I’ve found myself in what feels like an impossible, no-win situation, and could really use some advice and perspective.
I’m 22, I have been with my partner for a few months. He's a great guy and checks a lot of my boxes. There are some incompatibilities and issues, as I’d imagine there are in most relationships (no one’s perfect, right?), but he treats me well, we get along, and overall good communication. But there has been struggles during the relationship over these past weeks. He assumes I’m cheating, he thinks i throw shade at him when I share something, and there is a-lot of issues with him assuming I’m cheating or doing something that isn’t right. There was a point where he passed the line when he eventually said I was sick in the head just because I told him that he was the one who was being un loyal and that was the reason why he was assuming bad things about me. I got upset when he told me I was sick in the head , so I told him off calling him a dmbas and a m’fer which wasn’t a adult thing to do. But it also wasn’t correct for him to tell me i wasn’t okay in the head, he doesn’t know if not okay mentally or anything in that nature. That same day he told me that He never insulted me, he also said how would I feel if he called me a dmbas and a m’fer. But he eventually said something worse, which was saying he thought I was sick in the head. The indecision has been totally paralyzing, and honestly has had me stuck in what to decide eventually. A part of me is still in shock and still analyzing why he said I’m sick in the head if he supposedly loves me and the other part of me is hurt. I’m fully aware that what I said wasn’t okay to say. What should I do?
I’m 22, I have been with my partner for a few months. He's a great guy and checks a lot of my boxes. There are some incompatibilities and issues, as I’d imagine there are in most relationships (no one’s perfect, right?), but he treats me well, we get along, and overall good communication. But there has been struggles during the relationship over these past weeks. He assumes I’m cheating, he thinks i throw shade at him when I share something, and there is a-lot of issues with him assuming I’m cheating or doing something that isn’t right. There was a point where he passed the line when he eventually said I was sick in the head just because I told him that he was the one who was being un loyal and that was the reason why he was assuming bad things about me. I got upset when he told me I was sick in the head , so I told him off calling him a dmbas and a m’fer which wasn’t a adult thing to do. But it also wasn’t correct for him to tell me i wasn’t okay in the head, he doesn’t know if not okay mentally or anything in that nature. That same day he told me that He never insulted me, he also said how would I feel if he called me a dmbas and a m’fer. But he eventually said something worse, which was saying he thought I was sick in the head. The indecision has been totally paralyzing, and honestly has had me stuck in what to decide eventually. A part of me is still in shock and still analyzing why he said I’m sick in the head if he supposedly loves me and the other part of me is hurt. I’m fully aware that what I said wasn’t okay to say. What should I do?
