Should you have to pay the bills if you are the stepdad?

[Anonymous]

I’m dating a girl with two kids by two different guys, things have gotten serious and I will be moving in. Her kids are 3 and 9 the three year old is special needs (autism). I’m wondering will I be expected to provide for them and her in the future ie bills, things for the kids, meals or is that something the bio dad will do? Also only one of the bio dads is around the other one is completely gone.

[Pleaznhim4me]

If you have to as us then you need to hold off on getting married because you do not have all the important things figured out and there are innocent children involved here. No assumptions should be made in either of your minds. You two need to have a clear understanding of what one another wants from each other or you have no business getting married. Do not do this until you two have thoroughly discussed what everyone’s responsibilities are. Also that you are in agreement to them and feel happy to do so. Do these kids get child support from dad. If you pay support for these kids then do you get to adopt them? There is a lot to be discussed if you will wed her?

[laraWM]

I think for everyday like you can't list everything, so I'd say yes.

But big things probably depends more on the dad, if he's still here. And he probably gives money to the mom for the kids

[TroyDT2]

You need to find out before moving in. Also be careful in case the laws where you live might require continued support of the children if you break up.