Should I tell him to get a paternity test, his son may be mine?

[Anonymous]

I hooked up with a girl from tinder, we had sex multiple times, some unprotected. One night she sent a picture of her sleeping with her boyfriend. It turned out her boyfriend travels for work and while he was away, cheated on him with me. I was a mixture of emotions, felt like shit for being lied to and for being part of cheating without knowing. We broke everything off, she blocked me, I blocked her. I recently checked up on her and found out she had a baby. Her term started about a month or within the month we last had sex. They got married, bought a house, they've started a family. The boy looks similar to me, and the red hair is a pretty big flag considering none of them have red hair. It is a recessive gene but still, there's a chance this boy might be mine. I could destroy this family as a result of even suggesting the kid is mine when it may not be. Should I let them be happy never knowing or let him know?

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As crazy as it may sound, they're an incredibly happy married family, literally living a block away to my surprise. They both have good jobs and a lot going for them. I grew up in a broken household and seeing them working so well together, I won't mess that up. I know I can't offer anywhere near what that boy has right now. And if she did in fact have my son, that's on her to make it right. For now the son is most important.

[Sandeeppingping]

That's a tough spot my guy, main question is do you want that kid if it's yours? If not then dodge that bullet, if yes then say it how it is she's a piece of shit for what she's done anyway, it's all about you bro not them and their fucked up relationship (feel bad for the dude though, imagine he cheats as well that'd be hilarious)

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of questions that come to mind.

Do you want a child? You may be forced to pay child support.

What would you want if you were in his shoes?

She certainly deserves to be outed, but is it worth messing up their happy little life?

Cheaters cheat, and she is obviously a cheater and there's a good chance she'll do it again. Outing her now would nip that in the bud.

Not sure what I would do if in your shoes. Only you can answer this.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Whatever, but do keep in mind if it is yours, you may be paying child support.

At the same time the boyfriend may want to know he married a cheater... who will probably cheat again.

Whatever you feel like, stay out of it, or if you want to know if the kid is yours to be part of his life or not.

[devilish-cutie]

well you should do what you thin its right for you. Do you want to know this child is yours? Also concealing truth comes out in uglier ways. You should rather just first speak to the mother, noone needs to know your concerns but her and you may try to see first w her

[dustybiker]

This is tough. I would think you would be less interested in what he thought and more wanting to know if you have a child. I would want my kid to know me, (if it’s yours) but that’s me.