My boyfriend got a great paying job in VA, should I move with him?

[Anonymous]

So we have known eachother for over 20 years, and just started dating 2 months ago. I have 2 kids that are not his. A 10 and 4 year old. Should I move with him or end it?

[kylee2437]

Don’t put a man before your children. Think about your childrens school , their friends etc. you will be giving up everything and putting your kids in a weird situation for someone you have been dating for 2 months only. You don’t know if it will last with this guy.

[kylee2437]

Also put into consideration that he wasn’t thinking about your kids before he decided to take up a job offer that would put your kids in a different situation. That means he isn’t thinking about marriage or proposing anytime soon

[Avicenna]

Well, there are a few things to consider here. Where does the kids' father live? Is there shared custody that would prevent you from moving to another state without him agreeing to it? What are your job prospects where your boyfriend is moving to? What sort of work do you do now?

Do you and your boyfriend have shared or completely separate finances? Are you on a lease or mortgage together? How long have you been together and how serious is the relationship?

[Sparkie460]

How is your relationship with him? What are the schools like in the area he's moving to? Is it better or worse than the schools your kids are in now? Does he want you to come with him?

[Asker]

Our relationship is amazing! We have great communication, our chemistry is off the charts. And we both love and respect eachother. The schools are pretty good in the area he's moving to. And the school system is about the same they are in now. And he does but he wants me to move for me and my kids not for him

[Sparkie460]

Then I think you answered your own question. It seems like you have a perfect relationship.

[QuietVerbena]

Try LDR for a while. Too soon to move with him.

[ethanallen]

That poor guy needs to read about the Red Pill movement. Never, ever, date or marry a divorced woman with kids. It is ok to fuck them but never live together or get married to one of them.

[USLegionary]

Depends largely on your kids father. It's not right to move your kids away from their father.

[USLegionary]

... to suit yourself

[Anonymous]

Is he serious with you? How serious are you with him? What happens if he is not interested in you? She doesn't care for you and you take your children to VA and you find out that he is a putz?

[Baby_Sunflower]

To be honest, try long distance first and if things are working out move in with him.

[Anonymous]

Damn you’re moving way too fast here.