I have a date with a girl today, I texted to confirm the time since I haven’t heard from her since yesterday, should I assume the date is off?

[Anonymous]

So I met this girl on a dating app, she asked me to get drinks and we agreed on 5 tonight. I texted her today confirming the time, since I honestly haven’t heard much from her over the last couple days and she hasn’t responded. Luckily the date is just to get drinks at a bar 5-10 minutes away. I was planning on going regardless and just relaxing for a bit and if she doesn’t show after 30 minutes I’d leave. Does that seem fair?

[Anonymous]

If you haven’t really spoken to her or confirmed the time today I think it’s safe to say she’s had a change of heart, possibly met someone else she’s connecting with more. What would’ve been better is to confirm yesterday at least and that’s even if the conversation had been flowing well. If you insist on going then there’s no harm in having a drink on your own if she doesn’t show. I just think being stood up would really put you out.

[Asker]

I don't know if it would put me out, luckily I am kinda preparing myself. I just don’t want to be the one making assumptions and be the one standing her up by not going. At least if I go, then I’ll know for sure and it won’t be on me

[Opinion Owner]

That last part is very true, and idek maybe it’s just a me thing but I feel like if you haven’t really heard from her or the date hasn’t come up in conversation, then she’s ignoring you today it’s just looking super ghost-y on her behalf. Usually people correspond a bit with plans, especially a first date. Like I said though there’s no harm in going, so if that’s what you do then I hope she shows up, truly.

[desidoll]

Just wait for her text. Maybe she is caught with something. Good idea to just chill there and if she doesn’t show up, yea the date is off then. Plus it is not far from your place.

[TheFlak38]

Yep. She doesn't give a shit about you. It's a dating app. She matched with you, probably received a message from you first, next moment she felt insecure about her looks she thought "what if I'm not pretty enough? Let's see what the dating app says. Aha 1 million more likes and half as many matches. This means I'm pretty" mission accomplished. She doesn't need you anymore.

[Avicenna]

I think your plan is a good one. At a minimum, there are potential concerns here about her communication skills. But you should show up anyway.

[spartan55]

Sounds reasonable. I wouldn't expect her to show up though.

[WhitneySnow]

Sure

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with @desidoll basically