I don’t think dating for people over 30 is over. Sometimes, it’s just the beginning. Some people are just late bloomers. I don’t know who or why put a deadline on love life. Don’t ever settle for less just because people think there’s nothing or nobody out there for you.
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Dating is best in 20s because this is the age where everyone is single, nobody has baggage, this is also the most social time of your life so you get to meet so many new singles.
When most people hit 30, the dating pool has shrunk because this is the time where people pair off. It will only shrink more by the time you hit 35. This is also the age where you start losing your friends because a lot of them have husbands or wives. By the time you hit 40, it will shrink even more. 90% of the people around you would be either married, engaged or have kids.
People in their 30s also tend to be more reclusive , much less social compared to when they were in their 20s. So their likelihood of finding someone also shrinks due to this.
for guys i dont think it does. Guys if anything stay in their prime longer, And some girls think they get better with age
for girls i think they start to pannic, Because their clock is ticking
once a girl passes her early to mid 30s. Thats close to her expired date, For having kids, And most guys want kids
guys still peak, Into their 40s. Looks health. And being firtle,
we have a 30 year window. 20-50 years old
girls have maybe a 15 year window, half that, Until its expired goods
and thats the truth
Probably because 99% of the time women over 30 are significantly less attractive than younger ones, and they're all available so who would pick the older ones? Top that off with the baggage they carry from being leftovers (both men and women). Failed relationships, kids, and a tiredness towards life is something most 30+yo have if they're still on the dating market.
So, you have less time, less energy, and are less attractive to the opposite sex- this is why people believe their dating life is over.
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My dating life after age 30 was much more active than it was before age 30. And much more satisfying.
I just turned 35. When i hit that number 2 weeks ago... my dating life changed immediately. For women its even worse.
For woman, they have until approximately 34 before the chances of having children is greatly diminished. I think this also tells a timeframe of youth. After 30 people have their day jobs to work, own property maybe, and other responsibilities are heightened. I think the dating scene somewhat changes. It is less about having fun but about finding an actual partner for the purpose of a family. Also, after 30 you feel pressured to hurry up and choose. In your twenties you can kinda taking your time.
For me and my friends it was.. there comes a point where the costs outweigh the benefits. I just wasn't willing to put up with the double standards and misandry anymore. Especially when you don't want sex with them anymore, they can't give you the children you wanted and they still want you to jump through hoops like a trained monkey for their attention and demand you meet a list of requirements they couldn't meet themselves.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
It's a strange game, the only winning move is not to play.I think men are the lucky ones because women younger than 30 are with 30+ year old men and the older the guy gets his still lucky because most women want to be with older men. Men also tend to prefer women younger than 30 or younger than themselves because younger women are more youthful looking and they are attracted to that.
but when it comes to women its a bit different because most men do not want to be with older women over 30 because that's when most of them start becoming infertile and most men want to have kids. However they are men who prefer 30+ women over younger women so they may be at an advantage in that sense, but I mean a majority of 30+ men prefer women who are younger than them.
Do not get me wrong I'm not saying aging is bad, aging is a wonderful thing and its a blessing because nowadays a lot of people die young, but like everything that's good aging comes with it implications that's how nature works we just got to accept it!My dating life only really got started at 28.
I’d been in a 7 year long relationship prior to that but because I was too young at the start to know what was acceptable and what wasn’t, a lot of toxic/manipulative behaviours became normalized for me in a partner.
Only after that (plus some unrelated wisdom/maturity) do I truly feel confident in the dating world. My boyfriend is 34 and I love how, partially due to his age, he’s definitely got his shit together as well.That's what I thought.
Then I turned 30 and it seems like a lot of girls are suddenly "I won't date a guy unless his is within 6 months of my age" and then nearly every girl around my age is married.
It's like those jobs that want to hire new graduates but they need to have 10 years of experience. But when they have 10 years of experience they are suddenly too old for the job.
Maybe I just need to get out of the Midwest.It’s because young woman get pursued more. A young woman who remains bitter and fools herself that her career and her pet cat is real love she’s kidding herself. When a young woman understands her mistakes and puts herself out there it’s much easier to find man. For guys is tougher because women judge far more on every aspect. As guys get older, his window is closing/narrowing. However, when women get older their sex drive lowers, their youthful looks fade and all she’s left with are her mistakes and missed opportunities of not capitalizing on a guy who liked her and showed her respect. But alas life has to be difficult because people have crazy high expectations and stupid fantasies.
Life is all about perspective. When you're 18 being 30 feels like the end of your life. Reality is life really doesn't get started till around 30. Because of social media more young people are convinced that their are 20 year old millionaires falling from the sky when in reality most men dont reach peak earnings until around 45.
I can say it’s a bit true, especially after the 25 y. o. for my personal experience every thing related to dating is over. At 25 your body starts the physical decline (obviously you are an adolescent so the body is healthy, but it stops growing and improving), the mind starts taking things slower and you got less time because of work.
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I know right? Many people believe that once you're 30 your life is over. It's not just your dating life is your life in general. I hate that!!!
I guess it's because we live in a world where youth is praised and maturity is underrated. Im married and in my 30s and i get WAY more attention from women than i ever did 10 years ago. I think men get more attractive with age whereas, for women, its harder to find a guy cuz the good ones all get taken. There are many beautiful 30+ women out there.
Problem is, their options are limited. They get either basement dwelling trolls who live off doritos chips and games; or divorced and bitter dads paying a lifetime of child support...Mostly because the biological clocks start to tick and things can get serious pretty quick. Majority want to settle down after 30, if you haven't kudos to you.
I personally don't go for age gaps, it causes many misunderstandings in my opinion. But you're very right — a lot of women dig older men. Good luck.There are women in their 30s who didn’t settle yet and men in their 30s who are divorced with kids. It’s usually men with more baggage in their 30s than women. Because men claim they were trapped in a relationship in their 20s and never left the toxic relationship. That it built up over time along with the children and exes. While women have higher standards and never settled for less and became career oriented.
Dating after 30 is supposedly harder, but I'm a firm believer that people just need to work on their personalities. Your looks go downhill from your 20s, apparently, but I've met a lot of hotties in their mid-30s.
Women especially, will trip over themselves to date someone with a genuinely magnetic personality. Just don't be a jerk and your age won't be an issue.Once people turn 30, it's very, very difficult, if not impossible to have conversations that are actually fun and don't feel like job interviews. I would argue it happens at 25 years ago, as people mature and just stop caring about having fun or making friends.
That's relieving. I mean I don't actively seeking to date, but if I had a chance I will give it a shot. I don't date older women. 25+ probably.
The thing is I prefer slightly mature women, but the pool is pretty shallow in that age group. People have just started to divorce their first marriage in that age group. Not many is available.
That's why it looks like there's no one to date.After the age of 30, appearance begins to matter less. If your way of dating was based on that you are left out. A good part of women have only appearance (given by nature) they do not make any investment that makes them pleasant outside the physical part and their possibilities become the same as those of males.
I don't know what I'm supposed to vote but a shocking amount of young people prefer older people. In my day it wasn't so much. But social media wasn't what it was and people were still somewhat normal with basic human decency.
Who is everyone? I just got remarried. We dated six years.
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