You answered your own question with that last bit.
i would avoid going on any date where it feels weird.
with someone older, I would say it’s about knowing the person a bit more first before you consider dating.
Working out if you are remotely compatible beyond simply looks is really what it is about.
if you fancy just a casual meet up and sex, different matter, however would still think about safety.
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It’s all you we can't tell what to do. Maybe you’re getting over someone else and this guy is making you feel good in the moment. Women and girls tend to live for the moment not the future so I’m not sure how serious you want to get with him. I’m a guy in my early 30s, I don’t know if I can be with a girl who’s 22. It’s just that she still has so much of the world to see, to find herself, to do stuff with her friends…Although friends do move on themselves and people drift apart eventually whether its former classmates, former colleagues and even family (ie: siblings, cousins, nieces/ nephews, etc.). It’s not my place to tell you what to do. But if you genuinely like him then take things slowly but just be careful.
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People are such hypocrites in this post. Britney Spears is turning 40 and she married an Iranian Muslim guy in his late 20s. I’m a Britney Spears fan so I don’t care but why is disgusting if a man in his late 30s is with a young woman in her early 20s. Let me be real here, people celebrate gay pride month where there gay pride parades of naked adults with little kids watching…How disgusting is that! Yet that’s accepted because of the whole LGBTQ2+etc. term there is.
Are you mature enough? From experience, I can say that the age gap can be closed. If you are looking for something serious, you both need to be compatible and trust me, is a bit harder than it sounds. He will likely not be on the same page, so you'll have to find common ground.
For a fling, you don't even have to like each other's personality. But I don't think that's what you're looking here.
So I’ll be honest and up front with you there aren’t many men your age worth your time. Not to say they don’t exist but there are very few and far between, and most of whom are engaged to a girl who’s worth their time. So since you can’t go much further down, the only other direction to go is up. That’s pretty far up mind you, but odds are on he’s already grown up already hit his stride financially probably already has a house at least has a car and is out of mommy’s basement.
girls tend to mature faster then guys. which is why girls tend to go for older guys on average. older guys are more likely to have the required income to take a date out places. while also being about to hold a conversation without needing to phone out their phone ever few minutes. based on data collected from dating sites/apps many couples have a 3-15 year age gap between the partners.
A week past my 31st birthday, a woman told me she wouldn’t go out with a man over 30. She then went out with a 29-year-old drug addict.
And, when I was 36, I failed to convince a younger woman that her 27-year-old chain-smoking alcoholic boyfriend had a shorter life expectancy than I have. Age isn’t everything.
I would mostly suggest no as it already seems a bit odd to you and could be rather awkward/uncomfortable for a date. I understand the dating scene well it sucks tbh. But if you have any sorts of doubts I would think it's not the best idea. Tho it could be worth talking to them a bit more try to learn more about them before you decide about a date.
Also I really hope you don't mind my asking but how is it your finding these people?
It depends where you are and if your willing to spend anything on membership. I've tried both tinder and bumble and not got anywhere. I did have a small amount of success on eHarmony
I don’t see anything wrong w that. Doesn’t hurt to give him a chance. I mean you’re not getting married, it’s just a date. Unless you end up giving it up the first night. But no nothing wrong w that. Maybe he’s more established, more serious as far as life. You never know till you try it.
He’s 17 years older than you. Can be your dad. He can be your sugar daddy No romance, no joy, no happiness can be expected from this relationship. Just if you have financial need and he can provides it for you, go on it If not, he’s not suitable for you definitely
I agree that it is a bit of an exaggeration to say that he can be her father. But he really cannot be his partner. If he was only 3-4 years older, he would be exactly and truly in his father's place
But I've known couples with 20+ years difference who were perfectly happy. Yes, it adds some additional potential issues, but so does differences in religion, ethnicity, etc.
Can't hurt to go on a date. It's not like your obligated to keep dating and it would prob help give you an idea on the type of guy your interested in. I don't mean as in older but more of a guys mentality which older guys usually differ a bit in perspectives that way
I think it's important not to let failures impact your decision making skills. Like if age would normally be a problem, six bad dates makes you relax your original criteria. It might be wise to just slow down on the dating if it is just causing you frustration. Maybe you are too picky. Maybe you should just have a coffee with this guy.
A lot of women are going out with older guys these days. In fact, my daughter is 30 years old and her boyfriend is 43. They have been going out for 7 years now. At first I was against the idea. Now, I see how good he treats her and I don't mind them dating. You might just like the guy. Give him a chance.
No. You're far too immature and off-center for a mature 39 year old. First off you're rebounding after 6 failed dates? This 39 year old guy doesn't deserve that. If you're so interested in stepping out of your regular space then date a guy of another race/culture that's your age or do what most girls your age do nowadays and just pick up a random guy at a bar/club. Don't get an older guy's hopes up just because you're in a rut.
That age gap is very large. In situations like this the two of you are totally in different stages of life.
You still have a lot of changing and growing to do vs him where he is past certain stages at age 39.
Ultimately it's your choice but go understanding a man almost twice your age isn't probably going to have the same energy you have, same goals and a sex drive of a teenager or early 20's young man.
Generally it doesn't have much to do with age... especially till like 50s. It has to do with health issues. But any obese unhealthy male drinks and smokes a lot will most likely have little energy. And a 45 year old athlete will have way more energy than that 20 year old fat ass pot head.
@bamesjond0069: You're delusional as always. There are no 45 year old athletes unless its golf which even old men play, and if there are 45 year old pro athletes it's a super extreme minority.
Of course health plays a role but age is a big factor that causes health to go bad to begin with.
Wtf? The average olympian is late 20s meaning many are older. The older olympians competing are 40s through even 70s. I met the other day a 57 year old body builder. I think you need to get out of your moms basement and meet some people.
the problem with the world today with all the unhappy people is that they put themselves in a box and think the only can date a curtain kind of person and while they are looking for that the dream of their life they walked right by them don't be that person
Every dating mistake I've made I've learned something from. In my experience they only makes you appreciate it more when you find that someone very special.
As for the age gap? only you can decide what is right for you.
Whoa that’s a lot of age gap there. I understand 10yrs but anything more than that is just weird fr. I wouldn’t even consider that. A 40 yr old going after a someone in their very early 20’s…
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You answered your own question with that last bit.
i would avoid going on any date where it feels weird.
with someone older, I would say it’s about knowing the person a bit more first before you consider dating.
Working out if you are remotely compatible beyond simply looks is really what it is about.
if you fancy just a casual meet up and sex, different matter, however would still think about safety.
It’s all you we can't tell what to do. Maybe you’re getting over someone else and this guy is making you feel good in the moment. Women and girls tend to live for the moment not the future so I’m not sure how serious you want to get with him. I’m a guy in my early 30s, I don’t know if I can be with a girl who’s 22. It’s just that she still has so much of the world to see, to find herself, to do stuff with her friends…Although friends do move on themselves and people drift apart eventually whether its former classmates, former colleagues and even family (ie: siblings, cousins, nieces/ nephews, etc.). It’s not my place to tell you what to do. But if you genuinely like him then take things slowly but just be careful.
People are such hypocrites in this post. Britney Spears is turning 40 and she married an Iranian Muslim guy in his late 20s. I’m a Britney Spears fan so I don’t care but why is disgusting if a man in his late 30s is with a young woman in her early 20s. Let me be real here, people celebrate gay pride month where there gay pride parades of naked adults with little kids watching…How disgusting is that! Yet that’s accepted because of the whole LGBTQ2+etc. term there is.
Are you mature enough? From experience, I can say that the age gap can be closed. If you are looking for something serious, you both need to be compatible and trust me, is a bit harder than it sounds. He will likely not be on the same page, so you'll have to find common ground.
For a fling, you don't even have to like each other's personality. But I don't think that's what you're looking here.
That's not true at all.
So I’ll be honest and up front with you there aren’t many men your age worth your time. Not to say they don’t exist but there are very few and far between, and most of whom are engaged to a girl who’s worth their time. So since you can’t go much further down, the only other direction to go is up. That’s pretty far up mind you, but odds are on he’s already grown up already hit his stride financially probably already has a house at least has a car and is out of mommy’s basement.
girls tend to mature faster then guys. which is why girls tend to go for older guys on average. older guys are more likely to have the required income to take a date out places. while also being about to hold a conversation without needing to phone out their phone ever few minutes. based on data collected from dating sites/apps many couples have a 3-15 year age gap between the partners.
A week past my 31st birthday, a woman told me she wouldn’t go out with a man over 30. She then went out with a 29-year-old drug addict.
And, when I was 36, I failed to convince a younger woman that her 27-year-old chain-smoking alcoholic boyfriend had a shorter life expectancy than I have. Age isn’t everything.
I would mostly suggest no as it already seems a bit odd to you and could be rather awkward/uncomfortable for a date. I understand the dating scene well it sucks tbh. But if you have any sorts of doubts I would think it's not the best idea. Tho it could be worth talking to them a bit more try to learn more about them before you decide about a date.
Also I really hope you don't mind my asking but how is it your finding these people?
I've been using Bumble and Tinder. Though come to think of it... Maybe there are better dating apps that I should know about
It depends where you are and if your willing to spend anything on membership. I've tried both tinder and bumble and not got anywhere. I did have a small amount of success on eHarmony
I don’t see anything wrong w that. Doesn’t hurt to give him a chance. I mean you’re not getting married, it’s just a date. Unless you end up giving it up the first night. But no nothing wrong w that. Maybe he’s more established, more serious as far as life. You never know till you try it.
He’s 17 years older than you. Can be your dad. He can be your sugar daddy
No romance, no joy, no happiness can be expected from this relationship.
Just if you have financial need and he can provides it for you, go on it
If not, he’s not suitable for you definitely
Stupid response. I don't know what the norm is in your neighborhood but there are few 17 year old daddies where I'm from. Sounds a bit catty.
I agree that it is a bit of an exaggeration to say that he can be her father. But he really cannot be his partner. If he was only 3-4 years older, he would be exactly and truly in his father's place
But I've known couples with 20+ years difference who were perfectly happy. Yes, it adds some additional potential issues, but so does differences in religion, ethnicity, etc.
Can't hurt to go on a date. It's not like your obligated to keep dating and it would prob help give you an idea on the type of guy your interested in. I don't mean as in older but more of a guys mentality which older guys usually differ a bit in perspectives that way
I think it's important not to let failures impact your decision making skills. Like if age would normally be a problem, six bad dates makes you relax your original criteria. It might be wise to just slow down on the dating if it is just causing you frustration. Maybe you are too picky. Maybe you should just have a coffee with this guy.
A lot of women are going out with older guys these days. In fact, my daughter is 30 years old and her boyfriend is 43. They have been going out for 7 years now. At first I was against the idea. Now, I see how good he treats her and I don't mind them dating. You might just like the guy. Give him a chance.
If it were an older guy you already knew, or had a friendship with, I would say why not. But some random older guy on a dating app? not for me.
No. You're far too immature and off-center for a mature 39 year old. First off you're rebounding after 6 failed dates? This 39 year old guy doesn't deserve that. If you're so interested in stepping out of your regular space then date a guy of another race/culture that's your age or do what most girls your age do nowadays and just pick up a random guy at a bar/club. Don't get an older guy's hopes up just because you're in a rut.
That age gap is very large. In situations like this the two of you are totally in different stages of life.
You still have a lot of changing and growing to do vs him where he is past certain stages at age 39.
Ultimately it's your choice but go understanding a man almost twice your age isn't probably going to have the same energy you have, same goals and a sex drive of a teenager or early 20's young man.
you're 36... do you not like to have sex any more?😳
Thats bullshit. If he's a fat slob sure but a fat slob at 18 also probably can't get it up either.
And they are in the same stage of life? Men and women want to settle down at different ages usually.
@bamesjond0069: The reality is my sexual desire and drive and overall energy like most men isn't the same of a young men in their 20's.
As we age and get older we get worse not better. It's the reality of life for all.
Generally it doesn't have much to do with age... especially till like 50s. It has to do with health issues. But any obese unhealthy male drinks and smokes a lot will most likely have little energy. And a 45 year old athlete will have way more energy than that 20 year old fat ass pot head.
@bamesjond0069: You're delusional as always. There are no 45 year old athletes unless its golf which even old men play, and if there are 45 year old pro athletes it's a super extreme minority.
Of course health plays a role but age is a big factor that causes health to go bad to begin with.
Wtf? The average olympian is late 20s meaning many are older. The older olympians competing are 40s through even 70s. I met the other day a 57 year old body builder. I think you need to get out of your moms basement and meet some people.
@bamesjond0069: You're talking about world class athletes who been athletes their whole lives and compete once every 4 years.
Most men aren't in the shape of a world class athlete. Get real.
Many are not fat slobs with low T either.
the problem with the world today with all the unhappy people is that they put themselves in a box and think the only can date a curtain kind of person and while they are looking for that the dream of their life they walked right by them don't be that person
He may take you out and consider you a total puppy. (immature) perhaps he is giving YOU a chance.
Go out with him. Women date older men for a reason. Discover what it is and decide if it's for you or not.
Age gap is a bit large, like if you were 27 or 28 I'd say sure give it a try, but you need more time to let loose and live a more wild existence.
I'm 39 and wouldn't date a girl under 30 really.
Every dating mistake I've made I've learned something from. In my experience they only makes you appreciate it more when you find that someone very special.
As for the age gap? only you can decide what is right for you.
Whoa that’s a lot of age gap there. I understand 10yrs but anything more than that is just weird fr. I wouldn’t even consider that. A 40 yr old going after a someone in their very early 20’s…
Why do you think that it's always the guy that pursues firstfirst? Young women pursue me weekly and in front of my wife to boot.
Good for you! Read my comment again, I never said that.
In so many words you implied your reasoning behind that anomaly. Basically protesting the questions articulate paridym.