Is it right or wrong for women to want our money?

Question

I get it. Its perfectly reasonable to not date an alcoholic and being under the threat of living under a bridge. Its also reasonable to be on the look out to have food at home and the bills being paid. But where do we draw the line between a woman being in it for love and a woman selling her love like a service in order to take advantage of us and the money especially if it was not agreed upon prior?

Stoner710 · Accepted Answer

Both Man of course should be taken care of the women they should be the financial centerpiece of the relationship is not necessarily correct I would hope this is the case but modern politics and society does not agree with this assessment. Women should be going for the guy that will take care of them the most I can’t really take care of one right now I can’t really take care of a child right now I can take care of myself and my dogs trust me that money that I spend on booze and weed would go to her and my child if I was married and getting a woman pregnant and spin a snece I need responsibility in my life I was only caring about myself and what I need I need very little other than an apartment some weed and dogs if I had a woman kids I don’t give a damn what I want sure I’ll buy a six pack of beer yeah that I’m more interested in her concerns and I child’s concerns that I am my own mean a drastic change in lifestyle bad my responsibility is to her and my child set an a kiss I have responsibility for myself so why should I care. I sustained me my dogs and what I am only to do to live

CallmeTheKnight · Accepted Answer

Its wrong to want someone's money or to want someone because of their money.

It's ok to want someone to be financially responsible, but if you gotta have money to get involved with a particular woman... she's a bum, leave her for the drug dealer or scammer that she got her eyes on.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As a woman and knowing other women, I do think women are attracted to men with money. I’m not an exception. Generally when I meet a guy thought, his job or financials is the last thing I ask about. What I care about first is having a good connection with the guy and physical attraction, if he has money it’s a plus, if not… then that’s fine. Finding a good emotional connection is more important because sometimes is not easy to find it even with a guy that has the money or the looks. To women, money is the equivalent to the future survival of her offsprings, to some it signifies power, to others is self commodity. To me it means that if I start a family with the guy, my kids won’t perish.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

As a woman I want to say that this is very wrong. Women should be encouraged from a young age to work for what they want in life instead of depending on others. I remember being a kid and a teenager and my mom would say things like " you should marry a rich men because you love expensive things" thank God I didn't take this too seriously and managed to do great in life find a successful career and provide anything I want to myself.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I’m not a man but I don’t mind giving people things they need and things they will give me back, like I might get my friends free food but I know they will also try to give me free food and I don’t mind helping somebody if they require it, but I get annoyed if a guy asks me for a cappuccino because if he is not spending his own money, he should ask for a black coffee. I don’t mind getting rice for a hungry person but if they ask for lobster tail dinners, I will be annoyed.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I think so. I know some women told me they married the man because he has a good job but he is not good looking.
I don’t know what to say… makes me wonder if she truly loves him or just for security. I also heard lots of women who don’t want to work.
I have never feel good taking money that don’t belong to me.
I don’t get child support or alimony even thought my ex husband makes double than me and the one who decided to leave the marriage.
I hold some of my moms retired money, she told me I can use it. I never did. In fact, it’s in CD under my name. So I have to pay tax for her and give her the interest the money incurred. As for my dads money, it’s there when the time he leaves us… money is set aside for his funeral. Any extra will be divided to give to all his 8 grand kids. So no I only believe the money I earn belong to me and spend it as I like and enjoy it as I deserve.

Screenwriter · Answer

No one should want money that is not theirs. WOmen aren't children and therefore should not be supported for just "being." Unless a woman is doing valuable work in a relationship, and when I say "work" I mean taking care of a home, finances, children, doing family planning for events, vacations etc... she is not contributing. Those are valuable services that would cost plenty if a man had to pay someone to do them.

And the fact that she's doing it with love for her partner is also wonderfully valuable. In fact, a price CANNOT be put on it.

But a woman who sits on her ass and wants to be "queened" for no other reason than she's sitting on a fine butt, face or body leaves me cold. Also smacks of being lazy. This is just new-fangled prostitution.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It’s 2020 and women have all of the same opportunities to earn their money the way most men do. IF they choose not to, the consequences of their choices are theirs to bear. It’s no man’s responsibility to provide for a woman who offers him nothing in return. Unless of course you were dumb enough to marry her and let the system have a say. Also, a “sale” is a mutually agreed upon transaction. If a woman is selling anything of herself, she’s not taking advantage of her customers. In my estimation, prostitution is the only honest interaction between men and women. Everyone knows what they want, and everyone knows what they’re gonna get. I’ll take that over the dating GAMES every day of the year and twice on my birthday. Ell oh ell!

SimpleGuy95 · Answer

I think it depends on your relationship. Because it´s different if you´re in a relationship or married and it also depends if she is working or not.
Because many guys want a stay at home wife and in such a case I find it´s reasonable that a woman wants a guy that has a good position because depending on the number of children meals or the kids can be very expensive.
On the other hand if it´s just a committed relationship and she takes as an excuse to slow down her life not going to work and completely dependend on you.
I think it´s wrong.

Slartybartfast · Answer

It is what it is.. in fact it's probably the number one reason men compete at work and work dangerous jobs that they hate.

Women's desire and judgement of men by income is a very real social pressure , strong enough to change how most men live their entire life. From the career they choose to the overtime they work and the jobs that they stay at that kill them slowly or quickly.

Men make more for the same reason women wear makeup. To be attractive to the opposite sex. It's not really a "choice" it's what we must do until things change.

hahahmm · Answer

According to feminists it's not wrong if she literally robs him of $500k cash but if he politely asked her for $5 to give to charity he could probably get arrested when she tells the cops that he "is a man I feel harassed by". Anyhow, I don't have a problem with women wanting/getting money. I have a problem with women being disloyal yet expecting a man to give them everything men gave women in traditional serious & loyal relationships. It's like with each passing year women expect more for less & it started getting really ridiculous 15-20 years ago but it took time for more guys to realize how silly things had gotten.

RavVid · Answer

It is easy to say it is wrong and if that is all the woman is after it will not end well.

But with guys and gals nothing is that simple.

The girl might be traditional and so might the guy. Together they think that her being a full time mom home keeper is best which in turn implies the guy needs to earn enough to support the family without her doing a paid job.

I rate it so so as it could be reasonable or it could be wrong in different circumstances with no categorical answer

Anonymous · Answer

I won't say women are attracted to money. Money has an influence on all. The bible even says the LOVE of money is the root of all sorts of bad things.
But we do need to feel secure. And women do want a man they can feel secure with. I have met some amazing thrifty women who are super heroic in their ability to save money. Its insane some of the alternatives I have seen. My mom was one of those. Her resourcefulness rubbed off on me.

But also men do not want a wasteful woman. Even in the "high maintenance" women I see they love to "save money" It just happens to be more spendy then savey

Red-Blaze · Answer

If you had the option will you take it?

If the man is ok with it, I guess that is fine as long as it comes up front and not someone truly cheating the outher side to roll in the cash

So as long as its honest I think its fine if its not then not

But no relation to woman or man, can be both sides (Not only rich boys out there :) )

TransAm85 · Answer

I think it's wrong how women leech off a guy and expect them to pay for everything. Sure, I understand kids can be hard to take care of, but that doesn't mean u can't do something else? Kids can start school at 3. I couldn't be a housewife I guess. I think a woman has to do her part also.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

It think most of us are more attracted to the idea of someone having it together, that usually means they have disposable income. Having that is desirable because it means you can actually do shit together, go places, not have to worry about what a night out would cost.
It's nice not struggling.

CA4444 · Answer

I know some men are nice and want to provide and it’s really nice but you don’t want to be taken advantage of… how can you justify this behavior… do you think there can be love & respect when there is taking advantage and stealing?
the guy can be poor or rich af it doesn’t make a difference, you walk and work together through life as a team and each is likely to have different roles

ZackBan · Answer

I belive right and wrong are irrelevant here.

Women don't force men's wallets open and take the money, it's men with money who use it to tempt women.

If you were offered money for nothing you too would take it.

And we all want what we know others are just getting.

All this to say that you can't look at this as simply women wanting money.

Zeus_66 · Answer

I thought this is what "girl power" was all about. Like mother, like daughter. Gold diggers.

Go get a job and be independent. Isn't that what femknazis want? More power? More control? More ability to oppress men. If so, why would they need our money?

dreamstar72 · Answer

Well is it right or wrong for men to want money?
Well basically everyone wants money. Maybe not an obsession to money but we still have an attachment to money.
The question you should be asking yourself is if you lost all your money today would she still want you.
If yes then the money is spent wisely
If no then you are being screwed

Kittykay_45 · Answer

I believe that people should t lie about what their interested in. If you like money find someone who doesn’t mind that you like money and can provide it. If you deny what you really want your just going to end up in a relationship you rent because you didn’t want to look some type of way to society. There are plenty of people out there who’s ideals and interest will line up and make them happy. Even if it’s the common love of money.

loveslongnails · Answer

If I want sex in exchange for money or gifts, I'll get a sugar baby or hire a call girl. If I'm dating someone and I can't tell if she's into me or not, that's my fault. It's also why I never let a girl know how much money I make for a long, long time. In fact, I make it sound like I'm in debt and struggling sometimes, just to test her.

CasaNorba · Answer

is totally wrong. but unfortunately women wanting man for his money has become a social norm of today.

oh and beware of women who try justifying their gold digging urges by saying things like "I only want him to support his family" and other nonsense

annabananna · Answer

I think everyone probably has their own set of standards in what they want in a partner. Some women want a man to make at least 40k and others 200k. A certain price can seem excessive and be viewed as shallow but if we are all honest with ourselves we all have something that we desire in a partner that is shallow. As long as that’s not the ONLY thing and they do genuinely like the person and are good to them than who am I to judge if they also like that they have money?

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

I chose so~so, and the reason is I don’t believe the desire for women is wrong. But I all depends how the women intends to get money if she’s striving for herself to get what she wants such as investing, saving, and living within her budget for the end goal of being finically secure.
And if she finds a partner with money that’s fine, as she should she’s looking after her own finical means 1st

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I’d say the line is different from person to person.

For instance, my lines I stand in lead to burrito joints, Red Lobster, Sam’s Club and Costco, but I’m not so snobbish I won’t hit up Walmart. Have a diesel truck and seriously considering an electric car because electricity ain’t going anywhere. Central air, running water, energy efficient home, I built my own computer, been to college. These are a few of my lines and hopefully I find a girl who’d like to intersect with mine.

Texaskid1 · Answer

It is a women's nature to value a man's status. Money = ability to provide resources such as food, water, shelter etc. It is all evolutionary biology and it is beyond our control. As women value a man' s resources a man values a woman's youth and beauty since it is an indication of her ability to provide healthy offspring and thus ensure the continuity of the man's genes. I have seen many young women with older guys $$$$. Again , evolutionary biology.

Anonymous · Answer

I think women tend to get a bad rep in society as being gold diggers when it’s not true for the vast majority of women. Of course, there are some who actually are gold diggers.

What men and women value in each other is different. Men tend to want a woman who is nurturing, a homemaker, and will be good at raising their kids.

They don’t necessarily care if she can financially provide. But what women tend to value in men is his ability to provide and protect.

Babygirl_S · Answer

It is very wrong to want a man ONLY because of his money. Nothing evil about wanting someone with a good income especially if the woman herself is financially stable. Personally I don't want someone poorer than me. I don't want to wear the trousers in a relationship.

LazerBean · Answer

I would not marry someone who could not/would not provide for his family. But a girlfriend is not entitled to a boyfriends money.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Is it right for women to date "for money?" Hell to the power of NO! There is a term for sexual acts in exchange for goods or money. It's called Prostitution.

CubsterShura · Answer

Dude I'm pretty sure nobody wants your money. Wake up.

Kaamraj · Answer

There's nothing wrong for a woman to ask for resources provisioning from her partner, and likewise there's nothing wrong in the man from demanding exclusive sex and a certain beauty standard as per her preferences.

Badgirltings · Answer

I want to have my own money be financially stable ASF, do whatever i want buy whatever I want. But I want a man who matches my energy who has his own money and not worried about shit

Wild_princess · Answer

As the great Marilyn Monroe said"Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?"

Hope it helps😉

EarthRealm · Answer

You gotta work for your money get a Job at a Manual Labor business 👨‍💼 or something.
Can’t be Using people for there money you were born into this world alone so you Would have the opportunity to Work and survive and thrive

KelleyNice · Answer

Outside of basic necessaries, men don't need their money so of course they want to spend it on us and we will do the guy a favor and accept his money.

JakeS00 · Answer

I wouldn't be with someone like this. They would need to at least be able to provide and not be dependent only on me. I'm not a client I'm her husband/boyfriend.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Not sure really what you’re asking but if you willingly and consensually involve yourself with someone, you can’t blame them for it. Like it takes two to tango. Perhaps check a look at your taste in women and take some accountability there

jshm2 · Answer

Eh... nothing in life comes without some money.  That some people make it a modus operandi is rather sad.

shaysh87 · Answer

majority of women would pick love over money. but gold diggers will always exist.

Emily_925 · Answer

I think that most girls are not gold diggers and u can usually tell if they are

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Back in the day (you kids wouldn't remember) a man was expected to support his wife. Women gave that up in return for getting the vote. Doesn't seem like a great bargain since they vote the way their husband tells them to anyway.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

I don't think it's wrong for them to love money. We all want what we want. But here is the thing... The ones that do are a very small fraction of women. So who cares?

Becky316 · Answer

I don't want hubby's money, I have my own! I want his cock.

Anonymous · Answer

we have our own money. i think it's sexist to always assume that men have all of it and that's why women date men

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Make your own damn money. But shit some men do this too.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

seems a fair trade. or it can be. i would gladly pay for everythimg (that we can afford) for a traditional wife. Hell, im paying for everything now and get nothing in return.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Is it right or wrong for mosquitos to want our blood? Morality (defining something as right or wrong) doesn't apply when something is doing what it exists to do. Women are parasites. Its just their nature.

Avicenna · Answer

You want a partner that you can build something together with. No one wants to be exploited.

dolemite89 · Answer

i think it’s just instinct for women to like men that make a good living but there’s a fine line between that and gold digging tho. If you’re smart, you can usually use women’s hypergamy against them. 🤷‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's right if y'all want to have kids together. She won't be able to work and you have to have enough money to support all of you

es20490446e · Answer

Why would someone want money so bad to put that above anything else? I would say only a superfluous entitled human wants that.

McKellar · Answer

If women are just primarily focused on getting the guy's money and not getting him as a romantic lover,... then I would say "Yeah, something is wrong with that".

Freyke · Answer

My hard earned money, to expect it's hers? Very wrong.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Wrong. They won't get my hard earned money. I'll find a hard working woman to be with me instead.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Women can't complain about equal pay when they want men to pay for dates.

Adronicus · Answer

Traditionally I don't think it was wrong however now that we're equal I do believe it's wrong.

Hanrej · Answer

I don't think it's wrong per se. It's just that if she's ONLY in it for the money, once she's made you broke... That's all you are.

Pete671 · Answer

so -so, if all the cards on the table between both parties why not?

Anonymous · Answer

Unless they are married, there is no reason why a grown women should feel entitled to a man's money. An adult women should be capable of taking care of herself.

saarisrael · Answer

anyone should want the person, not the money. anyone wants money, but its uncountable more important to want the person

Anonymous · Answer

Dude--it's natural. Just deal with it. Do you want to be told YOU need to value smoking hot 9s and 10s the same as you value 6s? No? Then let this go.

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