Don’t know what’s wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I notice that with my “game” and personality I always come off as the accommodating nice guy. I just tend to be more easy going unless you really push my buttons. Yes I am a homebody and a creature of habit. I have a hard time doing more spontaneous things. One example I won’t just up and go to a new city. I do have friends, but not ones that I can just travel with or just do anything with (they are married so they can’t). Not to mention I have a hard time just chatting up a lady, in a way that will really make her remember me or sweep her off her feet. It’s almost like I have to really feel it to do it. If I’m not inspired then I could just care less, and this comes off as well with girls I like. Some people will say I probably don’t try hard enough. I just don’t know how to be the guy that girls will see as the guy they can see spending their life with, or even getting a date with.

PS. The reason for this is there was this girl I worked with whom I think is beautiful. Yet she wouldn’t even give me the time of day, she would talk to me about other possible dates, or try to hook me up. One point in time I thought she liked me, but as time progressed she started to act differently. Even up to the time she left I felt some jealousy. The reason I say that it’s like what is wrong with me why you don’t see me.

[PrettyPriya]

Not knowing you, it is impossible to say what is holding you back with the girls. You say you have an easy going personality. That really doesn’t say a whole lot. Personality is made up of many character traits, not just easy going.

I look for a guy that is kind, caring, compassionate, good communicator, respectful, intelligent, good sense of humour, etc etc. There are many more things but I could sit here all day and list the ideal personality. Will he have them all? Not likely.

So long as he has a good many, that’s all I need. Someone that meshes well with my personality. Above all that, I like a guy that is a true gentleman. A guy that does those little niceties that seems like a lost art anymore.

Perhaps this girl you like that gives you no attention is just not your type. Rather, you are not her type. You may have just found the wrong girl, regardless of how you find her beauty. Not everything will be a love connection.

[FilmGuy93]

Your problem is that you don’t live in a way that causes people to respect your time. Women aren’t compliments to your lifestyle; you make the woman the center point of your lifestyle and that’s a serious problem.

[Avicenna]

You need to find someone you’re compatible with who isn’t a co-worker

[Wise4myage]

Why does it have to be wrong? She only see's you as a friend.

[In_Trance]

Chances are you're coming off too desperate

[Asker]

Possibly. Then how could I pursue without coming off as desperate?

[In_Trance]

You have to be willing to say no and also willing to walk away. I suspect you're not, right now