If my biggest motivation in life is to one day have a beautiful wife, is that okay?

Question

That’s the only thing that keeps me going. That is the biggest factor in my motivation is that one day I will have a beautiful wife.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's completely natural. Beautiful girls can be kind and smart and friendly and educated too.
Make sure you know what beauty means to you.
Most importantly keep in mind that you cannot CHANGE someone, neither their personality nor their looks.
So for example if you are really attracted to blonds, don't go and find a brunette and pressure her to bleach her hair. Or if a girl is beautiful but dresses plainly, she will never want to dress like a fashion model.
Specially when life gets hard, even if people have worked hard to be who you want and not be themselves, when it gets tough they just jump right back into their defaults.
Also, aim for younger girls so they don't fade out too quickly.
It's perfectly ok and actually smart to do what you think motivates you, despite what ideas circulate in public. It will save both you and your spouse lots of pain and trouble down the road. It will guarantee both your happiness. It is great to know yourself so well and accept yourself no matter what. Imagine if you married an ugly girl. You would suffer. But SHE would also suffer too, because she will always see herself as less than what you wanted. If you stay together, it will be mutual misery and lower self confidence for both. If you separate, well than that's hard too. And imagine what will happen to your poor children.
Also, biologically, aiming for beauty is our genetic guide to finding health and so ensuring our continuation. Healthy people are of course more beautiful too. They have more glowing skin, thicker hair, brighter eyes, and in general must have healthier internal organs to support that beauty. If their beauty is made up, there is still a good chance that their brain worked better than others in recognizing what to buy or how to dress or even how to choose and connect with a good beauty advisor to make themselves look better than the rest. It also even means that their ancestors had the money, brains, and ability to choose the more beautiful people as their spouse, which in turn led to more beautiful offspring. And a beautiful person, or a person who thinks she is beautiful, will be less insecure, less jealous, and more confident. This in turn will lead to a better life, less mental health issues, and in general more energy and positivity.
The next step is to know what a beautiful person might want from life, or from you, in exchange for that beauty. Then you will have to work towards gaining those qualities. It can obviously be money, but it can also be kindness, understanding, patience, wisdom, personality peacefulness, faithfulness, lots of children, not children or not lots of them, a big family, a small family, a shared interest, religious standards, thought patterns, and many many other qualities. You just have to recognize what they want and to be prepared to pay that price. It has to be something you can give. Because in tough times, you will also go back to being your old self and will be less able to give her the things you pressured yourself to give her when the relationship was still fresh.
Lastly, beauty is in the in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is not concrete. Believe it or not, certain personality qualities also affect our perception of beauty. If you meet with identical twins, the one who has a happier personality or is a better match with your own personality, will automatically be perceived as more beautiful by you. Lots of times, it's people's personality or the way they walk or talk or smile that seems beautiful to us rather than their actual physical appearance. But we just mistake the two. Also, it's how that person makes you feel about yourself that attracts you to them. On this same website there are questions about celebrity crushes. Check them out. They are all celebrities and so have a minimum of physical attraction. But you will see that someone who looks drop dead gorgious to one person, isn't the least bit attractive to others.
Good luck finding a good match.

Chiarac2003 · Accepted Answer

Jus beautiful?… not smart, sweet, caring, loving…. etc.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

To me, no, that is not okay. And I say that formerly having the same dream. It's not okay because you are living your life for another person and depending on all your happiness on someone else and not for yourself.

What if that girl never comes around? (Like the case with me.) What if you find her and she cheats on you? What if she ends up divorcing you? What if you find out she's actually "bisexual" and never really loved you, or men, at all? Then what?

I'd say you don't have to give up this dream, but you should definitely have other goals in mind besides just that. Especially if you're under six feet tall and not an 8 or 9 in looks. Cause chances are, that dream won't become a reality and you'll have ended up wasting who knows how many years of your life.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

And after you finally get her will you still be happy? After you've invested all your motivation and will to live in a hope for a beautiful wife, what will you become? And how will you handle it if she ended up breaking your heart, cheating, betraying you, etc?

Don't ever let a woman or anyone else be any kind of major motivation for your life. Doing that sets yourself up for incredible pain and grief if things don't work out with that person. You are placing an idyllic image on a pedestal as a demigodess. Please. Don't ever do this.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Depending on your partner to make you happy puts an unnatural and quite substantial strain on a relationship. You need to fix what's inside you before you start trying to find your Japanese woman.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

What I think is you want this girl cause you don’t have her, but if you got her, you would be bored of her within 2 years.

jshm2 · Answer

Nope. That's daft as fuck and a false hope

Just like a kid I knew who wanted to one day own a Lamborghini. His older, drug dealing brother bought him one, and the kid died in a car pileup a week later.

You see, while owning a Lamborghini was within his grasp, he never learned how to drive and handle a car, let alone a Lamborghini.

Just like you could probably buy a wife, or blackmail one. But your shitty life skills and lack of social cohesion is why she'll ditch your sorry ass.

Be progressive and successful and you'll get better things. Stop running after small and tedious things.

Esperanto · Answer

In my case, I found my dream girl 30 years ago and still together. She gave me 3 beautiful kids. I can truly say that EVERYTING I do in life is for them. When I feel depressed or sad, I look for their hugs, and it is truly the best medicine. Its just natural for me to wish everyone would have the same experience. On the other hand, I have a friend with a yatch, he says his life is amazing for having that yacht, I don't have one and never wasted a second wishing for one. At the end, You will find your perfect girl or yacht or what ever makes you amazingly happy. Meanwhile, keep dreaming.

shaysh87 · Answer

I think you're probably a very superficial person with the wrong priorities.

All wives become unattractive one day, remember that. Once your wife gets old, you will just start cheating. I dont think any smart lady would ever see you as husband material

Rainbowpearl · Answer

Sounds really vain/superficial and kinda sad, if you ask me. Other people care about making a difference in the world and helping others or saving lives, but all you care about is looks...
You do know looks fade sooner or later
But hey, you do you bro

DaveJord · Answer

I would only say marriage is not required in having a totally loving, emotional, mentally and physically fulfilling relationship with a women... and as men we should start putting the traditional concept of marriage and love into a more appropriate modern or contemporary context.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Only caring about how a person looks means that you will most likely dismiss: their feelings, their aspirations, their hobbies, what they want to talk about etc.
A woman who has self respect will not want to be with someone that only cares about how a person looks.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you're just asking for heartache. You can't force this. Or will it into happening.
Nothing wrong with meeting someone, falling in love, committing the rest of your life to love, honor, and cherish them. But that kind of commitment is WORK. It shouldn't be entered into lightly.
I would just ENJOY LIFE right now. And take it as it comes.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Fucking stupid if you ask me. why not get one who is a friend, compatible with you and you love each other. Beautiful kinda sucks at 60 when she’s taking out her teeth to suck you off.

ShadowMonarch · Answer

If you can go far as to become a successful person in your life... than I would say it's ok Remember that enjoying the journey towards your goal is what makes you want to reach it...

supercutebutt · Answer

Don't let another person become your identity. It's pathetic.

slatyb · Answer

That's not much of an ambition, and certainly no guarantee of happiness. Better to hope to find a loving wife.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a spouse whom you find very attractive, beautiful in this case. People are too critical these days.

SolitarySolace · Answer

You will be severely disappointed if that’s your goal. Better hope you’re one of the lucky few. The chances that you are one of those lucky few is extremely low.

SlothySlob · Answer

If it motivates you to be a better person, all power to you.

Anonymous · Answer

She better be dumb as a box of rocks if the only thing you care about is her beauty because if she had 2 braincells to rub together she might learn about self respect

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Why not get a doll or a robot if that's the only thing that matters...

AlexEfron · Answer

This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard 😂.  I apologise if that hurts you 🤣🤣 but it is.  What about when you two grow old and she loses her beauty? Gonna remarry a younger beauty?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, that's cool. Dont let anyone convince you otherwise because they are just going to deviate you from what you want. I love girls and i feel good about having a girlfriend and love but right now i am single.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Well, it's okay... But you don't live with someone's looks only... There's a person behind that lol...

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Having some goal is better than none. Just remember to treat women like people, not just goal target abstractions.

ElvenMr · Answer

Kinda shows what a weird world we live in nowadays, when someone wants to have beautiful wife and somehow he is looked down on lol.

Shamalien · Answer

I guess most of the girls on here r really insecure because they all got super angry

msc545 · Answer

Sure. If you get one you will be very sorry you did. Beautiful women are big trouble.

zagor · Answer

If that is your biggest motivation then you will have trouble attracting one.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I feel like that's what motivates most men, whether they realise it or not.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

women's beauty ends at 30 so yes u are indeed making BIG MISTAKE.

Anonymous · Answer

You're heading for a let down. Beauty is only skin deep and marriage is the leading cause of divorce. You should try to meet someone that has a caring and loving heart, not some fake beauty queen.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Its ok to want a wife but that shouldn’t be your only motivation

UniquelyBasic · Answer

So you want a Trophy Wife?

exitseven · Answer

No, you cannot put all your eggs in one basket.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Girlfriend not wife, marriage is bad bro

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No looks doesn't make a person beautiful

malwins · Answer

LOL literally EVERY motivation is good

Anonymous · Answer

No, you need the means to back it up

Anonymous · Answer

Wanna know how?

VV3ZZY · Answer

Oof I want one too

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

Very pathetic

clampfan101 · Answer

Same here.

lofii · Answer

That makes u a simp

Anonymous · Answer

thats stupid lol

If my biggest motivation in life is to one day have a beautiful wife, is that okay?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife?

If my biggest motivation in life is to one day have a beautiful wife, is that okay?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife?

We're glad to see you liked this post.