Why do people do this?

[brandisimo96]

So my experience with asking out girls hasn't been the best. I've had a couple of girls say yes and we went on a date, but the others haven't been like that. With the exception of a few, every girl I have asked out has (1) ghosted me, or (2) told me yes to my face only to come back later and tell me they changed their mind over a text.

So my question is, why do girls do this to nice guys who actually have the courage to put themselves out there?

[Anonymous]

Some girls have a really hard time saying no, or maybe they want to initially but change their minds after some thought. Doesn’t make it right, but it’s a vicious cycle. A lot of times these women have had it done to them by men, so they adopt that same mentality in some ways.

[brandisimo96]

I can see that. It has honestly made me want to just forget about asking out girls entirely, so I can definitely understand this perspective.

[Opinion Owner]

Hey don’t let it get you down, I know optimism can sound bleak, but not everyone is going to be the same and disappoint you. Eventually you’ll meet the right person who will be right on the same page as you, but until then just focus on becoming the best version of yourself that you can be so you can bring that to the table once it’s time.

[LazerBean]

Probably they have confrontation issues and didn't want to say no in person.

[brandisimo96]

Yeah that's true in the case of the one girl. And she claimed she didn't want to hurt my feelings

[Blueeyes81]

Confrontation issues and or not wanting to SEE the hurt caused. Sometimes its because a guy is pushy and needy and it's easier to say yes than deal with him not taking no for an answer. It sucks to be on the receiving end of this. It gets your hopes up for nothing.

[Avicenna]

They're probably flaky people. You'll encounter this not infrequently, in part because they're talking to multiple guys so you're just a number to them.

[brandisimo96]

Oof, such a true statement

[Guy13]

It's the digital age. They simply want attention.

[brandisimo96]

Fair enough