Horrible at making plans?

[Anonymous]

matched with a guy on hinge and took it to instagram. He was really nice and flirty, and hinted at meeting up almost right away. i was really excited cause this guy was hot and seemed really cool, and its rare to find someone like that for me on dating apps. anyways, i agreed to meet him and he said, "is there anything youve been wanting to check off your bucket list, or should i decide?" and i told him "you decide". he kept messaging, like reacting to my stories and stuff but never directly replied to "you decide", but then one day he was like "what are you doing today?" and i replied like 7 hours later cause i was just not happy with how he never actually planned anything in advance. ANYWAYS, i felt bad for answering so long after, so i said sorry and asked him when he's free. we agreed Wednesday after 9, but he never confirmed what we were doing "he just said we could get food or something". on Wednesday which was yesterday, all he said was "hey :) how are you love" but never mentioned the fact that we have plans. I didn't mention it either, and just answered "im good blah blah blah" to which he never replied. i can't tell if this guy actually wants to meet me, is just horrible at making plans, or is just not interested. I may be the one who's bad at making plans and texting.

[HollyK21]

I’ll address his behavior in a moment but for a second I want to talk about yours. From what I read, your way of handling and relaying your emotions have not been the best. The impressions you make in this early phase helps him form an opinion about you, and right now it may not be the best. For one, when he asked what you want to do although he offered to decide, I think that was a test to see if you would engage and ultimately help pick something out, rather than put it on him. To me, that would say you aren’t great at decision making and this is important to people. Then between waiting 7 hours to respond and the whole blah blah response, those were poor ways of communicating your distaste, and since you two are new to each other he won’t be compelled to pacify your distaste like a guy you’re dating would, especially if that’s not in his character and he has other women in the queue. As for him, who knows what he’s looking for. You could be perfect and it won’t matter if he’s not looking for anything serious. So if he does come back to the conversation you could ask what he’s looking for, and if it’s a satisfactory answer and you want to pursue him still then try correcting your previous flaws. That means using your words rather than petty moves.

[Changiis07]

I mean there could be a few things, you say he is hot so maybe he is talking to other girls on there too. If he is interested enough he should follow through, I'd say don't over think it and just mirror their effort. If he doesn't ask you on a date a follow through then you can try and make plans but if nothing happens then maybe time to move on

[Avicenna]

OK, neither of you handled this well. You need to suggest something concrete or else he's going to want to go on a date with someone else.

[Guy13]

Not me, because Time is money and 15 minutes off is 💰

[In_Trance]

So what's your question?