If you’re 30 and up, they assume you’re married or divorced with kids…
Or you’re too hot to look at, you must have a lineup of men or women to date you… or engaged or in a relationship because you’re good looking.
Or you’re 40 and still single, you have a house full of cats 🤣 or you’re too complicated to date or too old to marry.
What’s your take?
They seem to think I'm some basement dweller with no job, simply because I'm almost 40 and can best a lot of them at online arguments. They make a lot of other insane assumptions about me as well, trying to depict me as the neck beard Wojack. That's not how I look, and they get most other details wrong. They also assume I'm a virgin with no luck at all with women, simply because I'm currently single.
That I've had lovers and at least two of them are dead now, and I managed to survive hell and back multiple times, and I made it and they didn't, doesn't seem real or possible to my detractors.
I have to admit, I expected when we met that you'd have some baggage/history, and weren't totally innocent. You've admitted to as much, though I'd date you anyway, were it a practical option. I'm not pretentious about a woman's history. It takes a lot more than "she's taken a blown load from someone else inside her years earlier" to scare me away, even if that's enough to make my family not trust you. Virgin women my age are unicorns in today's world, and I've adjusted my expectations accordingly. Heck, your number could be as high as 26, I'd still give you a fair chance! (The average number for modern women is, what, nine?)
But to hear you don't have a small army lining up to date you does confuse me. You seem like quite a catch, and there are many thirsty men today.
I don't assume you a cat lady though. You've established that you're way too nice/sweet to be the type that only cats would want to be around.
I believe the common denominator behind why so many fall back on assumptions like these, is because they're a lot easier to accept and believe than the truth.
I could say I've performed Herculean feats to save a store, survived a hurricane, dated a Chinese saleswoman, translated a GTA fanfic into 9 other languages, invented a government waste assessment system with its own calculator and algorithm, attempted to help a man rescue his daughter from being stranded in Egypt while Obama made a mess of that country (I wasn't very successful though), made two unofficial stuff packs for The Sims 4, popularized the term "machinomic," etc. But no one believes that. They just assume I'm some do-nothing bum.
Once people look at me, especially at my height, they understand why I'm single.
I have no idea what people assume about me.
I look middle age, but younger than my age, often, depending on what I'm wearing. But when I speak, and what I speak about, probably tips them off at my age, or thereabouts. I wear jewellery when I'm out (except if it's for exercise), and often that includes my diamond engagement ring, and maybe a coordinating band, on my ring finger, so it would be easy to know that I'm married. Plus, the longer I talk with someone, the more likely it is to come up (or I will bring it up), "my husband..." this or that. Sometimes it's conscious, sometimes it just happens.
But, again, I have no idea about peoples' assumptions. I guess I have very polite people around me. They don't say anything about this. I would think this is cultural, Pinay.
No because I look a lot younger than my age.
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People assume I'm single cause according to then I look and act like a teenager. I'm not stupid or immature but I have poor coordination skills and my lack of expertise makes me look like an amateur.
u I’m 67, divorced, and have no kids!
Them: "Newly married?"
Me: "Yes. How can you tell?"
Them: "Big rock and beautiful wedding band. Plus, 30s is good age to get married, right?"
Me: "How old do you think I am?"
Them: "30-ish."
Me: "Thanks! However, I'm already 50."
Them: "No way! Damn! But, wait... We thought you said you're a newly-wed."
Me: "If you consider 3 years to be newly married, that'd be us."
s Yes, they do. Usually, people think I'm younger but when they find out that I'm 30 they ask if I'm married or if I have a boyfriend and often, they assume that I have kids.
My older sister and a friend of my mother think that I should be married.
Most people assume shit and it’s dumb to do , but people do it anyways , As for me I grew up learning to never really judge a book by it’s cover so I am not really a judge mental person, it might cross my mind about someone but I don’t say anything until I am completely sure on someone , I treat everyone the same way I want to be treated , if they are nice to me I am nice to them back , if they are rude to me I might be rude to them back
or I just walk away. Not everyone is going to like you or agree with you so to me the best thing to do is just walk away and surround yourself with people that do like you and agree with you
People From my past who I’ve lost contact with will sometimes bump into me and ask if I have a wife and kids like they just say it’s great to see you! So are you all settled down with a family now? And I’m just there like 😐…
Most of these people are in relationships that are very new but seem to think I’m a family man with a loving wife but the truth is I’m single no kids and with the way my last fiancée did me dirty I’ll probably remain this way cuz I can’t do another failed long lasting relationship it’ll unhinge me I swear 😅🤣
For some reason girls assume I'm experienced or kind of a player... while in reality I'm a loner lol... I remember waiting so long to finally tell the one girl I liked that I have feelings for her only for her to tell me " okay, how many girls did you say that to? 😐.. She was literally the first girl I ever talk to 😅... Also most of my friends were surprised to know I'm single...
People usually assume I’m either single or taken. Most of the time they assume I’m taken because I’m very comfortable having conversations for a long periods of time without being sexual or too flirty. I know how to be patient and make my move when I need to.
Yes, I think they do. I don't know if they assume about me specifically, but I have heard guys say degrading assumptions about how easy it probably is to ask a woman over 30 out because she probably hasn't been asked out in a long time. Or, the boyfriends of these women assume they are going to start 'pestering' them soon about getting married because of their age. It makes me furious!
Unfortunately prejudice is human nature no matter how hard some try to vilify it.
As far as age goes there are things that go along with it too.
The older people get the less they are biologically likely to produce healthy children which turns away many who are in fact looking to procreate. It's somewhat evolutionary people don't know why they do it it's just how they are wired to think in a primal setting
People make a lot of assumptions based on appearances. Did you know most US citizens still assume you’re intelligent if you wear glasses? Haha!
I’m an old, unmarried man with no kids, and i travel for work. So most people probably assume i’m a serial killer. They might be right. 😳
Does she have a ring?
when she catches a guy staring does she stare back and smile?
does she stare at guys?
doesn’t matter. Married and single women do these and the opposite. I’ve even known unattractive women (to me) wear wedding rings to avoid being approached. The fun is the mystery.
all that to say, I can’t really assume anything because all women are different.
We definitely do make assumptions based on age/looks/personality. We tend to think young bright girls are fancy free and older women are married with children and in betweens are in serious long term relationships. Ditto for guys so it is not gender based.
Most of the time its mostly accurate but not always.
I try not to make assumptions. Everyone had different life situations and experiences. Aa friend of mine dated a guy in his mid 30s that owned his own kitchen remodeling business. He had never been on a date before, According to her he was a good looking guy and seemed like a good catch. She wondered why he had never dated. He said he was from a small town that was in the middle of nowhere and there were not many options.
u not sure... lol
people don't really throw their assumptions at me
but one common question I get is "HOW" are you still single...
not why, but how... I think that's a funny one, lol
I never assume anyone is in a relationship. Unless I see them with someone there is nothing that makes anyone look to me like they are attached. Really hot people look like they are worried about not being hot. Everyone looks lonely to me 😂
Everyone at my job knows I'm married. I don't know if other people think I'm single but I do know loads of people keep telling me they think in still in my early 20s so that's a plus.
Men online sometimes are surprised I'm single. It's actually a bit annoying because it comes out like "you're so gorgeous! How are you still single?"
Two things bother me about that: 1) my looks are apparently one of the best things about me 2) Since I'm pretty and not in a relationship, there must be something wrong with me. Otherwise, I'd be snapped up.
Wow.
Women assume I'm married or got a girlfriend. They don't understand I'm chasing money then they finally realize how cold the energy really gets and only then do they not bother.
People make assumptions about others based on all kinds of things. Interestingly, most of the time, they are wrong.
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