Do men with good manners still exist?

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Whatever2929292 · Accepted Answer

If you're too lazy to open a car door... I don't mind holding the door. But I can't stand one sided women. Many women who want a traditional man don't want to be a traditional woman... There is a give and take.

I will be nice to a woman like that who appreciates me but also isn't offended either. I want a woman who is appreciative and not either one extremes of being entitled or the other of offended.

I don't think that women are special and neither do I men...

Many of these women also want their man to clean, cook, do the dishes, laundary, give her a foot rub, and the list goes on and on and on... The honey do list while wanting to be a housewife...

But so many men give into these one sided relationships where he must bend over backwards and she gives nothing in return.

Now not all women are like that in fact I would argue and say most aren't unless you're going to clubs and stuff like that to meet women.

I have manners yea... But unless you are my significant other or a family member or a friend... I am not treating you better then anyone else because you happen to be born a woman.

I don't do one sided. I know I am going to step on some toes with this question both on the liberal and conservative side of things... Sorry...

If there is a give and take then great! But

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's funny, I see men hold doors open for others, including women all the time, and I do the same. But I've found it very uncommon for women to do it. I work in a building where I see the same people every day. If I go through the front door and someone else is coming up behind me, I'll wait and continue holding the door until they get there. There are several women who work there who I have held the door for many times, but they rarely do the same for me. Just yesterday I was walking through the parking lot behind one of them who was maybe five seconds ahead of me. She got to the top of the stairs, opened the door, looked back at me, walked through the door and just let it go. It literally shut in my face as I got to the top of the stairs.

Do men with good manners still exist? Obviously they do. The question is where the women with good manners have gone.

But the core issue here is not really manners, it's chivalry, which is essentially men treating women like they are special. And sorry ladies, but you have lost the right to be treated as special. Chivalry is dead and you yourself killed it.

EllaNella · Accepted Answer

ngl women who whine about not getting those performative acts of chivalry instead of focusing on meeting a man who actually treats them with respect are just as moronic and cringy as those incels who claim all women are inherently bad people.

opening doors isn't a sign of a good character. it's purely performative. if you want a man to treat you right, find a man who treats you as an equal, not like a damsel in distress.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Do 'people" with good manners still exist?
Why is it only men expected to have good manners while nothing is said of women who don't have good manners?
Or men the only ones expected to open doors for women?
I'm a woman, and I'll open the door for anyone, old, young, man or woman...
There's still some people with good manners,..

Iwant2kno · Answer

Yes there are good men out there with good manners. Unfortunately though, there are guys who are jerks, but try to not judge every guy just because one dude is disrespectful. Everyone has different values and personalities, eventually you will see the good in some guys too

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Of course we still exist. Your question is why can't you find one of those guys!

Pinay_ako · Answer

Either the car is new or the girl is new 🤣

Sonorous · Answer

Yes. Many men simply probably disagree with how others define "having good manners."

For instance, I recently got into a heated discussion with someone who called me disrespectful just because I wasn't kissing their ass when I came to them with a complaint. In their mind, I lacked manners. But in reality, I didn't. Else I wouldn't have been actively trying to avoid irrational extremes by attempting a compromise. The same extremes they were trying to bring things to!

But I really am built differently. It's hard being this reasonable in a sea of unreasonable. My standards appear too difficult for mere mortals to reach. Why did the Gods have to curse me with such excellence! Why must my mind be this... amazing... 😭

TonyV · Answer

I thought women wanted to be treated like equals?

Do you want us to pamper you, treat you like a special princess, to be your night in shinning armor every time a pickle jar, store door, or car needs opened? To treat you like a helpless thing that always needs to be helped or protected?

Or

Do you want us to treat you as an equal person who just happens to have different genitals?

Chivalry and equal treatment are different things that directly appose each other, you have to pick one, you can't have both. Treating you special is obviously not treating you equally l.

Dontaaaa · Answer

I have good manners, I'll hold the door open for people if I know they're behind me and stuff, say "excuse me" when I need to move past someone in a store and etc... but I've always found the act of opening a girls car door for her to be a bit excessive.

Unless she has her hands full and can't open the door herself of course.

Other than that, I'm not going to walk all the way around and open the car door for you, I do romantic things when I'm in a relationship, but that's not one of them.

I kind

hafinjun · Answer

Sure,😬 I see those Sissy's everywhere, opening doors for women, pulling the chairs out in the restaurant. Throwing the coats across the puddles with the lady can cross the road without getting your feet wet oh this the benefit of even a dog collar around the neck I don't get it tell me how to spank them I'm kidding yes I do all that for women I've had him get mad at me for doing it I had one woman that deliberately step sideways so she can open her own door coming out of an apartment store but I keep on my head held high thank you man

APrettyLittleLady87 · Answer

My grandmother, who had 8 girls (poor grandpa, he & 1 boy), had some basic advice.

Men will always have manners for ladies but they will never put effort into a trollop.

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Essentially if you are a decent or respectable woman then men will have manners. If you are a trollop - indecent, unrespectable, etc. - then why would they waste their time.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes to my girl I’m a gentleman. To others I could give a fuck lol I used to be that way being raised like that but after all the shit women do, manipulate, want equality but only certain parts of it I said hell no. Not not more. You want equality open your own door, get your own food. I think a lot of men aren’t doing it as much because of their experiences. Getting shit from someone who gets mad cause you open the door for her cause in her mind your undermining her as a woman. So no I’m done w that. These women complain at the hospital they want equal pay. But when it comes to lifting a patient or moving something heavy who do they call? Me, one of two men who works our unit at night but gets asked more of. So no everyone can do for their self so long as I take care of my girl

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Blackcosmo · Answer

Damn the guy just roasted that girl! Um of course there are still great guys out there. But you shouldn't want them doing the simplest tasks for you. Yeah of course a guy holding or opening doors for you is polite, but if you expect it then it just means you're entitled.

SaartjieJane · Answer

They do exist, it’s just sad I can’t find one like that.
I want to experience having a man open a door for me… pick me up for a date and bring flowers… come knock on my door… drop me off at home and watch me go inside before leaving… or if I drive myself, he tests to make sure I’m home safe…
I want a man like this😭 just so so so damn hard to find

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes but not of everyone of us shows such to every person hence it could a guy´s love language.
Therefore to avoid any wrong feelings some guys might not show it too any woman they meet. Others might have stopped it because they feel like they acknowledged for it hence people took it for granted and didn´t show gratitude over it.
That´s why you might be still looking for one.

Oigit · Answer

I don't open doors for women. Because it seems like there is a ever increasing chance that the woman I opened the door for you would launch into a tirade about how she does not need a man to open the door for her and how she is a strong and independent woman. Also if I said I was just trying to be nice by opening the door, I'd probably catch a mansplaining guilt trip too.

Bob92220 · Answer

My Mother taught me to always open the doors for women. When I'm initially dating I open the car door for her. However, after we've been dating for a while it's okay not to always open the car door for her. But always open all the other doors for her.

fonduegirl · Answer

In order to get a guy to open car doors for you, you need to be handicap or something.

But if you're asking if guys put efforts into developing communication skills instead of asking what sex position women prefer the most, then yeah — spot on.

Jaguarsxr051 · Answer

Yes they're probably computer engineers and successful men but probably they're below 6 feet tall like 5.3 feet and they're nice too with normal human body no six pack but unfortunately Modern woman can't admit they want the bad boy drama from 16-35 then from there they want the good man it's too late. Good men exist probably in every girl dm but they want the top tier guy while she's far from perfect. The dating game probably died woman killed it

JSmuve · Answer

Opening the door for someone else is only good manners if they can't do it themselves. If she can do it herself, I expect her to. If she expects me to do it, then she's just lazy and it begs the question of what else can she can do but just doesn't want to.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

To all men saying here that you don't do that anymore because this, or only do it when the girl in question does that...
You either are a gentleman or you are not. There is no "sometimes this and sometimes that." No. Act like a gentleman always regardless of your intentions AND regardless if the girl in question like it or not.

CallMeLes · Answer

Do you really need him to? Like if we're going to McDonalds, dude chill. Going to a wedding in a nice dress? Yeah, why not! Let's have fun.

peedy · Answer

Yes we are the ones that you women look right at and never see we live alone in a big house and people call us weirdo cuz we have to many cats we let our dogs sit in the front seat of our new truck we finish last but your already off with the next asshole abuser that convinced you that im a loser

jasco · Answer

Of course we do, but as we grow older we realize why bother? Being respectful of course is something we should always be but since you posted that photo I feel your saying that do men who do stuff for women like holding doors and stuff still exist? I don't know

Shamalien · Answer

For the right lady I’d do it all. Most women will take this kind of behaviour as an opportunity to walk all over you though. Worse yet, they’ll see it as you admitting you are below them and look elsewhere for a man who treats them worse, indicating that he is above her, and she loves to try and change him

ohsheeT · Answer

One of the cool things about life we get to choose who we want to be by the things we say and do look at all the people on here look how many people choose to be good for how many people choose to be assholes

Secrets1031 · Answer

YES ! This sounds so cliche but you've got to be more open, and give others the chance. I am so fortunate to have found a great man that opens not just the door before I walk in but all doors, he isn't someone that would have struck me in passing, but we met bc of a mutual friend, however he is far greater than any man I could have dreamed up for myself ! He is truly a good man, had some baggage, but he is good to me.. amazing to me actually!

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Should we not? Its a sign of respect, but if you girls do not even want that, then cool!

It in no way indicates that we are dominant or you are dependent on us. It is just a plain sign of acknowledgement and respect.

Keepitanomonous · Answer

You can't be strong an independant but at the same time not be able to open doors. Opening doors is a thing we choose to do. Not a thing expected of us. If ur taking equal rights u should also take equal responsibility.

idk87334F · Answer

I think they do, but they are a bit difficult to find compared to the ones who don't have good manners.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Yeah of course! And that's just a meme, why are you taking it seriously? It's not important to open door for random women they don't even know.

Tyrific1 · Answer

Yes we do, my girlfriend knows not to touch doors any and everywhere we visit! She will stand at the door if she gets to it before I do. Also, I’ve had a conversation with my daughter and have told her if a guy doesn’t open the door, you don’t get in the car or walk into an establishment.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I don’t consider opening a door for me as good manners… lol. I’m an adult and opening a door ain’t that difficult so I can do it myself..

Anonymous · Answer

Of course there are, The reason why don't see it much is because most Girls do not appreciate it that much and because us Guys would usually get ignored if we did do it for a Girl and you Girls are more Attracted to the Confident jerk instead of Nice Shy Guy.

BeMuse · Answer

It depends on how you treat them. A lot of people have manners, but they don't pull them out for everyone.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Men rise to the level of the standards women set. No standards no rising. The key to success here is to have standards and not settle.

slatyb · Answer

Of course. All my friends have good manners. Sounds like you are looking for love in all the wrong places.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

My husband is an absolute gentleman. Yes they do still exist

Minxxie · Answer

For like 6 months then they switch up once you've committed.

Waldoe · Answer

Rarely do men have the opportunity to open a door for a Lady, there are very few left... Women always push their way to the front of the line... The "Me 1st" attitude has made 99% of them very unappealing.

genericname85 · Answer

No. They're called sexists these days. So i guess it goes both ways. If women remember how to behave again, then men can turn back to how they were.

Gent207 · Answer

Yes we exist Why you haven't found one of us yet is a bigger mystery

loveslongnails · Answer

Yes Ma'am, despite the fact that young guys think being courteous makes you a "simp", we do exist.

notwoke · Answer

I'm afraid to open a door for a female anymore, she might get some kind of woke offended. It's just too much of a hassle in the current culture. this honestly bothers me

DrewJay · Answer

Yes  There are still mean who open doors and pull out chairs.

sheikalana · Answer

There's still a lot of men with good manner but there's also a few that are completely clueless.

AviatorTom · Answer

We're still here, you sometimes have to look to find us.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Well you women scare good men away with your feminism/woke self entitlement and advantage taking

driven159 · Answer

I can only answer for myself and yes is the answer if it's not raining if it is raining its faster for each person to open their door and get less wet, I am old school so that explains everything

HaveNoName · Answer

Hahaha. Didn't Tesla and all these smart doors kill it?

Kabluie · Answer

I still do, people gotten lazy since the remote door unlock days.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes for feminine virgin ladies. Hos feminists divorcee single moms no thanks.

jammcm · Answer

Yes we do, sorry I am already taken. I open doors, help with your chair, walk on the road side of you. Hope you find that special person.

xJayleenx · Answer

Yes my bf’s dad does it lol my boyfriend has done it but inly a few times but it’s okay because he proves himself in other ways

RuthlessAggression · Answer

I did that for a girl "friend", she told me i didn't have to, so i stopped. Whether she meant it or not, i dk, but, i never did it again

Anonymous · Answer

I open car doors for women who dress and act like ladies.
I don’t open doors for entitled, slutty, attention whore, bitch types who believe they should be treated special just for existing but do nothing to act like proper women.

Valso · Answer

It's not a good idea to drive your car with an open door. Sure, the breeze is nice but it's not safe.

jengeorge26 · Answer

No they don’t unless you tell them that they should open the door.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes they exist. In real life I have come across many such men. Online not so much.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Well i don't own a car neither i work at parking lot 😝

Fuentes · Answer

No ME personally I will not open ur car door, get in yourself. I'm not the shofur that's getting paid to open doors lol

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