So I went out with my coworker and during the end of our first date I asked her if I'd be a positive addition to her life. She said it was too soon for her to know and that she wasn't as fun as she seems. So I suggested that we could help eachother out that way, but she said she still wasn't sure.
By asking that question you are communicating that you don't know your self worth, don't know what you bring to the table, aren't sure of yourself. It only communicates 'not knowing'. It's a good way to lower attraction levels and also manages to demonstrate some sort of need. Asking that alone is a bad idea. Asking it on the first date just amplifies it to being even worse.
'and that she wasn't as fun as she seems.'
The above statement is in response to your 'need' which placed her above you because you were demonstrating you saw her value as more than your own. Her response attempted to bring herself back down to earth. In other words, 'take me down from the pedestal'.
u Dude, that is a question that maybe you could ask a girl after dating her FOR SIX MONTHS, not at the end of the first date.
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