I keep annoying my boyfriend but I don’t know how to stop, help?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together for 3 years. Lately we are fighting more and I hate fighting so much. I keep unintentionally annoying him. He says I’m clueless and don’t understand anything, I’ve told him I’m trying my best to not be that way. It’s stressing me out because sometimes I don’t even realise I’m saying something wrong or doing something that’s going to annoy him and it does. He says if it keeps happening we will break up but that’s the last thing I want. I’m so anxious about what I say or if I don’t understand something cos I don’t want to cause more fights. I don’t know what to do

[Gent207]

Ask him what do you do specifically that annoys him?

[Asker]

He has told me that I’m clueless all the time and it angers him, I’m not sure he didn’t give examples but I seem to annoy him without realising it and I’m scared I’m gonna keep doing it because I don’t realise so I’m stuck.

[Asker]

He doesn’t tell me how cos he says I should get it, but sometimes I really don’t and I keep messing up by mistake.

[Gent207]

Wow thats not fair
Use this formula to talk to him:
"I feel unloved when you do not tell me what I do that annoys you."
In the Formula you use a specific feeling attached to or caused by a specific behavior.
You should not be made to walk on eggshells around him

[Anonymous]

It would help to think before you speak.

[Asker]

I do try too but a lot of the time I don’t realise it’s going to annoy him