How do I not trauma bond but still explain why I am the way that I am?

[Anonymous]

Example. I’ve been dating this guy for a month. Have only kissed once. I am an affectionate person once I know someone isn’t going to abandon me. So basically I just felt the need to reveal that I’ve essentially been abused physically and sexually my entire life.. since he attempted to kiss me for a second time when we went to Walmart together and I was very against daytime public displays of affection. He shared some traumatic similarities but I don’t want to trauma bond… and that’s how it seems to be going at this point. I want to know him better without the trauma from our past being the reason we are bonding.. how though?

[JakeS00]

Maybe you still need to heal more. Or take things slow and let him know this and how you can feel sometimes.