My boyfriend dumped me because I'm 30 and he says he wants to have healthier children with a younger girl. What should I do?

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SamIam96 · Accepted Answer

Your boyfriend is scum. You're better off without him. Look forward to having babies with a guy that cherishes you. Thirty is young by all normal standards.

You asked what to do... Eliminate him from your life. If he has stuff at your place, have him collect it asap. Get rid of what he doesn't collect. Finally, block him everywhere you can. There's no point in maintaining that connection.

Go out with friends. Drink good wine. Wear clothes that make you feel good. Buy something new, including undies you love. Don't dwell on the past.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

You found out that the guy a shallow, ignorant, piece of shit. You dodged a bullet. He doesn't love you.

The fact is, 30 is the ideal age for women to have babies.

"Experts say the best time to get pregnant is between your late 20s and early 30s. This age range is associated with the best outcomes for both you and your baby. One study pinpointed the ideal age to give birth to a first child as 30.5."

My mom was 29 when she married my dad, and 30 when she had me. She was 33 when my sister was born.

Amy10223 · Accepted Answer

I'd be glad to be rid of him, because he obviously doesn't know a lot about women and reproductive science. It is true that having kids at younger ages is more advantageous to women, but there is no harm in having them in your 30's. I had my youngest at 37. She is a bright young lady today.

rienna888 · Accepted Answer

that is so fucked up, you deserve so much better. I understand you might feel heartbroken but that monster doesn’t deserve you. I too got ghosted but my two year boyfriend recently. You will get over it and find someone who loves you unconditionally. You are a strong woman

HighValue · Answer

While age is a legitimate concern when wanting healthy kids, it should only factor in when getting a NEW partner. If someone gets a partner while they are young and THEN leaves her after she ages, it shows that he is actually only interested in the sexual part of the relationship. If he really wanted healthy kids (his stated reasoning) he would have already been trying to have them with you since you two were already together when you were younger. His stated reason is very likely dishonest based on this scenario.

Brokenheartedx · Answer

He's talking rubbish.. He may get younger but there's no guarentee a baby will be born healthy. He seems nasty be thankful he's gone, whod want a kid with him with that attitude

xyzfdg · Answer

Do what I did when relationships fell out. Get books on body language, psychology, put in massive patience, sacrifice, and discipline to train yourself to grow adept at reading people so you're never a "victim" again. Basically, take personally responsibility for changing your future circumstances, rather than be upset at what "jerk" he is & "helpless victim" you are.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If your boyfriend desires to have a lot of kids at least 5 then at your age I can see it being a problem especially if the ages are spread between 2 to 3 years apart for the kids, nevertheless understand not ever lost is a lost if you get what I'm saying.

I know it hurts you but just go through the pain, heal from it and find someone better for you.

mickmrly · Answer

Don't let him come back even if he begs you. There are legitimate reasons to break up, but his reasoning is not just plain wrong but it completely minimises you to some form of a baby factory. Hope you find someone better.

oliver4love · Answer

Please don't mind, your boyfriend is sick in the mind person.. you are 30 and it's a perfect age for your 🤰 pregnancy and I feel he is not love you deeply from heart ♥... only sex and other activities is his need..

BlueScorpio · Answer

Leave him behind, he wasted your time and if he really wanted family he could started that ahead time with you. Font let a man waste your time and your youth. You will find someone who is worthy of you.

Rania05 · Answer

'What should you do?' Of course go on with your life, it's no use keeping someone who doesn't care about you. It was a very disturbing reason for breakup to me.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My sister shacked up with a guy and had my niece at age 32 so that is B. S. you deserve better than him and there is many more other fish in the sea. Sorry, this happened to you.

ohsheeT · Answer

Tell him to go f*** himself there's nothing wrong at your age to having children it sounded like he's just was using you

Pinay_ako · Answer

Bye bye shallow boy!

xJayleenx · Answer

Good riddance let his shallow ass go. I’m sorry that you went through this it’s his loss and only time let’s you know how loyal people truly are. Don’t ever contact him again and block him off of everywhere just forget him you deserve better.

Bethany22 · Answer

At least he used science to back up his claims, and he didn't just leave you because you're starting to get wrinkles. But find someone else.

Milkdud · Answer

Forget him. You're not getting younger, so find someone who is accepting of your age. Shouldn't be that hard since 30 isn't exactly ancient.

If you want kids you still have many years left to do so. And the increased risk of birth defects with the age of the mother shouldn't be a concern in your 30s. Besides good parents is more important anyways.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Smack him upside the head and come see me! How is 30 too old to have kids? Lemmie get this straight! You can't fuck a girl when she's in her prime, you have to wait `til she's at least 18 but, she's too old to make kids at 25?

Finchie40 · Answer

Move on from him cuz he is a douchebag , cuz that is the dumbest thing I ever heard , it means he is a selfish piece of shit and I feel Bad for the girl that spreads her legs for him

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Looks like he's mind is made up already.  Don't waste any more time & effort on that guy.

virginloserguy · Answer

Date a guy who is not an idiot. I know that will be difficult, but I have faith in you.

es20490446e · Answer

You realize that having a happy family with such boyo is probably a fantasy.

It's not your job to fix anyone's thinking. Just find someone with the right thinking to begin with, and everything will be effortless.

smilelots · Answer

what can you do but move on to someone that respect and loves and wants to care for you the way you need and deserves to have in your life. good luck on the next man smiles.

jshm2 · Answer

Yeah well, he was only your boyfriend. Not your husband. You were a fool not to spot him out earlier though.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Find a guy who loves you for who you are instead of worrying about who you aren't. What a dick.

AviatorTom · Answer

Easy, find another guy. Your ex-bf is totally wrong.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Forget him and realize you two just weren’t meant to be. That’s okay! You will find a person who will love you for you

delta50 · Answer

Be grateful you dodged a bullet. You’ll find a better guy and you probably learned some warning signs to watch out for when dating.

Haha456 · Answer

i have a feeling that you're a troll. I"m aware there are misogynists on here with female accounts

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Find another guy, and tell him fuk off!  You can get children (healthy) even after 30, what he is not aware of is... His Sperm counts...🤷‍♂️

Jay3344 · Answer

That’s super weird if he said he loved you. I mean it’s like what a Vulcan from Star Trek or a person with no interpersonal skills would say to someone. I get it it but to only see relationships as means of reproduction is fackn weird

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

You tell the next person a few dates in how you want your relationship to turn out long term. Clear boundaries and goals.

jini1 · Answer

wow. that's just mean. I would definitely find someone much better than him.

KittyBox · Answer

Call a mental asylum, say you have a seriously ill patient

dustybiker · Answer

✌🏻 Bullet dodged. Now you are free to find a real man.

Avicenna · Answer

If that actually happened, it's BS on his part. You still generally have healthy babies in your 30s.

TrueConfection · Answer

Find a better MAN. He sounds easily replaceable.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

30 literally isn’t even old? Dude did you a favor, find someone better.

Berethor · Answer

Technically you can still have children, but you don't have much time left.

Guy13 · Answer

That’s silly. Did he do that with a straight face ⁉️

blondfrog · Answer

You just avoided a shallow person. Its a great litmus test to weave out all the fake people in your life. He is not the only man in the world. Go find someone else.

BJP21 · Answer

Put your shoe up his ass side ways. Leave him. you're in the perfect age range for healthy kids. DM me, Im available, hopefully we are neighbors.

sheenagwapa · Answer

he is asshole glad you're not wasting your life with tgis man

AsaKyo · Answer

Okay, just let him go do that and watch him come crawling back when she goes and whores out on him lmao

Staximus · Answer

Sounds like he's a piece of shit, just let him fuck off into the sunset and move on with your life.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Wow! What a typically Western guy. They are literally obsessed with this stupid notion that women lose their value after 30. You shouldn't care.

zagor · Answer

Move on. That sounds like an excuse, though he may actually believe it is true.

HaveNoName · Answer

Ok. Then aren't you lucky you got rid of him now?

Massageman · Answer

His loss! Find a guy with a functional brain!

tfan1 · Answer

Kick his butt and then yell at him “if you wanted somebody younger why did you stay with me?”

AimeeKyle · Answer

Be glad he did. Totally sever / kick him to the curb and never look back. If he is that shallow, you don’t want him around anyway.

TheFlak38 · Answer

he is right. you're a used up hag how now. And the new generations of fresh young sluts are coming to take your place.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Nothing. You dodged a bullet. Literally no guy ever breaks up with a girl he loves over that. Specially since it's bullshit.

Confusedashell123 · Answer

Move on and fast to someone who isn’t a douche. He’s looking for a baby machine it would seem

Zolly99999 · Answer

OMG 😳 WOW.. you are lucky hi is gone. He is a total a$$hole.. you deserve much better. How old is he?

Anonymous · Answer

Find yourself a real man. He is an immature asshole.

loveslongnails · Answer

You should be glad you're rid of him. Go out and celebrate.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

30 is quite young. Your ex-boyfriend doesn’t seem to realise that adopted kids do exist.

genericname85 · Answer

Well nothing to do for you but try to get over it as fast a possible and move on.

Ironic_Method · Answer

What do you mean what you should do? Vet better next time and enjoy your life without him.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Are you unhealthy? You can have kids post 30 just higher risk of certain issues.

Anonymous · Answer

Never look back because obviously he doesn't actually care about you. Blessing in disguise

Anonymous · Answer

Meet someone else. Nothing you can do if that’s what he wants.

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