My boyfriend is bringing his friends with us to homecoming?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend asked my to go to homecoming with him a couple weeks ago and naturally I said yes. I always assumed it was gonna be a 1 on 1 date thing and I was asking about matching outfits and everything. Then he texted me now asking which of my friends I wanted to bring to homecoming and I was really confused because I thought it was just us. I said I just wanted to go with him as a date but he hasn't responded yet and I don't know what to do. It sounds like he already invited his friends to go with us without telling me anything about it.
I'm fine with his friends but I don't want them to be included in everything. Like recently he's really busy with sports so I ask to hangout after school before his practice, but he always brings his friends and I feel like an afterthought, second to his friends. I just want to hangout with him one on one, go on dates but his friends are always there or he's hanging out with them on weekends and can't go on dates.

What do you guys think

[SnowedIn]

I think there's two things here. One is I think he shy/timid not yet ready for 1:1 with you and he doesn't yet have the maturity and skills to deal with that and communicate that. Also, I think that you both need to communicate: he needs to hear your want/need for this to be 1:1. You need to hear what the genesis is for him to bring a gaggle of folks to what is traditionally a couples event. So, talk to him and get him to talk to you.

[Asker]

Well we have been dating for 4 months now and have been 1:1 many times so I think he is comfortable with that. I jumped the gun though his wording made it sound like he assumed we were going as a group not as a couple and that he had already invited his friends, but really what he meant (he explained later) was to go out to dinner before homecoming with some friends. The thing about hanging out after school with his friends is still there but its mainly my fault for not telling him I would rather it be 1:1. Thank you for the advice and answer! :)

[Chris_Morgan]

Sounds like compatibility issues I guess.

He's a busy guy with his friends and stuff, and you seem to want more one on one attention, and closer bond. I'm not sure if he's that type of person.