How can I find a boyfriend at bar help?

[Sugar100]

I’m 25 and I never have met a guys family. Christmas Thanksgiving I’ll be alone as my entire family all spend it at bfs families house or married and have babies except for me. The guy I love don’t let me meet his mom and sister. So I need find new random guy & hope we meet family and he can sit next to me and mom for dinner at restraunt and not run away. I never have a guy sit next to me to face my parents. I go to store and all women are next to man and babies &men look at me weird as I’m alone shopping for food home supplies. I feel like loser and depressed I want be happy finally & be apart of a guys family. I’m worried cuz at bar wut if eveyone is with a friend & im alone like a weirdo? Don’t people just sit at bars and drink? i want sit at the bar but worry no one will approach me & I’ll be a retard just sitting few hours there bored.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I always say if you want to meet people you have to go out & greet people & as for you don’t worry & don’t be afraid to go out by yourself as well. As for love it’s out there & as for love it can kick you in the ass when you least expect it. As for you a boyfriend awaits & you don’t have to limit finding someone at a bar you can find a boyfriend anywhere if you really look. As for me if it were within my power to beam to you instantly I would absolutely have a drink with you & maybe a pizza as well.

[Sugar100]

Yea but I’m not looking for a boyfriend, I want meet family. That’s y I’m sad with current boyfriend I won’t see anymore we do everything as couple Except meet family and holidays I’m alone since last year as I have no guy invite me with his family holidays.

[Sugar100]

I don’t want date more years a new guy. I want meet family only few dates that’s it. Date more after meeting family first

[Sugar100]

Meeting family isn’t serious it doesn’t mean marriage lol even teenagers 15 meet parents. Then break up. Meet other girls parents. Break up. It’s nothing serious

[Sugar100]

That stupid u can’t find boyfriend anywhere 🙄 I go out shopping and all men r next to girl and baby no one shopping is looking for a girlfriend instead men give me weird nasty looks as I’m alone no man.

[Sugar100]

Men get angry seeing me buy food and home supplies alone while everyone is holding hands with man and babies

[Static_In_The_Attic]

🥽..

[FunnyGiy]

Bars to me aren’t the best place to look. A lot of men there just want sex. I’m not saying good people don’t go to bars.

Sure. If you see a handsome guy. Talk to him. Ask him out. If he says no. Then try to find another one.

You need to find a man who doesn’t want sex. If you wait until marriage. A guy just wanting sex likely won’t wait that long or make that kind of commitment just to sleep with you.

[Sugar100]

First of all I don’t want marry. I want find a boyfriend who can meet my family. The guy I love don’t let me meet his family. That’s not true I know a couple they had sex on first date and now married. It just depends if u get lucky or not. U can be married and guy cheats n u r single mom stuck with kids from having sex. Me and boyfriend rarely had sex but I’m not meeting family. It’s just dates no intamicy no meeting family. On here I see girls saying they hav sex daily n in public every single women has many kids with guy. They must be having a lot of sex to have so many kids

[FunnyGiy]

You’re obviously not going to get married until later down the road. What I mean by marriage is lookout for someone to marry. I wouldn’t recommend marring anyone after true first date. Sorry I was not clear on that.

As far as it goes. If you have a boyfriend. You need to break up with him before you find another one.

Maybe there is reasons he doesn’t want you meeting his family. But regardless. If you don’t want him break up before dating someone else

[FunnyGiy]

Well. If they get divorced then…. I don’t know what to tell you.

You asked for advice and I gave jr to you. I’m sick and tired of arguing with people on here over stuff like this. So take my advice or leave it. Have a good night

[Sugar100]

I can’t forver never meet family. Dates isn’t a boyfriend , I think a boyfriend is meeting family only. Wut if I’m pregnant n I still don’t know his mom and ssiter? they will be like who the fuck is carrying my sons baby? i don’t want marry , I just want find a guy to meet family. I feel all men run away from meeting parents. 😞it’s not normal all girls r with bfs family

[Sugar100]

I don’t have a boyfriend. I’m alone entire month. Thanksgiving Christmas I’ll be alone no boyfriend to invite me to his families house to celebrate

[FunnyGiy]

Well. If you marry someone. Yeah you will know their family. It’s not good to have kids out of wedlock.

[FunnyGiy]

Yes. I understand that a date doesn’t make someone a boyfriend. But this is also why someone shouldn’t have sex on the first date.

Because sex will be nothing special for someone you marry.

[FunnyGiy]

Well. Then you need to ask a guy out. See how things go and see later on if you want him as your boyfriend

[Sugar100]

I have gone on 200 dates lol I have been dating this guy 2 YEARS and he don’t let me meet his family. U don’t need marry to meet family. U need meet family as boyfriend girlfriend. U can’t marry first as ur family will be like who the fuck did u marry y we don’t know this guy?

[Sugar100]

If u ask any girl on here they will say they met their bfs fmaily fast u don’t meet family til marriage where did u hear that?

[Sugar100]

Since I was a child men rejected me wen I ask them out. I don’t ask men out lol u either meet someone at bar or dating app and they will ask for date I can’t ask. Also I thought meeting for dates was a boyfriend now I need wait for new guy ask me be his girlfriend? I don’t get it

[FunnyGiy]

Then you need to break it off with this guy or 2 years.

[FunnyGiy]

If you don’t know someone’s family. Then yeah I don’t know about marriage.

Marriage comes later on.

[FunnyGiy]

If a man rejects you. Then it’s his loss. But if you wait for men to ask you out. Then you’re not going to be able to choose men you want.

If a man wants you. He will say yes.

[FunnyGiy]

If he don’t want you. Then you’re not wasting your time waiting on him

[Sugar100]

He reply we aren’t married ! If I want meet his mom or sister or soemthing like go to mall with him and mom that’s what he replies

[FunnyGiy]

Then break it off with him if you’re not happy. And find someone else.

[Sugar100]

I just want meet family. Now since u said at bar no one will want meet my parents where do I go then?

[Sugar100]

I don’t want date new guy either for 2-5 years and then meet parents.

[FunnyGiy]

I don’t know if they will or not. I said it’s not the best place to look.

But you need to break it off with the guy you’re dating first before you go find sole one else.

[FunnyGiy]

*someone else

[FunnyGiy]

Then if he refuses to let you meet them. Then break it off with him too.

[Sugar100]

if new random
Guy won’t meet my parents fast then he’ll be dumped in trash

[Sugar100]

I want look in a bar becuz I cannot install my dating app have issue with apple they might let me log back into my account next wk not sure

[FunnyGiy]

I mean. It might not be the first date he meets your parents. But definitely not 2 years down the road.

[Sugar100]

Unless I wait to install the app and begin looking after next wk? I like the app as we can agree meet up rather than me being a retard alone at bar and no one knows I’m looking for boyfriend to meet parents.

[FunnyGiy]

Then to look at a bar. I’m the same way about online dating.

[FunnyGiy]

Then you have to ask men out. If they reject you they reject you.

As you said. A lot of men won’t approach. Because they’re just there to have a good time.

Some men are in relationships or simply not attracted to you. But you never know unless you ask.

If you only wait on men to approach you. Then you can’t pick who you want.

[FunnyGiy]

You also need to break it off with the current guy.

[Sugar100]

I won’t wait one year either to meet parents It would be much faster like after few dates or one month or after 2 wks meet parents.

[FunnyGiy]

Yeah that might be better. Depending. Maybe a few months even. To see how things are going.

But. Before you dare someone else you need to call it off. You have referred to him as your boyfriend in another post so

[Sugar100]

Few months is long time still. Maybe one month the most.

[Sugar100]

I won’t even like the new guy I honestly just want taste first time at 25-26 what it’s like meet a Bfs parents be happy

[FunnyGiy]

Then that’s your standard. One month is fine.

What do you mean first taste?

[Sugar100]

I never have met a guys parents. I want taste (experience ) first time finally at age 25 what it’s like meet guys family, spend holidays with boyfriend, go to bfs family bday party or barbecue. No one wants give me chance and taste all of that

[Sugar100]

I won’t break it off with boyfriend. We don’t meet family so maybe we hav no relationship. I think breaking it off would be if u met guys family and all. We haven’t even talked or met for one month. His family member passed so he disappeared one month now.. 3 wks and next wk will be one month I haven’t seen or heard of him

[Sugar100]

I just feel not good as in public men stare at me with disgust angry face I don't know why. I shop often for food home supplies cleaning supplies, like all married people do and everyone at store is with guy and kids, no girl is alone like me. I feel so stupid like a loser 😞

[Sugar100]

I feel worthless like all those women r desired by man that they have man next to them 24/7 wen shopping 24/7 together , they r worthy of getting pregnant by man and have man drooling over them. And I’m a loser alone shopping for food 😞

[Sugar100]

Only 2x in last years I have shopped with boyfriend at store. Like a real store. Other times we have shopped at swampmeet or at vendor events as he likes horror stuff n he shops while I just follow him

[FunnyGiy]

You’re not stupid or a loser. You have a guy. But… you don’t seem to be happy.

Some people give people dirty looks in public especially around where I live. It’s just how people are.

[FunnyGiy]

If you’re trying to meet another guy in a relationship with him. This is cheating and other guys will see you where cheating worn them. They will figure you’ll cheat on them.

[FunnyGiy]

If you’re not gonna break it off then you have to make it work

[Sugar100]

Are they mad I’m alone shopping for stuff like a married women? Or think I’m rich stupid girl alone? I don’t get it it’s a lot of men looking at me weird. it’s crazy how everyone is married or with boyfriend and babies. I don't know how they r worthy of being married. I cook clean work, & no man come home to me daily.

[Sugar100]

I don’t even feel I have a guy, like I said he’s been gone 3 wks and counting.. his family member passed so he disapeared. I’m just alone eat n work n cry.

[FunnyGiy]

I have no idea. Maybe you got in their way or something or are just being judgmental and don’t even know you.

[FunnyGiy]

But. You won’t break it off with him. If he’s so bad. Why stay with him? You call him your boyfriend. Yet you’re looking for another guy.

[Sugar100]

I prob won’t go to bar I’ll need wait one week so I can download the dating app. I’m depresed as I can’t install the app as I hav issues with Apple ID

[FunnyGiy]

Then break it off with your current boyfriend. First and foremost. You’re not even happy and you would probably be better off alone then with someone you’re miserable with

[Sugar100]

They prob think I’m stupid weirdo for shopping without a man next to me n everyone else has guy drooling for them shopping together

[Sugar100]

There’s nothing to break off. We aren’t even talking for almost a month now. He disappeared after he family member passed. We never even hav intamicy and girls on here say they have sex daily with boyfriend or 10x a day.

[Sugar100]

Notice how no girl is commenting. Strange. They r silent as they fear the secret they have to meet parents will be exposed so they can keep all the men wanting meet family. That’s y no women is trying to help me find a boyfriend.

[FunnyGiy]

Then tell him. It’s over. Also. People who are married should have sex. If a unmarried couple is having sex 10 times a day. Then that’s all the relationship is

[Sugar100]

I won’t tell him anything. I’ll just avoid meet him that’s it.

[FunnyGiy]

You need to officially end it. But that’s my advice take it or leave it.

[FunnyGiy]

This could get in a bad situation. You have to end the relationship you’re in you can tell him it’s over and then block him if you need to.

Better then leaving him in the dark.

[Sugar100]

We don’t meet family tho lol there won’t be any difference by not seeing him. There’s nothing to end cuz we never met family. He can just meet other friend instead of me

[FunnyGiy]

You call him your boyfriend. So evidently there is something. Even if it’s not much

[Guy13]

Good luck but a martini or wine bar is usually a good spot for your deal.

[Sugar100]

Thanks for the tip

[Sugar100]

So guys that want meet family will be at martini wine bar?

[Guy13]

www.meetup.com

[Sugar100]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Why are you planning to find a new boyfriend without first breaking up with the current boyfriend, though?
That's a bad foundation for any kind of happiness search.

Second: going to a bar as you envision may work to get sex, not love and a solid relationship based on respect.

[Sugar100]

We’ll we never met family so there isn’t any relationship to break off. I haven’t met him in one month now too, haven’t heard from him in one month as his family member passed away he disapeared suddenly. I would try start looking for random new guy til after one week as I cannot download the dating app as Apple ID blocked my account. Rn I can’t look for a boyfriend. Kinda stuck til that issue gets resolved.

[Opinion Owner]

After going to a bar, using a dating app may be the second wrongest way to do what you want to.

Why not try... to make it happen in everyday life?

[Sugar100]

I go to store daily & all men r with girl & babies I’m only women alone shopping. That is worst way find a boyfriend lol dating app is perfect way find a boyfriend

[Sugar100]

U need to understand men don’t flock to me like birds I’m too short , and skinny chicken arms chicken legs I’m not hot thick women with surgery men don’t like skinny women

[Sugar100]

Men don’t drool for me. So it’s hard get a boyfriend

[Sugar100]

I’m used to no from guys. No no no no

[darealmvp2015]

The best advice my dad ever gave to me was this, “If you meet ‘em at the bar you leave ‘em at the bar.”

[Sugar100]

So where do I find a guy that wants meet family? I go out to stores daily and all men r shopping with girl and babies. I even get weird stares by men as I’m alone buying home supplies while all women r next to a man. I can’t use a dating app as I have issue with my applie ID it got blocked and will get issue solved in one week maybe. So I can’t download new apps..

[darealmvp2015]

So wait a week? I mean I know it cannot all be taken guys, since I’m roughly your age and I don’t have a wife nor a child, so we do exist.

And nobody is going to want to meet family if that’s what you’re opening with. That’s a creepy way to open, honestly. Like they want to date you, not your family. So maybe chill about the family thing and just let that develop organically.

[Sugar100]

Yea but my entire family bring bfs gfs to meet family. A boyfriend isn’t dating I think it’s being with your family. Holidays family leave at Bfs house. Or u bring boyfriend to dinner with mom at restraunt for your bday , etc

[darealmvp2015]

You might need to stop comparing your self and your life to everyone around you. I don’t know what you look like but I do know one thing for sure.

Have you ever heard of Siegfried and Roy? If not allow me to enlighten you. The two of them were a super famous act in Las Vegas for many years. Look them up. They were both lion tamers. They also both happened to be gay. They fell in love and the rest is history. What I’m saying here, is that they each found not only another homosexual male to love, they both found ANOTHER HOMOSEXUAL LION TAMER. Do you know what the odds of that are? My entire point is that there is someone out there for literally everyone. Quit worrying yourself about it and let it come to you. It will happen, you just need to be patient. No dude in his right mind is going to go for you meeting them and immediately saying that you want to meet their family or they need to meet yours. That’s weird. Give it time to develop naturally and you’ll be just fine. Guaranteed.

[Sugar100]

I waited 25 years and. No guy is showing up asking to meet parents

[darealmvp2015]

Key here is to not just wait, but wait patiently. It sounds as if you’re being anything but patient.

[FilmGuy93]

Why would you want to find a man at a bar? That's the single worst place to find a partner. Help out at a local charity or something.

[chicosuave]

as soon as i saw that ur in a relationship i skipped the question

[Sugar100]

I’m not in a relationship anymore. I’m alone daily.

[Sugar100]

I want find a guy to meet each other’s family

[alance99]

You can try dating apps, look for local clubs in your area

[Sugar100]

If u read I cannot download dating app as Apple ID blocked my account. They might fix issue til one week so for now I’m stuck alone in bed unable look for boyfriend on dating app I’m stuck!!!

[alance99]

Search for clubs in your area, like reading, fashion etc

[Sugar100]

Worst place find a boyfriend

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That’s probably one of the last places you’ll want to get funky with anyone

[Sugar100]

I won’t meet boyfriend at random store lol I go out daily to stores. & all men r with girl and baby, I’m only women shopping alone

[Sugar100]

U do know there’s no other place find a boyfriend right?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I just know it’s best to leave it be

[Alperengin4]

dont worry someone will approach you if they dont their loss just enjoy yourself

[Sugar100]

Worst advice ever

[Alperengin4]

why lol

[exitseven]

I thought you already had a boyfriend.

[Sugar100]

We don’t meet family & i siendo holidays alone

[Sugar100]

Spend **

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Why does it even have to be from a bar?

[Celticwolf78]

Come to Missouri and u can find what ur wanting

[Anonymous]

I want to marry you!

[Sugar100]

I don’t want marry , I want meet a guys mom & dad be intoduced as his girlfriend that’s it

[Opinion Owner]

Are you worthy for that? are you intelligent? beautiful? etc?

[Sugar100]

Obvisouly I’m smart beautiful, u think I’m a stupid retard or something? I cook clean loyal, alone daily, work, I’m settled down in life

[Sugar100]

I like be with family and looking for guy that likes to meet family be with each other’s family too also a family person. Not someone that will say I’m with MY FAMILY and exclude me from joining them

[Opinion Owner]

Then I am not sure why you worry so much, just find the right person. I would surely take you to meet my family anytime thinking very hyphotetical, even tempted to settle down with you not because you cook or clean, I do those too, just part of life but becaus you are such a family person, few persons are in a genuine way family lovers.

[Sugar100]

Wel the guy I date is fmaily guy , but we don’t meet family. I’m sad cuz any new guy I find won’t be a guy I love or smitten for, so I won’t be glowing excited bringing him to meet family 😞 my butterflies are for the other guy that don’t meet my family or his

[Opinion Owner]

I understand, sorry to hear that

[Anonymous]

Shocking question