What are your thoughts on people who “date to Marry” ?

[Anonymous]

I’m asking this questions because I’ve never been a causal dating type of person. I don’t see the point in dating someone for a long while as causal because I feel like it’s wasted time (this is just me personally, I see why people do it though). So I have always dated to marry. What do you guys think about that? Of course it’s not so cookie cutter but I think you guys know what I mean.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with you. If you're not dating to marry, then why are you even out there dating? What's the point? What's your objective?

Now, on a personal level, when you're talking about dating a specific person... I need to be clear, so that certain people won't get the wrong idea:
Yes, the goal is marriage. No, you don't have to marry that person. No, it's not a failure if you break up and/or decide not to take things further. If they're not the right one, that's totally OK. Don't make it a big deal. (But that's a good reason not to have sex before marriage.)

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[JamesDiaz11]

I only take girls who act this way seriously- since they're the only ones who respect themselves, their bodies, and their times.

The idea that women in their early 20's have years to just waste "having fun/ living their best life" is a lie.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s completely fine. I’m not the type to date to marry but at the same time I value commitment so I stay away from casual dates. I guess it’s bc marriage is not currently a goal that I have in mind.

[Blackcosmo]

I am also someone who dates to marry so I understand where you're coming from. I think it's perfectly fine way to be.

[SteveSmith1985]

I also am someone who "dates to marry". I have always been that way. I think it's not at all a bad way to be. 🙂

[Whatever2929292]

It means you date people with the intentions of finding a life partner. You aren't just dating for sex. You aren't just dating for fun. etc.

That does not mean you will marry the first person I mean you still date to see who meets your standards and if you meet the other persons

[exitseven]

I dated a couple of girls I knew I would never marry. One was the polar opposite of all the other girls I ever dated. We dated for 5 months and it was a lot of fun. She was crazy and toxic but we had a lot of fun. Mostly I dated people that had similar interests to mine. I can understand it. It probably makes sense but sometimes you have to meet different people and try them on for size so you know what you don't want in a mate.

[Anonymous]

It's all the person's view. Example to you it's "wasted time" because you want/need that end "goal", but they don't see it as a waste. For a casual, it's a short term "goal" (or is no "goal") other than just enjoying each other's company at that time. That's what it's about.

[Avcfhcic]

I completely agree with everything you said.
I see no point on being with someone unless you intend it to go far, or at least hope it goes.
If you're dating for attention or money or sex, you don't deserve to date

[SimpleGuy95]

I think it´s kind of exciting because it seems special though I´m not sure if I´ ready to marry I support that way because I would like to do the same.

[JustinTheGreat]

I get that not everyone necessarily wants to get married but I don’t get why you’d be in a relationship with someone that you don’t plan on committing to

[fonduegirl]

Good for them. Unless they like to lecture on "true love" and how holy hookup culture messes up the whole deal.

[LazerBean]

That's what I did, and it worked. I don't see any other reason to date.

[humanearth]

I only dated to find a wife, I was not ment to be single. I love being married

[RuthlessAggression]

Technically you don't need to marry/date, at all. The whole point of life, is to reproduce, so that the human race continues on, until the sun, dies

[jahaims]

The only point of dating in my opinion. Even if it's not to marry and it is just to have a life long partner

[maximumpower]

BEWARE
someone who dates to marry does not have the partner's priorities in mind - just their own.
you needn't ask me how i know.

[motownplayer2000]

Do you. If you don’t do you… I’m focused on bettering my life, not judging someone else’s

[irisaudreylee]

If he’s down with putting a ring on it, there shouldn’t be a problem.

[Anonymous]

I feel that you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak and failure if you don't.

[Berethor]

You only 22, but it's a good choice.

[Anonymous]

now that im older relationships are fake

so it was a waste of time

women are retarded and getting themselves killed

[jengeorge26]

I like sissy boys cause I can always have my way

[htmndg183]

I prefer it this way.

[Guy13]

Good Plan…

[HaveNoName]

R E S P E C T !!!

[Passing_by]

Ideal