Is it too high-risk to ask out a class-mate?

[Aaron93]

so, my main problem with asking out a class-mate, is that I'm forced to see them on almost a daily basis, and if she rejects me, it will create a very awkward vibe in class for basically the rest of the year, not to mention, you already know she's gonna gossip about it with her friends, so I'll kinda be "that guy she rejected" whenever they look at me, it'll be the first thing that comes to their mind when they see my face, the whole situation is anxiety inducing in every way

i fkin hate that guys have to be the one to go through this shit xD

I think the vast majority of the girls will never ask out a guy, and thus don't know the absolute soul crushing feeling that follows a rejection, and to have to be reminded of that every day in class, kinda makes it too high-risk for me.

but maybe im just overthinking everything, I need fresh outside perspective on this whole thing, please elaborate on your answers

yes

no

[William7489]

Listen, there’s always risk when you go out with someone. That’s the nature of it. Specifically what you’re talking about, there’s no solution other than being alone the entire time. That’s not a solution. Trust me, my high school class was 50 people, my law school class was 160. I saw these people every single day. Yes dating could be awkward, but you dealt with it. That’s what dating is, trial and error and everybody understands that. Here’s the thing with dating that’ll make it pretty easy. You have to act mature about dating. Keep the drama to a minimum, don’t gossip, be respectful, try to have fun and don’t worry about what other people think.

[OlderAndWiser]

Invite her to join you for lunch. It does not have the date "vibe" and it allows you to spend some time with her without other distractions. That interaction should give you a much better feel for whether she is interested in dating you.

[RealMarek]

I understand how you feel and I wish someone had told me what I know now when I was your age. Handling rejection is part of being a man, and it’s best handled by remembering there are plenty of women (especially when you are young) and time is on your side. If a woman says no, just be polite to her and not make a big deal about it, and remember you really want someone who is into you so it’s no loss. Who cares if she gossips about you having asked her out? It’s probably more to make her look good to her friends than to make you look bad. Never chase women. Don’t put up with toxic women, or men for that matter. Show confidence, not desperation. Be the best man you can be and work on building your future. Have this mentality and you will very likely find a good woman who is attracted to you.

[BlueScorpio]

Why do you guys keep thinking women don't get rejected? I was rejected by a lot of my crushes growing up. It happens. Anyway, you never know, if it she does reject you then hey don't feel down about it. It sucks but you just gotta brush it off and keep your head up. It just means she ain't it but there will be other girls.

[Apulu_Imback]

Well you are wrong, I proposed my crush :) and got no replies for few days. He was quite awkward but he slowly accepted. But yes for sure it is quite risky to ask out a classmate. Try being her close friend and by the end of the year confess her about your feelings, it's going to be special too.

[Anonymous]

Go and ask her out not for a date, but for a hangout after school or during school something more casual, like eating together, eat with her in/after school. So you get to know each other a bit. You can ask her out for a date if you think she likes you like that. You might not even like her after she opens her mouth, or you find out something about her that you really don't like.

See how she responds. She might be busy, but you can always try again if you feel she didn't just simply reject you. You'll probably know.
Imagine someone else doing the same thing in front of your eyes. He goes up to her, talks to her.. if she rejects him, he just walks away, no big deal. He is all casual about it.

You can imagine her without make up, she is probably still attractive, but just imagine that she is not all that.. anymore, but you still want her ofc. If she rejects you, then whatever, brush it off like nothing happened.

[Fireguy17]

nothing ventured, nothing gained.
You may spend the rest of your life wondering what she would have said or done.
Life is short, the worst she could say is no, and if she does just carry on like nothing happened.
A person doesn't get many chances in life to find the "one", and unless you make the first move you might be missing out on someone who is very special.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't expect to much out of high school girls. Unless you're a 10 they're probably going to reject you. I f you do it pretty much expect to be rejected and just do it for the experience. Most girls grow up a bit after high school. And most high school relationships don't amount to anything anyways.

[Anonymous]

I hope she tells the WHOLE class so you get over yourself. Ugh you're not perfect dude. Stop trying to be. It's disgusting. Stop trying to be perfect in everyones eyes. You're going to be 87 years old thinking about all the things you were to scared to do because your such a little ******.

Letting you're life pass you by because you're a scaredy cat. Lmao.

[FilmGuy93]

I had a rule against dating or banging anyone I had classes with to avoid awkwardness. It turned out to be a good idea later in life. And for future reference, classmate is one word. No hyphen needed 😌

[Aaron93]

I feel like the people responding "just do it, who cares" don't fully grasp the gravity of the situation if the answer is no. That shit fucks up your schoolyear if you share a lot of classes with her xD

[FilmGuy93]

You're probably right about that. Things can be extremely awkward if she says "no." Also, and this situation is even worse, but the awkwardness if she says "yes" and then whatever she's hoping to get out of the situation doesn't happen. Maybe she catches feelings or simply regrets the sex; now you have a bunch of mutual contacts for her to try and destroy your good name to make herself feel better.

Sex changes people; it just does. I don't understand why so many people think you can just bang someone with no strings attached; there are ALWAYS strings attached.

[chicosuave]

A classmate doesn't matter. She can go to hell is she rejects you. The worse part is asking a work mate. That's when I feel awkward as hell and if she rejects me it's even worse when you both see each other. I don't know how other guys do it

[Tyrael]

Just go for it. Who cares what others think? So you're the guy she rejected, so what? Even if she says no, you'll learn to handle rejection and eventually it'll pay off.

[AviatorTom]

It's always a risk to ask someone out. You might get rejected, or a relationship might develop that eventually ends badly. But without risk there's no possible reward. If you like her, ask her out.

[Guy13]

Do it now becsuse it will happen in real life too. It’s all free…no charge to your account…in University. Get use to it early ‼️😎

[Koalamate]

Just do it it's worth the consequences for the chance.

I don't think people realise how much that situation sucks for a guy.

[AngryCarl]

I don't see why. After the term ends you'll never see her again, right?

[TroyDT]

If she rejects you, you smile and move on and behave as though ou do not care, because you shouldn't. There are too many women out there to get hung up over a rejection.

[RavVid]

Why not chat her up a bit first and do it in the mood

[exitseven]

It is a scary thing. I had to really dig deep to get the guts to do it. I almost didn't.

[msc545]

It is a very high risk for you. Don't hunt where you also learn so to speak.

[Twalli]

Most relationships in school come from asking a classmate out.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care about what other people say about you? I don’t think it’s too high-risk to ask out a classmate.