Do you think a girl that’s in her 20s and a virgin has an advantage in the dating pool?

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TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Being a virgin and being attractive are definitely advantages in dating.

JPresidente · Accepted Answer

It means a lot for a lot of guys so I think it can certainly help.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Not necessarily. Speaking from my own personal experience back in my 20s, I was a virgin and had atrocious luck with dating!!! And this was on dating sites AND on a college campus if that tells you anything.

Age, while that might be a factor for some, isn't the "make or break" for finding a relationship. You have to account for other factors, such as looks (I don't care what anyone says, unfortunately looks DO matter), personality, location, and availability.

Meaning you can be at the peak of your life, single as a pringle, gorgeous... but if you're circumstances don't work in your favor, or you just have bad luck with dating and finding partners, you can still have a harder time with dating than others.

Also, I wouldn't use my virginity to find a dating partner, if anything, some men might just want to sleep with you just to say they took your virginity without establishing a real, meaningful relationship.

Qdbrown · Answer

Since the 1960's, we have been told by those early rebels that sex is great and everyone should expeience it with as many people as necessary.

Now we have people who actually believe that a high body count partner is good because they experience. But they gave up some stuff to get there.

The best analogy is cars. We tell a guy that a used car that has some mileage, has the same value as a new car. Both being the same price to acquire, which one is actually worth it's price? The used one? No.

Men need to rethink their standards if they want a long-term marriage grade relationship to stick with virgins. They are rare and the gold standard.

Think about all the sperm that has mingled or even was absorbed from other men. Some could flip the DNA switches. Some could be considered STD's when it comes to HPV and then all the real STD's that she may have encountered and cured. Sometimes these exposures lead to future health issues and cancer. Yet this woman has the same value as a virgin?

There are also studies out there about women's pair bonding gets worn down, and damaged after around 5 partners. This kind of woman is capable of becoming quite bored of her man's sex in less than 9 months. Not a lifetime. Once her Oxytocin levels go down on future partners, her ability to divorce go up. How many guys stress over divorce?

Don't let the sex crowd tell you any differently unless you want to play the risks.

ChicanaChick · Answer

I think so but she has to be smart in selecting a partner and have other good qualities (not just giving sex), more so if what's she's looking for is commitment.

If she gets into a relationship with a so called ''good guy'', loses her virginity, they say ''I love you's'' and thinks losing her v-card is the most, sacred, valuable treasure she gave to him, on boy she's in for a huge disappointment. Do you realize how stupid that sounds like? The girl basically is saying that she gave him sex, the most valuable treasure but sex is actually what attracts, turns on any man. What other value is she giving?

DaveJord · Answer

So I voted yes, but all I can say is be very careful... because as a women that advantage might be a disadvantage. The truth is most guys out there place value on virginity, but not always for the right reasons.

For some guys its a fetish thing... so be secptical of older men. You're pretty young so its not uncommon to find guys your own age with very limited if any sexual experience.

Old guys like at 46 aren't really to turned on by virgins, I have a lot of experience and I have been with virgins in my younger years. I think guys my age raving about the virtues of virginity are creepy and question their motivations.

These days I like women more my speed with some experience. But guys in thier late 20's or early 30's usually have a few notches on the bed post. So those types might be more inclined to take advantage.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Yea, she'll be more attractive for a wife, for those who are looking for a wife- and will often be ignored by men who simply want to have sex. This is an advantage.

However, dating can be difficult for virgins in that guys will want a virgin wife, but not want to wait a long time to have sex. Being the only one your future wife has slept with sounds cool until you're 2, 3, 6 months into dating, but don't get sex- which I'll admit kinda sucks (as someone used to having sex regularly, and dating a virgin).

USLegionary · Answer

Absolutely

crossdressingrihno · Answer

I don’t think men care as much as they say do.
This is common practice for men by the way.

I’ve seen guy’s who could pick up almost anyone they want and they’d say “yeah I’d never go below an 8 and fk what people say” yet this same guy will com back not even a week later showing of his new girlfriend and she’s like a 6 he might even admit she’s a 6 and tell you to be quiet. XD

They don’t hate women or anything guy’s just like to inflate their ego or live in fantasy land where every woman is a supermodel and single XD

Also if a guys dating you he might inflate your score a bit

mobiusforniner · Answer

I dont understand the obsession with virgin women. I've dated many and even married one. But honestly, because of their lacking experience- and not just on sex, a lot of them are very dependent or generally unsure of what they want from their life or from their man.

Girls with some sex experience are generally able to know and appreciate a good man and make more independent decisions. This is my experience.

I think many guys themselves are virgins and therefore feel insecure with the idea their girlfriend experienced a different cock before theirs. But thats such a fundamentally fucked up perspective, basing a womans worth on the mechanics of sex (which, for all your virgins out there, isn't this penultimate magical experience).

If you're a man with at least half a brain than balls, you will know if your woman loves you and her virginity shouldn't matter.

litty · Answer

There's no advantage. It's important to remember that just because someone has a lot of sexual experience does not mean they are a good lover.

A good indicator you are dating a decent guy is if they are willing to wait a few dates before sex. To them, getting to know someone's personality makes all the sweeter.

My girlfriend was also a virgin. It was painful for her first time, but sex got more comfortable and hotter the more we did it, which is true for any new partner no matter how much sex they had in the past.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

Nope and I’ll tell ya why, being a virgin on both sides is basically like never have played a board game before and then asked to play chess, sex is like everything in life, if you don’t know what the hell to do how do you expect to be good at it, I’m not saying only hoes with a body count higher than 100 are good at sex, but I certainly would rather take healthy woman whose been with 10 or more guys and know how to slob on the knob, give a decent handy, ride me and put in effort in general while we’re fucking.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s like looking for a needle in a haystack. But now the question is, will she be able to discern what is a good man?

There are many women out there that are good women, but they are SO CAUGHT UP in the culture of today. Instagram, social/societal expectations, creating very toxic and lofty standards.

It just takes a bad relationship or two to damage a woman (or a man, goes both ways)… so ultimately the issue is, will the good woman and the good man find each other? Many people want what they can’t have, be it the emotionally unavailable, sought after, fun manipulative smooth talker, you name it.

People have to see people for who they are, the imperfections, and really get to know someone before just putting it all out there for them. I think the right person (who is ever more illusive than ever, probably doesn’t exist anymore) will understand and appreciate someone who waits.

Adam1978 · Answer

Not really, but she should have limited body count. It's more of the values than virginity. And if she got the right values she should automatically have a low body count and any failed matches when dating would simply lead to no sex. Basically she should be able to keep the guy she picks. So no reason to keep making bad picks.

Haystackneedle · Answer

From an STD perspective she does because she's less likely to be carrying any. I was with a virgin who had already graduated high school a year after me but the point is that I respected her and her wishes although she did want to have sex, I chose not to. I really didn't want to get emotions too deep. She gave the best oral and I gave her the best oral I knew at the time and had her scratching her walls up. When we went our separate ways she eventually got with a guy that popped her cherry.

Paulalove98 · Answer

She can but it also depends on the guys too, most would respect that. I was a virgin till i lost it at 22 so basically i was one for 2 years in my early 20s and whenever id open up to a guy about that, he found it appealing but i mean dont let a guy just use that as a toy, nor your body. You should have sex when you're ready and comfortable.

Missgingles · Answer

If you asked the same question 100 years ago yes. Now in the Western world I dont think so. I think now its has more to do with having a limited number and the reason behind it. So id you've had sex on time from a serious relationship that you'd believe you'd end up with but it dident work out is still good. But taking home a guy each weekend for paying for a drink is a whole other thing.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Yes and no, women are more attractive the more youth and beauty they possess. Full stop. What people don't realize is that there are actually 2 kinds of dating, casual dating and dating for marriage or longterm relationships

So a virgin is obviously a better choice as a potential marriage partner than someone who was the town bicycle, but people who are casually dating would probably be okay with someone who is an easy lay.

JDAC092299 · Answer

I’d love to say yes but I think there’s a lot of people that’d prey on you with a lack of experience especially some who see taking someone’s virginity as a trophy but in terms of being attractive I think a lot of people desire someone who haven’t been with anyone else.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

She has a very big advantage compared to most women.
I prefer to be a woman to not be a Virgin, but if you're waiting for marriage or celibate, she'll be perfect for you provided her personality is a match and she's feminine.

To be fair, you do have to vet a woman regardless of her age and sexual activity status.

NottaNatty · Answer

100% yes in y personal opinion it implies that (A) don't have to worry about an ex or past drama, (B) you have morals and values rather than just sleeping around, (C) your attitude towards relationships won't be tainted by some loser, But I can't speak for all guys.

Emilyis · Answer

NEVER let them know you are a virgin, The JERKS just want in your panties and you will never see him again.

SusanColleen · Answer

I was technically a virgin until age 30. But I gave all the boys I went out with the absolute best blowjob they ever had, so no man ever complained.

MCheetah · Answer

ANY biological woman in her 20's has an an advantage in the dating pool. Her being a virgin or not only adds to her value depending if you're looking for a man to marry you or a man who just wants to get laid.

Jenny-Marie · Answer

I don't think so. Maybe if it's a sleazeball trying to date virgins with the intention of "popping their cherries", but not otherwise.

If you date with the intention of a long term relationship, you should be looking for the type of guy that respects you, your body and your wishes. The past is just that, it shouldn't be a deal breaker when dating.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, id say it’s attractive both on guys and girls, PROVIDED that the opposite sex finds you attractive, then that’s a really good score point.

who wouldn’t want an attractive partner that shares their first time with you? Everyone is busy fucking around 20 people that this is kind of refreshing.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

Yep. Being young is a big help.

Also conservative guys who value sexual purity will facor her.

Also being a virgin means that she won't have kids, and will be relatively undamaged from previous relationships

Dargil · Answer

I think her being a virgin should be confidential. Her decision to bless someone with it is her decision only. By broadcasting it, it somehow obligates her to either give it away or explain why she hasn't already.

Anonymous · Answer

Any guy that is attracted to virgins is as creepy as it can get, and he should be avoided at all costs.

globetrotter22 · Answer

More men will be turned on by this then turned off.

Smoothing · Answer

I wouldn't say she has an advantage, but I would say there is definitely nothing wrong with being a virgin.

dustybiker · Answer

Not really. The concept of “waiting” is limited to select people also interested in that or those that don’t care.

Topaz1979 · Answer

Most men are attracted to virgin woman so a virgin in her 20's has scored some desirability points from most men period. Here's proof

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I don't know... The guy who would genuinely appreciate you for it has to be a virgin too... If he's not and he seeks or prefer virgins... it's definitely not genuine...

hostboy__fastestlaps · Answer

Yes, but there is a catch. Women who are in their 20s and a virgin are not commonplace. In fact they never were. But also 17, 18, 19 year olds are starting to have even more premarital sex thanks to 9/11 and the economic collapse

coolbreeze · Answer

She can be a lot more picky and selective on who she goes on a date with.

DJB72 · Answer

High value lady. A woman who knows what she's worth is way more attractive than the ones who hand it out like candy

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it will have value to those that appreciate a woman who doesn't throw herself at every guy that comes her way. But that value only goes so far.

msc545 · Answer

Not really any advantage. There are guys who only want a virgin woman, but they tend to be controlling and crazy as well.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Would I hire an employee in a key position who has no job experience at all? :D

molonski2 · Answer

I wouldn't see any advantage for her , nothing wrong with it if thats her choice..

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 20 years old girl never had boyfriend and I'm most likely to be shy so I don't think so. Guys mostly likely to follow hot or seductive/ attractive girls.

Light909090 · Answer

Do I Think a 20s year old that says she’s a Virgin But expects me to believe it has a Advantage in dating pool sure why not

Dinklex3 · Answer

No, lol. I didn't go around telling people i was a virgin though.

Berethor · Answer

Yes, she young and she not dirty, guys tend to like that.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes and no. Personality and physical looks matter a lot as well.  A virgin that has a ish personality will be overlooked or if she doesn't look good.

genericname85 · Answer

depending on what she's out for. if she's out for a conservative christian guy, then sure. otherwise no.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on what you mean by dating. If you're talking about dating as part of modern hookup culture, then no. If you mean serious dating with good men who are looking for a serious partner or wife, then yes she definitely has an advantage.

Nahid1707 · Answer

No, not a advantage. While it’s sweet that she is a virgin women, it is very important she learns and dates when she is ready  She will try to find her person

fonduegirl · Answer

No lol. I'm 21, virgin. Even I wouldn't date me.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I think a 20- year-old virgin is probably on the endangered species list.

Makeushiver · Answer

It depends how committed of a virgin were discussing

mr4435669 · Answer

No, I like virgins, but I don't like women over 19.

zagor · Answer

It's not like she's going around wearing a hat that announces that. Though there are some guys t-shirts that essentially do that...

loveslongnails · Answer

That would depend very much on what YOU are looking for.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If she's at least decent looking and not weird.

TroyDT · Answer

Dating? Perhaps not. But if she is looking for marriage, yes.

maximumpower · Answer

Believe what you want, but a girl's virginity isn't as "valuable" as many may think.

Anonymous · Answer

You have an advantage of attracting dudes that get turned on by virgins which I personally would not think is a good thing

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I'd say equal. People put to much stock in virgins and non virgins.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Because being 20 and a virgin just says that they don't know shit.

Twalli · Answer

I don't think it affects her chances honestly

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