Your boyfriend is scum. You're better off without him. Look forward to having babies with a guy that cherishes you. Thirty is young by all normal standards.
You asked what to do... Eliminate him from your life. If he has stuff at your place, have him collect it asap. Get rid of what he doesn't collect. Finally, block him everywhere you can. There's no point in maintaining that connection.
Go out with friends. Drink good wine. Wear clothes that make you feel good. Buy something new, including undies you love. Don't dwell on the past.
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You found out that the guy a shallow, ignorant, piece of shit. You dodged a bullet. He doesn't love you.
The fact is, 30 is the ideal age for women to have babies.
"Experts say the best time to get pregnant is between your late 20s and early 30s. This age range is associated with the best outcomes for both you and your baby. One study pinpointed the ideal age to give birth to a first child as 30.5."
My mom was 29 when she married my dad, and 30 when she had me. She was 33 when my sister was born.
I'd be glad to be rid of him, because he obviously doesn't know a lot about women and reproductive science. It is true that having kids at younger ages is more advantageous to women, but there is no harm in having them in your 30's. I had my youngest at 37. She is a bright young lady today.
that is so fucked up, you deserve so much better. I understand you might feel heartbroken but that monster doesn’t deserve you. I too got ghosted but my two year boyfriend recently. You will get over it and find someone who loves you unconditionally. You are a strong woman
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While age is a legitimate concern when wanting healthy kids, it should only factor in when getting a NEW partner. If someone gets a partner while they are young and THEN leaves her after she ages, it shows that he is actually only interested in the sexual part of the relationship. If he really wanted healthy kids (his stated reasoning) he would have already been trying to have them with you since you two were already together when you were younger. His stated reason is very likely dishonest based on this scenario.
He's talking rubbish.. He may get younger but there's no guarentee a baby will be born healthy. He seems nasty be thankful he's gone, whod want a kid with him with that attitude
Do what I did when relationships fell out. Get books on body language, psychology, put in massive patience, sacrifice, and discipline to train yourself to grow adept at reading people so you're never a "victim" again. Basically, take personally responsibility for changing your future circumstances, rather than be upset at what "jerk" he is & "helpless victim" you are.
Bye bye shallow boy!
Good riddance let his shallow ass go. I’m sorry that you went through this it’s his loss and only time let’s you know how loyal people truly are. Don’t ever contact him again and block him off of everywhere just forget him you deserve better.
If your boyfriend desires to have a lot of kids at least 5 then at your age I can see it being a problem especially if the ages are spread between 2 to 3 years apart for the kids, nevertheless understand not ever lost is a lost if you get what I'm saying.
I know it hurts you but just go through the pain, heal from it and find someone better for you.
Don't let him come back even if he begs you. There are legitimate reasons to break up, but his reasoning is not just plain wrong but it completely minimises you to some form of a baby factory. Hope you find someone better.
Please don't mind, your boyfriend is sick in the mind person.. you are 30 and it's a perfect age for your 🤰 pregnancy and I feel he is not love you deeply from heart ♥... only sex and other activities is his need..
Leave him behind, he wasted your time and if he really wanted family he could started that ahead time with you. Font let a man waste your time and your youth. You will find someone who is worthy of you.
'What should you do?'
Of course go on with your life, it's no use keeping someone who doesn't care about you.
It was a very disturbing reason for breakup to me.Looks like he's mind is made up already.
Don't waste any more time & effort on that guy.
My sister shacked up with a guy and had my niece at age 32 so that is B. S. you deserve better than him and there is many more other fish in the sea. Sorry, this happened to you.
Tell him to go f*** himself there's nothing wrong at your age to having children it sounded like he's just was using you
At least he used science to back up his claims, and he didn't just leave you because you're starting to get wrinkles. But find someone else.
Find a guy who loves you for who you are instead of worrying about who you aren't. What a dick.
Forget him. You're not getting younger, so find someone who is accepting of your age. Shouldn't be that hard since 30 isn't exactly ancient.
If you want kids you still have many years left to do so. And the increased risk of birth defects with the age of the mother shouldn't be a concern in your 30s. Besides good parents is more important anyways.
Smack him upside the head and come see me! How is 30 too old to have kids? Lemmie get this straight! You can't fuck a girl when she's in her prime, you have to wait `til she's at least 18 but, she's too old to make kids at 25?
what can you do but move on to someone that respect and loves and wants to care for you the way you need and deserves to have in your life. good luck on the next man smiles.
Move on from him cuz he is a douchebag , cuz that is the dumbest thing I ever heard , it means he is a selfish piece of shit and I feel Bad for the girl that spreads her legs for him
wow. that's just mean. I would definitely find someone much better than him.
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