Is it a 'red flag' if a guy likes both video games and junk food?

[Snsl153]

This is kind of my response to this question:
Is it a red flag if a woman likes both social media and working out (aka fitness influencer)?

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+1 y

I think I need to emphasise something. I said "likes video games AND junk food". In other words, someone who is like the guy in the photo; a fat, lazy slob who pigs out and never exercises, and then has the sheer gall to complain, "Why don't girls like me?"

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+1 y

My update above is kind of nasty and horrible. I don't hate people who like video games, or who occasionally have a little too much of the wrong kind of food, but it seems that way. Sorry about that :'(

[normalice]

To the question you linked i would say it is a "flag" that the person might be an above average actress/performer, but not a "red" flag, as there is nothing inherently wrong with that. It is true, however, that the ability to put on a show sometimes encourages people to build a life around it, because it's easier than learning a trade. And when one dedicates their survival to putting on a show, unless they get snatched up by Hollywood, a church, or some advertising firm, it is inevitable that they eventually resort to scams - though Hollywood, church, and advertisements could be argued to be scams, too.

In any case, this is a subset of a subset of a subset. To call it a red flag is like saying because it is a polygon that's a red flag that it could be a square. It's an overreaction.

As for video games and junk food, I would say that nearly all men like video games and nearly all people like junk food. So while it is a "flag" it is along the same lines as the above, except instead of being a subset of a subset of a subset, it's more a subset of a subset of a subset of a subset that end up being unable to process the idea of having responsibilities in life.

Or at least that's true of my generation, which we didn't really have screens around until I was approaching 20 and certianly not tablets or phones you can carry around with you. This constant view of a cartoon world that's accessible to everyone but doesn't actually exist seems a red flag for humanity. Nothing ages in a screen so people dont notice they years theyve spent looking at it and think they are still the same age as when they started. This is something men are particularly susceptible to as we already don't consent to aging past 25 or so. As video games keep us distracted from the ruthless march of time it is true we become more and more dependent on not thinking it is happening. The more time passes the worse it gets and so the more tightly we may cling to the thing that let us believe time was not passing.

Still, video games and making videos are just as viable as mere hobbies. The junk food thing is a red flag for both genders, though..

[Adderallman4422]

Absolutely a red flag, no sense of the real world in a Cocoon of self doubt and unambitious goals

[Aerissa_Jade]

Actually known some guys who used to be skinny, said they never got anywhere with women so they gave up, started playing games and not caring anymore.

Mental issues are likely, one was extremely shy and on top of that had social anxiety... that combination alone would make even a decent looking guy have a hard time getting a date, as he would panic and run away when asked out and never able to do it himself.

Lots of red flags for lots of things, that would be included.

[Lookingforthetruth]

I love how its mental illness for men if they have anxiety and are shy but it is considered normal for women when this is their reason for never approaching a guy they like.

[Snsl153]

@Lookingforthetruth Is it just shyness and anxiety though, or is there far more to it? Like, for example, a retreat from a reality they perceive to be too harsh, into a safe-space of their own creation. A prison without bars, locks and guards.

[Aerissa_Jade]

@Lookingforthetruth I'd say anyone with ultra shyness and social anxiety has issues regardless of gender, it may actually be harder for men in some places with the expectation they need to do the asking out. Although in area's where it isn't that way, it would seem to be more equal.

[kuladiamond]

You can like both in moderation, nothing stops a person from liking those two things and still putting in the effort to do everything else, that being said too much is always too much, i was at a point in my life when i was kinda like that not doing anything and just playing games since i was pretty demoralized so yeah it kinda is a red flag sometimes but people can always move beyond it.

[t-8900]

the real question is if overindulgence is a fed flag. yes it is. a lot of folks eat because they actually suffer from a few forms of mental illnesses. One the brain simply gets a very delayed signal to stop eating, two they are morbidly depressed, three they have not dealt with childhood traumas, four they have a nervous condition. These are reasons for very obese people. I noticed a lot of super fat people who never even think of trying to lose weight tend to not be all there mentally either, just saying. I was really big at one point but it was because of a mixture of depression and childhood trauma. I was raped as a child multiple times and my cope was food. So dont judge all fat people too harshly and remember that a defeat today does not mean there is no victory for tomorrow!

[Lookingforthetruth]

If there were no men, would women work out or even wear make up?

The point being these guys have given up. Unlike women, men often have to approach and get rejected by 100's of women before one that says yes to him. Some men get burnt out and jaded before reaching that one woman.

Thus, these men often just do the things they like to do and give them most enjoyment in life. A lot of guys are happier when they no longer have to worry about what the other sex thinks and how to impress them.

[Jabberjaw]

Lmao

I've liked both since I was younger than 10.
I also had a social life, girlfriends, played sports, started working out at 14-15. Joined the basketball team. Played through highschool and college.

Most of the time I was one of the few with a 6 pack playing a game. I also drank slurpees, had pizza or Chinese every weekend, lots of candy and so on. I just worked it all off the next day lol

It's not a read flag lol. It's just a problem when they're not coupled with other habits that counteract it. Like in college I stopped playing basketball at a certain point so my output went down. Eating stayed the same. I put on 20 lb.

I cut it the following year once I realized but yea still happened. So there will likely be issues if they don't maintain lifestyle

[Jabberjaw]

Only reason I stopped playing games a few years back is because I wanted to focus more on wealth building and women more because I didn't quite have the dating life I wanted.

Had a dating life with cute girls but I wanted more and I got it. Now I'm working on money. When I get to where I want financially I'm reintroducing games

[TheLoneTerran]

People binge watch TV, sports, and Netflix for 8+ hours a day. Video games aren't different. Nearly everyone eats junk food. With obesity at 42.4%, almost half of the people eat too much.

You're going to like what/who you like. If someone is able to function as an adult in society then they're most likely doing fine. Women are not a small portion of the amount of people who play games. Nearly 50/50. Genre's are different but the fact they play isn't.

If their habits bother you, don't pursue anything because you'll just be unhappy with his habits and he'll be unhappy you're talking down about his hobby.

[BCA6010]

I mean if that's a "red flag" then that's going to rule out a huge chunk of even guys you wouldn't expect, and that's fine but like with anything else, the narrower your preferences, the fewer options you have.

The problem with both social media and (obsessive) video gaming or really any kind of escapism taken to an extreme is that they tend to make people disregard real life issues, or especially in the case of social media, massively multiplayer games, and the upcoming "Metaverse," flat out replace the real world with a fake one, and seemingly willful ignorance of reality is a huge turnoff in pretty much any context.

[crossdressingrihno]

I would feel bad for the woman who dates someone like the man in that picture

I mean I like video games and junk food too but I'm not like that
I'm a little bit unhealthy weight-wise but not supper bad

Also I don't play video games all the time and the only form of junk food that I have every week is Coca-Cola other than that I generally go a few weeks without eating junk food

My home burned down and I had to move into a trailer and my trailer doesn't have a working oven so I'm living off a microwave so that doesn't help with my weight but I will be moving into an apartment sometime soon and I will be able to start getting more exercise as well as being able to eat healthier

[crossdressingrihno]

Also I think the only gym near me is planet fitness and for moral reasons I'm not using planet fitness

[crossdressingrihno]

But once I'm in an apartment I will have plenty of space so I'll just work something out in there

[crossdressingrihno]

Point is not everyone who likes video games and junk food is like that man

[crossdressingrihno]

But I certainly don't blame people for having that misconception because if we're going to be honest there's a lot of people like that and so it totally makes sense why they would think that

[Moose304]

Most of the men I know don't have time to play games. When they do get some free time they are working on a hobby. One friend paints. I see no issues with playing games as long as you put everything in perspective. That junk food thing is a totally different matter. Of the 21 meals a week I might eat junk food in 1 of them. I also don't "snack". A person male or female that doesn't take care of their body by eating right and getting plenty of exercise in my view is NOT somebody you want to date. So YES, big time red flag!

[Anonymous]

typical globe head
logic

thinking that if you play videos and eat food,

there is something wrong with the person

lol

you think you are upside down
that is a huge red flag for me
and many others

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[poneglyphs]

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[Snsl153]

Oh not YOU again! Go away! And reveal who you are so I can block you.
And one other thing; I said JUNK food (like Doritos and McDonald's) NOT "food". You know, lazy people who sit in front of a screen all day and just pig out on crap, and get fat.

[ShadezMcgee]

Depends on his lifestyle. Is he only playing games and eating junk food all day? Do they have a job or any other hobbies outside of it? Do they exercise and pay bills? Do they have other goals and ambitions?

If he has none of the above and only does those two, run for the hills. If however the guy eats junk food and plays games, all the while having those additional things above, I don't see an issue.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It's only a flag if you don't like those things, or if the guy in question ONLY likes those things.

I've met guys in great shape who like video games and junk food, but also fitness and reading. They understand they can't put all their time into vidya and junk - and they instead treat those like rewards or treats for when they're done all the other things they want to do.

A balance is necessary, in my opinion.

[TwinTonyz]

Everything is a red flag to someone, and that's part of why commentary on red flags is worthless. You've simplified a human down to 2 traits that turn you completely blind to everything else characterizing that person. I doubt your ability to conceive meaningful relationships. He's not a bad person, defective, or toxic. You've slung the noose of your own scornful gaze around his neck, then blamed him for judgements which are only your own.

[Kaneki05]

No that's just called a lifestyle if it ain't for you then that's fine. But that's not a red flag. Same for if a girl liked been on diet and watching her food all the time while also likes posting pics about what she eats but that's pretty much all she does that ain't for me she sounds super boring. But it's not a red flag. Just a lifestyle that ain't for me.

[ShakTreblat]

Not really a red flag. In response to the working out and social media thing: Same answer. People like what they like, and I don’t think it’s fair for people to judge others based on things they like. Now if it’s something you can’t do in moderation it may be a problem, but I still don’t think it’s a red flag

[EmbraceThePain]

I play a ton of video games.


But I still accomplish my goals, whether fitness or military related


And work 8-12 hour shifts





Time management and scheduling.

[Dontaaaa]

I'm going to go say yes if they don't do both of those things in moderation.

When I was at my lowest depressed state (a couple of years ago) all I would do was wake up, play video games and eat junk food.


It wasn't pretty sight to see and I'm not proud out it.

Coming back to the present I'm doing a lot better now.

Don't get me wrong I still play video games and eat junkfood, but I do it A LOT less.

[queenofconvo]

Um no not necessarily lol. Unless this is literally all he does on a regular basis while unemployed and still living with his mama. Then that's when that is a serious red flag but if he enjoys it to relax and unwind after work. while single at his own home then that's totally fine

[SmokyOne]

Nah not really. It doesn't matter what it is anything in excess is self destructive. I game regularly, few hours a day, usually late at night or early morning, hold a job, take care of my kids, find time for other interests and so on. Proper time management is key

[Anonymous]

If he likes video games, he more than likely has a high IQ. The fact he likes junk food, just means that when he cuts himself shaving, the color of his blood is red.

I love junk food, but luckily for me, I can't afford it, so I just prepare my own food.

[Valso]

I used to exercise but that didn't make women like me more, so I stopped exercising and started getting them drunk in order to f*ck them. That increased the frequency of my sex life a lot more than wasting time and money on gym ever did, LOL Women don't care what YOU look like, they only care about the depth of your bank account, so trying to make yourself look good is a waste of time.

[SassyAussieAddy]

I like video games and junk food, not sure I trust anyone fully who doesn't like those things