poly relationship is practically wholesome by comparison.
Is there something I'm missing?
Like I get if you don't want to, no worries but the rage responses and match ghosting is a little bit silly.
It's in my Tinder Bio, can't these women read?
Does a male centered polyamorous relationship structure offend so many women because it puts the man in the role of the chooser instead of chaser?
I read your other comments explaining more and its because you are specifically targeting the wrong women and you are simultaneously making yourself highly unattractive to all kinds of poly women.
1. Poly identifying women are modern liberal types. The whole point of that world view is feminism which is a female supremacy world view. These women are the ones finding you offensive for trying to be male centered.
2. Non poly identifying women are open to this sort of scenario and they will be more traditional conservative women. They will want to be in a male dominated relationship and will do what you want, include bringing other women in. However you're also turning them off to never attract them in the first place because you're ok with them fucking other men. No. They want to be possessed and controlled. So you're turning them off as well by showing up as a weak cuck to them.
I personally am this way and i only associate with traditional conservative types. No man will touch my women. However if you go this route expect to be challenged in traditional masculine ways. These girls will usually not tolerate any weird cuck modern sex ideas at all. They will want to live with you, they will expect you to provide more than the "fair" share. They will expect you to lead and protect and be possessive. Good luck.
Hmm I suppose that I could pretend to care about possessing and controlling them in order to present a more appealing situation to more conservative women.
I'm not sure that this would qualify as the typical cuck situation though, as I'm the one defining all the rules and there's no humiliation/bull aspect. It's more of an indulgence for long service kind of mentality and wouldn't be allowed for quite some time.
A surprisingly useful response for this site.
As for the providing resources, I was being sarcastic. I'm basically expecting to fully provide for the women involved.
In a traditional mindset thats cuckolding plain and simple. Its for her benefit but no traditional woman is going to find that beneficial and she's just going to lose respect for you. You could alternatively do it for YOUR benefit and get away with it and thats called pimping but under no circumstance can you maintain respect if you make it about her or your own sexual fetish. Ie for money its an acceptable reason but it could be for social connections or something where its for your benefit. I do find this a red herring to what you're trying to accomplish though and just say no men plain and simple.
No it's just a crappy deal. If you aren't willing to share all your women with other guys you shouldn't go around asking for polyamorous relationships. There is plenty of chicks out there wanting multiple boyfriend. Date one of them.
Nah I don't mind if they date other men as long as they don't live with me and the kids are all mine. Everyone needs a bit of excitement now and again.
Oh I'm not really an "Alpha" if you believe in that kind of thing, but rather I'm just well above average in a well rounded sense objectively.
Like if you put me in a room with a bunch of other men most of them will be better in one domain, but I'll be better than them on average in all spheres.
I'd be more of an Omega type that moves diagonally across the hierarchy without being contained by it for the most part.
An example of which would be finding ways to openly ridicule my boss in a public setting while being immune to reprisal, because of my ambiguous phrasing and then changing to a better department that pays more than he gets even though at no point am I technically in charge, and yet I just keep getting my way and people can't really assert any control over me.
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