How do I ask him to be my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Around a year ago, my crush asked me out and I had to say no at the time, because I had a lot going on and had to figure myself out. He understood and we haven't stopped talking–in fact, we've gotten a lot closer. I think I'm ready to get into a relationship and he's made it clear that he wants to be with me, even if he has to wait, but now I need to figure out how I can ask him to be mine. He enjoys grand gestures and I'd want it to be special, does anyone have any ideas?

[ohshee]

First of all make sure that it's really what you want because you did what you did for a reason and there's nothing wrong with that a Year's a long time make sure he's still the same person we all grow we all change weather is positive or negative in a year's time that's for sure but just make sure that's what you want first make sure he is who you think it is he that he hasn't changed much and then make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend
Just walk up to him and say I ever you have you been it'll all work itself out

[Asker]

I took my time to make sure that this is what I want, he means a lot to me. We call every day and he has reminded me that he is still interested and waiting for me to be ready, so I hope everything works out!

[Anonymous]

Sorry if this doesn’t help, but I feel like these big steps such as this should be entirely you or you and your friends that think of it and it shouldn’t be left to asking for ideas on the internet like this. It should be your own.

[Asker]

That's very true, thank you :)

[Opinion Owner]

Cool well yes I guess you’re welcome haha

[slatyb]

You don't ask. You just do things together. When you are seeing each other regularly, and not dating anyone else, then you are a couple.

After i divorced and started dating, after a few dates it went like this:"are you seeing anyone else?" "No" "Would you like to stay?"

[Asker]

That's a fair point, thank you

[Rob1n]

I would keep it simple and just tell him. You can make all the grand gestures after the two of you are together, but making a grand gesture when you are just asking him out will put a lot of unnecessary pressure on the two of you.

Just ask him out for dinner, and say something along the lines of: how about we make it a real date this time, I think I am ready for a relationship if you are.
And if you want to do something special, just dress up nicely.

[Asker]

I'll keep that in mind, thank you :)

[Anonymous]

The fact you are still talking to him means he probably thinks he still has a shot. He probably just won’t attempt to ask again so it’s up to you. You don’t need a grand gesture.

[Asker]

Okay, I'll keep that in mind, thank you!

[ArtemisSilver]

Have you tried a mating dance. It works for birds.

[Asker]

That could be fun lmao

[ArtemisSilver]

Let me know how it goes. Honestly I bet you a dollar it would work.