Girl from tinder rejected me because of my height. How do I get over this low blow?

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Ευδεμονια · Accepted Answer

I think honestly I haven’t seen such a superficial person like the one you tried to date. I think it’s better she revealed herself for what she is (a completely empty person) before you could crush for her.

Man, height is a real problem, I’m in a worse situation than you, I’m 5’7 and girls don’t see me since they watch above my head.
They’ll say height isn’t important, measures aren’t important and being yourself is the best way to be appreciated… these are comfortable lies.
You’re evidently part of the shorty club, I’m sorry for you and you’ll have to deal with that. The world is full of sh*tty people and the only thing is to make yourself mentally strong enough to take all low blows.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Bahahahahaah Karma never loses an address trust me.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Her answer to you sounds like a pile of happy horse manure!

MCheetah · Answer

Welcome to the club. Just look at a few examples here.
Why are guys not allowed to ask how much a woman weighs after she asks how tall he is?

Give up online dating. It's a sh*tshow. Especially for short guys like you and me. Most women on there are willing to put their shoes over actual human beings, and they're trashy POS's that deserve to be alone for it. Even tall guys find that shallow and don't want to be with a woman who'd dismiss them for being under six feet.

It's also funny how all the women on this post are calling her shallow, when they all do the same thing to short guys (I've seen them even contradict themselves on other, older posts!) 96% of straight women are shallow like this and WILL dismiss a guy for not being tall enough (taller than her by 4-5 inches minimum if she's willing to settle; and 6'0" and over if she wants to be actually happy with your height.)

Trust me, dude. I wasted my entire twenties looking for love, only to be told I'm worthless, inferior, garbage, etc, for being 5'11". As if I can change my height and no longer be short. Don't lose your confidence and self-esteem diving into the abyss that is online dating. Cause MOST women on there are like her; if not far, far worse.

Girl from tinder rejected me because of my height. How do I get over this low blow?

EarthRealm · Answer

Buy these It will make you over 6 foot tall

JSmuve · Answer

That's kind of funny that she says it's not you but then goes on to contradict herself by saying that you're too short for her. Some women just lack total self-awareness. And like, she's 5" shorter. So even if she's wearing some pretty damn high heels, she'd still be close to your height. She even said she'd be "almost at your height" ffs. So she'd still be shorter! I guess she's one of those women that needs a 12" height gap to feel "small and feminine". Sorry, my dude. I think you were too nice though. You shouldn't have wished her the best after she implied you were too short. Should've just left her on read.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Rejoice you're not with such a shallow bitch.

But also wonderful job handling the rejection, in all honesty. You did the right thing, you were tactful, and you didn't get angry on her - that's really awesome to see.

In all seriousness, you probably dodged a bullet. Women with height fixations... Are just kinda weird. Height doesn't make you a bad or a good partner.

For what it's worth, I've dated a guy close to my height and I much preferred it to dating a taller guy.

DirkCoenen · Answer

Leave tinder. Meet people in person. Go talk to people, and ask them out. You will be rejected but people are generally nicer face to face than over text because they actually see a person they are talking to rather than a screen.
Also, tinder is a very superficial app. It's about hookups based on looks, not about finding a fulfilling relationship.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Your height is fine. I’m a bit taller than her and I think 5’10 is good. If I like a guy and he treats me well, is loyal to me and obsessed with me I don't know even if he is around the same height as me. The only thing I would say is I wouldn’t look into someone shorter than me like suppose if the girl was 5’9/10 then it would have been understandable but when she is five inches shorter than you it’s kind of stupid.

Brokenheartedx · Answer

I'm 5'5 and dated men my height, it never occurs to me that height was a thing.. If you like someone height doesn't matter. I'm sure you prefer certain types of women too and have rejected women that have lacked things you liked? Rejection is not nice but wouldn't it be better to both be compatble with one another rather than just go out and eventually hating the sight of each other?
Take it on the chin and let the vain girl go, plenty more fish in the sea

Pejtu · Answer

I mean thats how dating looks like get used to it

Women these days have a list of things u gotta match if u dont match them thats go next

And they can go next easily since we all know its 100 times easier for women in dati g world

Blueeyes81 · Answer

By not asking why in the future. You'll either be straight up lied to or worse get told the truth and have it damage you're confidence. You'll face lots of rejection in life and its best to not take it to heart. Onwards and upwards. Easier said than done but once you can do this and not dwell a second on why the better off you'll be.

Anonymous · Answer

Laugh. Because she's the one who chose to make her dating pool smaller. And she's going to miss out on some very worthwhile guys because of it. I know rejection is personal. But you can't take it that way my man. She didn't reject you. She reject her perception of you. That's the difference. Don't beat yourself up for someone else's bad choices.

1GoldTwins · Answer

Be glad, because you dodged a bullet! She's kind of a bitch! Once you realize this, you'll get over it!

TonightYouu · Answer

Women like that who only want a certain demographic of men are either single or sharing their man they’re the usual suspects when it comes to bashing men yet only date a small percentage of men all while ignoring her competition and ultimately sets herself up to either be alone and unhappy or be humbled by the way most women choose the former not the latter

but as for you nowhere in the world is 5’10 considered short

Jacobbbb · Answer

Seeing this as a 5'10 man myself is kinda painful, but you dodged a bullet bro fr. It sucks that some women out there have to be so superficial especially about something stupid like height but you were better off without her to begin with

FictionalCharacter · Answer

At least she was considerate not to lead you on and pretending to be interested in you.  As a girl, I’ve had guys on dating apps pretending to be interested in me. Only to *poof* they’re gone.

Imyour_steph · Answer

Oh god 5'10 is short for her? She wants a giant or smth? Damn I feel bad for her she just going by height. Oh god I don't understand people nowadays weirdos af. Anyways this happened for a reason and that's bc she wasn't the one don't worry dude you will find your true love someday.

QuietVerbena · Answer

She’s very shallow. Not all girls are like that. 5’10” is not short.

AviatorTom · Answer

Just ignore her, she has unusual standards that most women don't follow. Just go find some other women who don't think negatively about your height.

Wubs3000 · Answer

I mean she is entitled to her own preference but 5'10 is above average lmao and in heels she wouldn't be 5'10.  Either way just move on you are a good height

Bellafioref · Answer

My man is my height, 5'1, and I never really cared.

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