Am I probably gonna die alone? honestly please give me your opinion on my current anxiety attack?

[Anonymous]

All my life I have believed that I would find love. That I would one day get married. I still believe that. I believe in the “there’s someone for everyone.”

However lately I feel discouraged. I just started college. I’m living in a new town. I know no one. I turn nineteen in three months. I’m on bumble and tinder and have talked to a few guys. For some reason these guys keep starting a convo and then stop replying. Like one guy and I really hit it off and talked about everything for hours and then nothing. I don’t know.
I just feel alone and like I’m gonna be single forever.
I never thought I’d be that desperate girl but I guess you could say I’m lonely.
My anxiety and so forth is through the roof.
I want a boyfriend and a friend and physical touch and love and affection and sex.
I just don’t understand why I can’t be happy
I don’t want to find the “one” now but I want someone, I want maybe a filler. I don’t wanna be alone anymore.
What do I do?
What am I doing wrong on these apps?
How do I meet guys?
Am I unlovable? I feel like I am.




If you actually read all of this I’m sorry and thank you if you actually left an opinion

[NamerOfStars]

Are you unlovable? Probably not. Are you going to die alone? Maybe. If you're having trouble meeting guys online, perhaps you should try doing in-person stuff. Your school probably has various social meetups and other events where you can mingle, and you probably have a better chance getting to know someone when you're actually interacting with them, and not just words on a screen- you make a stronger impression that way, too.

It also tends to make people deal with you more genuinely- the brain doesn't think of a person it only sees online as a person; someone who it knows is flesh and blood is another story. And when you're feeling especially lonely, you're especially vulnerable.

[FunkyMonkee]

Join the club! I've FOUND "love", a few times but it never lasted for very long. I didn't even gut started `til 3 weeks before my 25th b-day!!

Yes, I ready it all.

The only difference is, you're only 18! I've been looking for love a LOT longer than you! girlfriend 1 only lasted about 3 months. girlfriend 2, a year later, only lasted about 2 months. girlfriend 3, 8 years later, lasted 10 years but, things started to grind to a halt after only 3 or 4 years. I've been alone for 21 years, now. COMPLETELY alone for 19 months!! I get no visitors, there's no one up here for me to talk to or hang out with, covid sure as shit didn't help!! I'd LOVE to just have someone to play cards with once in a while!! I've got over 60,000 records in my collection and NO ONE to "share" them with!! I'm a VERY reluctant hermit!! When my aunt died 19 months ago, part of the reason was BECAUSE it meant that I was gonna be completely alone, from now on!!

[Daniela1982]

Why not join an activity site like Meetup? You would be part of a group that meets each week at different places to do activities that the group members likes, like bowling or hiking. At least you have something in common as an ice breaker. you might even meet someone there. Worth a shot.

[Anonymous]

19 are you kidding, you may find ‘the one’ at 70 you never know!

[joeldalton]

Jesus Christ. you're a college kid. There are at least 1000 other people your age in that college. Get off the dating apps. Go join a club or sorority. Meet some fellow college students. You have to have a roommate. Does she have a social group?

There's no excuse to be alone in college.

[Zolly99999]

You are still young. You have lots of time trust me. Also I think most of the guys on these sites are just after hookups so be careful. You are over thinking this... once you relax and stop thinking about it when you usually find someone.. for now focus on school and your life and I bet things will fall into place.

I wish you the best

[Hanrej]

Get yourself a friends with benefits. Preferably somone who wants a connection, talk, be less anxious and do stuff togeather. Really shouldn't be that hard since pretty much no one wants to go through things alone.

People tend to stay to themselves for fear of the strings and expectations they presume others have but don't speak of.

[jshm2]

You're too needy, kiddo. Guys want a partner - not a therapy project.

Also, you're 19 - not 49. Get your head into your education and career and make friends in your new town first. Then seek out a partner.

[Jamie05rhs]

You want a filler. That's why guys ghost you. Because they know you're full of shit.
Maybe once you grow up and develop a more serious attitude about relationships then you will get a man.

[Asker]

I wouldn’t say I want a “filler” but I will admit where I am in my life I neither want nor am I ready for marriage and kids and a home in the suburbs with a white fence.

[Jamie05rhs]

https://images.app.goo.gl/pRV6cteFVDSjbTvH6

What If I Told You... that even if you find The One NOW, ... you don't have to marry them right away?
That you could just date them first?

[Shamalien]

You’re very young, I wouldn’t panic quite yet. Maybe you’re looking too hard. Love comes when you least expect it, after all, so they say anyway. Follow your passion and go where you desire, the right people will be waiting for you

[Shark_61695]

Everyone dies alone, it doesn't matter if there is anyone around.
Unless you are part of a murder/suicide or mass murder, then others die with you.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Who needs what people now call “love” when you can have a cat? If you can’t have one then understandable but cats are usually way better than humans anyways.

[Twalli]

I didn't find a girlfriend until I was 27. Sometimes it takes longer for some of us. Generally though, we love more deeply than other people.

[altaboy]

Don't give up! You're so young! You don't know what you want yet.

[Berethor]

Stop being anonymous, it might help. :)