Should I confront him one last time?

[Anonymous]

A guy asked me to be his girlfriend after like a month or so of us talking. We’ve been together for like almost two months now. There was also a little short story behind us before we got together. Anyway. He keeps sayin that he is my boyfriend but I have had to confront him about communicating with me. He works construction and I get that he is busy. But it would be nice to check in one d in a while. I even asked if he only wanted to be friends with benefits because I didn’t think he really seemed into all this and it’s my first boyfriend but he stood strong in being with me. But I don’t understand. Like he hasn’t said anything to me today and I haven’t seen him in person since like last week of the weekend before. I’m confused and he isn’t providing clarity so should I just block him?

Updates

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Soo we talked and broke up but I feel much better now that I know what’s up so there’s a plus. Thanks for all the help

[EmbraceThePain]

Have you told him what you’ve just written now? Why he is not communicating or checking up with what’s up with you?


Also, NO ONE, I don’t care, is ever too busy to message or call people they care about


Now, I’m working 4 days a week 12 hour shifts. Also workout Nearly everyday


I can ALWAYS message and call any day.


It may not be super long, but I can chat everyday something.


ESPECIALLY, with a woman I love or like, 1000%


So, never take the “I’m busy” too seriously.
Maybe he’s just too tired and wants to rest but doesn’t want to seem like he’s blowing you off so he says he’s busy or something.


Or he doesn’t want to talk for some reason but is too ashamed to tell you this.

[Asker]

True I’m going to see if he says anything to me until tomorrow and if he doesn’t I’ll just block him

[EmbraceThePain]

Why block?

[Asker]

Cause I feel like he is playin some kind of sick joke and toying with my emotions and that’s the only way I’ll feel redeemed

[BarryLiverstone]

Lack of communication really kills the connection. Maybe he only wanted to be casual. What was the story before you met?

[Asker]

Like a year before he reached out to me I saw his picture on fb. I thought he was cute and my friend was otp with me when I observed him. She said she knew him and would tell him about me but instead she tried to get with him and when that failed she tried to get him with her cousin. I took matters into my own hands and inboxed him. It didn’t go anywhere though until he messaged me a year later. I fell out with that friend and she went and talked junk about me to him but he wanted to find out for himself so here we are

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya you found out she wasn’t a friend at all. Has he said when you will see him again?

[Asker]

Nope, haven’t talked to him at all today

[BarryLiverstone]

If he hasn’t made plans it sounds like he wants to keep it casual

[Asker]

Yea but I asked him if he wanted that but he told me he wanted to be my boyfriend so I’m just very confused and it makes me overthink

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s said that because he thinks that’s what you want him to say. He is afraid If he admits he only wants sex you will ghost him

[Asker]

I’ll bring that up when I text him. I’ve told him I would be interested in casual if he is cause this doesn’t feel like a relationship and I can just talk to all the people I want

[BarryLiverstone]

If he wants to claim the title of your boyfriend then he should step up and make plans to meet you. No need for you to text him anymore than saying you will wait for him to take you out on another date

[BarryLiverstone]

You are not exclusive now. So you can talk to and date others anyway

[sassyredhead]

don't block him set your boundaries and state plainly what you want. Give him specifics guys need details. Say something like I would like to text everyday if he can't meet that standard move on.

[Asker]

Okay I’ll try but in my mind I feel like he knows what he is doing and is enjoying toying with my mind. The last message was from me replying to him saying huh? And I’ve asked if hd is still interested I just don’t get it

[sassyredhead]

firm and clear words and a firm tone to the message tend to help. When he tries the humor just put him back in his place. I have had this issue before this does help.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he got some butt and didn’t enjoy it enough to keep it. That’s my opinion. Either that or he is missing. No reason to not text at least once a day.

[Asker]

Me and him haven’t had sex before tho

[Opinion Owner]

Oh. Well then maybe that’s why he isn’t talking to you anymore.