I dont want to see my boyfriend... it’s not a good sign is it?

[Anonymous]

I feel upset and annoyed at my boyfriend, we’ve dated for over one year now and talked about issues like he thinks I’m greedy for wanting to spend too much time with him, he’s very into family (traditional), he is also a bit disrespectful when it comes to bedroom stuff like he knows I don’t want to do oral etc and he keeps trying to get me to even though I’ve said I don’t like it.
We love each other, but my gut feeling is that I’m not happy, and I feel unwell because of it. We did have a break for a few weeks but I was so upset we got back together, but even my Mom and brother say I can do better.
We have lots in common but I don’t even want to see him now, we were meant to go out and I just don’t want to even be around him... should we end it for good?
He got me a ring for our anniversary, and we talk about the future, he is loving and caring but there’s stuff that just grosses me out, like physically I don’t think I’m into him like I was... any help?

[Aysen]

It's normal for there to be undesirable qualities/traits that your lover may have but you have to ask yourself this: Am I happier with him now than I was before dating him? Can I imagine myself spending the rest of my life with him? If you said no to both of these, it may be time to reconsider your thoughts about the relationship.

You've already mentioned how you felt unhappy about being with him at the moment and are having second guesses to your overall happiness with him. If you're unsure about the situation, give it more time and see if you feel the same, if you catch feelings for him again or if it gets worse. Otherwise, it may be best to break it off with him so you don't continue to build resentment towards him. Love can be complicating and if there's anything I've learned, it's to always trust your gut.

[Highcountry]

This is the advice I would give my daughter: If you aren’t completely happy with him now, it will only get worse when you are married. I would wait until you are sure. Maybe you need to look at other men? Marriage to somebody you don’t like is like being in hell. Been there and done that, please take care of yourself.