I went on a few dates with a guy who I really like. However, recently he told me he doesn‘t date turkish girls (he‘s from Turkey as well) because they ask for too much and are too complicated. I‘m from Europe. I think it is a strange thing of him to say and it makes me wonder if it is a red flag. Is this a bad sign? Does it mean he doesn‘t want to put effort into a relationship?
Traditional girls are for sure different than average European girls: they demand a marriage very early in life and want to settle down, with little or zero requirements about relationship skills and so would easily overlook red flags, but would also listen to their family opinion which means if a guy doesn't have a good salary, he is probably a discouraged pick for her. Said that, it doesn't mean all Turkish girls are traditional, at all. More and more young people are getting westernized there and have a different mindset, or anyway, way more than other middle eastern countries.
Getting a relationship with a traditional woman is probably easier than with a western one who has probably more experience and most likely higher requirements in relationship/communication skills, compatibility, gender equity etc. But getting sex with a traditional woman is probably harder. So that is probably what he means: he might think you are sexually easy because you won't require a marriage before having sex, for example, or any commitment.
Another thing I could think about is that he had bad experiences so far and that ended up in the same type of problems, leading him to think the problem is in the culture of his country. Try to ask him what went wrong with them, for sure he will tell you something convincing about how crazy these girls were (anyone does about their exes) but if they all had the same issues in common then it means -he- triggers those unhealthy behaviours in them because -he- is unhealthy himself (for example if all the girls were too clingy and monitoring, maybe he is avoidant and shady and brought them to react like that. Unless he was actually unlucky and found really bad ones all in a row, yes, but I would keep an eye anyway).
Still, I think the most likely scenario is about easier sex. But that shouldn't discourage you and shouldn't lower your expectations. If you want a relationship, don't compromise on that. Plenty of guys who actually want a relationship, don't start to think "every" guy wants only sex. Just see other female friends who have long term and stable relationships with feelings involved both sides, or guys who are desperately crushing on a girl. I'm sure you can find a lot of examples around you.
Turkish girls tend to be more traditional, he likely see you as an easy european girl.
He’s had one bad experience. We all have. Don’t worry about it
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