A woman I work with asked me out. I’m not exactly into women but I’m not really into dating in general anyhow-so I’m considering it - is that wrong?

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Is it wrong to accept since I’m not exactly bisexual or is it ok as I’m not exactly anything in particular at this point as far as all that goes. It’s not that I’m never attracted to people I just don’t really have the ability to envision anything coming of it esp sexually. I mean I guess I do not see the harm in hanging out but should I tell her it’s prob not going to go anywhere or just I wave it open. I’m semi attracted to her which is about as attracted as I’ve ever been to any guy I was attracted to but she’s kinda boyishly cute so maybe that’s why why h is why I’m not sure if it’s ok to say yes?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Your hilarious, your not "exactly" bi- sexual. Should you tell her its not going anywhere, your only "semi" attracted to her. I was only semi attracted to half women I every went out with, until I got a good sense of the type of person there and personality. I love a women with a good personality it cranks up the sexy.

I mean what is you want hear, because you sound like you're half interested but trying convince yourself your not, but maybe you are?

I think you got to go and figure this thing out. Have fun, and try to have an open mind. Let me know if girls expect other girls to put out on the first date.

humanearth · Accepted Answer

Try a day and see how is goes. During that time your two are spending time together. Tell them everything you said her.

The main thing is be upfront and honest with her and yourself.

Basically, you nailed all your concerns in this question details. Now the hard part, relaying the same message to her.

Minxxie · Accepted Answer

It's fine to try a first date and see where it goes!
Beyond that, if you aren't into her at that point don't lead her on.

You seem a bit intrigued by her too so there is nothing wrong with giving it a go! I really doubt she will be expecting anything from you other than having a fun date.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

It won't hurt to go out on a date. Just tell her that you have never done it before and will just try it as friends, then you can decide if it is something that intrigues you, or not :)

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

It's fine to accept and go on a date, but be honest with her. Tell her you're not entirely sure if you're into girls, but you want to experiment and try and you're happy to do so with her (make sure to be specific about why you're intetested in her - it shows you're not just doing this for lulz, you're actually interested in her, too).

It's okay as long as you're as honest as you can be.

The thing is, she may not like that. She might only be looking for women to date who know they're into women.

So be honest, but recognize it might not work out in your favour (or maybe it does, it's hard to say).

But definitely please try it out. I wish I had been as open and as brave as you are when I was much younger. I would have learned I was bisexual much earlier and I'd have had at least two girlfriends. Unfortunately, I let my own issues stand in my way for much too long.

Go for it, have fun, be honest, and learn about yourself as you enjoy the date. :)

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's totally okay to go out with her! Just be honest up front so that there is no misunderstanding down the line and she doesn't feel hurt because she thinks that you were leading her on, if you decide not to "date" her.
(Gay people have feelings, too!)

loveslongnails · Answer

Just go out with her. It's pretty clear you want to, and you may find yourself GETTING more attracted to her. If you do, great. If you don't, you deal with it later. Just let her know you're not doing this for a hook up. Maybe something will develop, maybe not, but she shouldn't have any sexual expectations up front.

Hannahm67 · Answer

I am straight but I had a cute girl ask me out and decided that I had nothing to lose. It was an awesome night I got super dressed up in a sexy gown and she took me to a high-end restaurant. After she convinced me to let her show me how she could pleasure women she was very good. Overall, I am still into guys but I had a fun night.

Guardian45 · Answer

Since you DON'T seem totally disgusted, but a little intrigued by her overtures, then I would say go for it. You're NOT committing to a marriage. Just be openminded, have fun and explore. Maybe you like her; maybe you don't; but above all else be honest with her.

weysally · Answer

I can't answer this one, not enough info, I could be looking at it wrong, maybe just a girls night out, I have ask a girl out, no sex involved, just friendly,

Nattybrown · Answer

If you think you are not anything then she just prove you wrong that you are everything. go with a good heart and dont direct the fact that she ask you out, if possible pay for the bills and you guys should have fun, remember you are the man so look at it as if you are the one taking her out if not the date will we boring

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

The fact that you asked the question tell us that you are ready to give it a try so go ahead but also be clear with her that you are somewhat attracted to her but aren't sure if she's ok to get go then you can at least hangout and try

LeeannaDD · Answer

You should definitely, in my opinion at least, say "hey I'm not necessarily into girls, but, this sounds interesting...

Delikatess · Answer

One date won't hurt anyone. If you are lucky you'll have a fun night, if you are even more lucky you'll have an even better night and perhaps something more in the long run.

I'm mostly in to guys but I've had a few shots with girls. One were a colleague as well, she asked me out after an after work with the company.
We had some drinks the week after and ended up in bed. Nothing more happened after that but both of us had a great experience.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't think this is a good idea at all...

but that depends on the implied expectations, if any...

if she has expectations she might get attached and not react well if you do not reciprocate... because might feel like you were just leading her on

Babygirl_S · Answer

I don't think it's a good idea if you're not into women. I have been praised by lesbians but I made it clear that I'm into men. Why waste each other's time?

KatherineJ · Answer

As long as you make it clear that you aren’t interested in anything with anyone right now, it should be fine.

stargazeraug1989 · Answer

Why are you over complicating whether or not you like someone? You're either into the idea of being with them or not. That's something that people usually just know.

RedThread · Answer

As long as she knows what your intentions are and can make the decision to go through with it herself then it's okay. There's a chance you don't swing that way and that could cause some hurt feelings. I don't think anybody likes to feel like an experiment so that's why being open to her is really important upfront.

Wonderlove · Answer

There is NOTHING wrong with going out and having a bit of fun. It may go absolutely no where, but you won't know how much you might connect or enjoy each others company if you never go.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It’s ok just go have fun and see how you like each other

Iron_Man · Answer

This is horrible I thought you were straight don't you ever do something like that

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong with it if it makes you happy.   But I think you need to ask yourself "why" you're considering it, if as you say "you're not exactly into women".

Jerre · Answer

I voted A. Go ahead and go out with her. She could just be looking for a friend. You can always say no if it goes beyond your expectations.

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