My boyfriend told me his type is confident woman who is straightforward. He said he hasn't met any girl like that. When i asked him why he is with me if i'm not his type he said that he wants to experiment and experience different stuff. Is he serious about me? i am confused because he said he wants more than casual
My opinion may sound strange in your ears.
But if you have lost your virginity to him already and you really want to make things work, then sometimes a change can be a sacrifice. You must be wary though that a relationship should be balanced. If you sacrifice things and he doesn't, then you don't get the same love in return that you actually deserve.
The fact that you're wondering whether you should change, means he really has a great girlfriend already. I believe that in a relationship we must addapt at times to make things work. But don't let it pull out of proportion.
If you have not engaged in sex with him yet, and you're still virgin, I recommend to stand your ground first. Research pointed out that marriages are generally happier when partners had only one sexual partner in their lives. Before you give virginity to a man, you must really wonder whether this is the one you want to grow old with.
That is my opinion, and I also live with those values. Try to work things out with him. Many people will call your boyfriend's statement a red flag, but I think you should talk with him first and consider for yourself whether it is possible and whether it will make you happy.
Kind regards ^^
There’s a balance in there. First thing is to better communicate and define what “his type is” in his head. At that point, you will know if he is realistic snd whether you can meet those expectations and demands. It is a process and not a panic button. Make him express what he means BEFORE trying to accommodate. If he loves you then he will jump at the opportunity to explain and mold you into his little princess. WALK CAREFULLY!!
If a guy said I wasn't his type, I would break it off with him and tell her m to go find what he's looking for. Don't ever turn yourself into a pretzel for a guy like him. He is using you for sex. And then he's going to break it off with you anyway when he feels like experiencing someone else.
Every way you look at this, you two will never be the girl for him, cause he will always be looking for "The one".
You deserve to have someone love you for who you are right now. No need to change.
I bet he goes on a lot of dating sites looking for the perfect girl.
Let go of this guy now and don't leave scratch marks as he's going. Guys like him are a dime a dozen!
No, he just told you he's settling for you right now. Instead trying to be something you're not for him, you need to leave and tell him to go get what he really wants. Find a guy who actually likes you and sees you as his type.
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Red Flag #1
"he said that he wants to experiment and experience different stuff."
You're his petri dish, his social/sexual experiment. He's trying you on to see how you fit because you're "different" from the kind of girl he knows he likes. How does THAT sit with you?
Red Flag #2
Is he serious about me? - IF he were serious, he'd never call you his "experiment".
Red Flag #3
i am confused because he said he wants more than casual - You're not confused, you're rationalizing and denying. You're denying his actions and because you "want" to believe his words.
"Should I try and be the type of girl he likes?" You should just BE the girl you ARE. Being a confident person is a great trait. If you're not, then you should develop that for your OWN self because you'll need it, not because he thinks it's sexy.
This guy doesn't sound like much of a catch.
Respect yourself and walk away from that bullshit. He’s using you and isn’t afraid to flat out admit it which means he respects you even less. What a piece of a shit.
However someone else tells me he is likely an all around asshole and that itself sadly made him more attractive to you. Not saying you deserve that emotional abuse but I got a feeling the writing was already on the wall earlier. But this makes him a “challenge” to you.
If that above happens to be true and you don’t dump him by the end of the week then you will lose my sympathy tbh. I hate seeing this bullshit. Most men would never say something like that insulting even if they are thinking it.
Cuz your boyfriend is manipulative and putting that over your head to make you feel not that important to him , you should probably reconsider that relationship, when a partner can belittle or criticize their partner that is a sure sign that they are the piece of shit , it’s a narcissist trait basically manipulative tactic that pieces of shit use when they only like the convenience of someone , The reason he is still with you is because you are convenient to him , He will probably string you along until someone better in his mind comes in the picture , so do yourself a favor and kick his ass to the curb and don’t tolerate manipulative abuse from someone , when someone loves you and adores you they compliment you and are happy to be with you , when someone just likes the convenience of you all they care about is themselves , they are a selfish piece of shit that doesn’t deserve someone like you
I don’t see a happy bright holly jolly future with this trashy boyfriend you have sorry
He clearly told you you are not his type ! If he finds someone who’s his type he is going to most likely break up with you
And don’t listen to idiots here telling you how you should change ! How can you change yourself for a dickhead. Or another comment saying if you lost virginity to him then well stay with him etc. Ok no one in this matrix cares about your virginity anymore if you are confused lost distracted no sure …..
who gives a shit about virginity get out if there he isn’t the one
Don’t waist your precious time
Your boyfriend isn't much unlike me in taste about women. Like I did (I am over 40), by numerous experiences, he will learn that the kind of straight expression and talk he hopes to get from women in romance is totally against what woman nature makes women do in romance.
Women can be straight-talking with everyone and in every context, except with the men they are in romance with, or married to.
Though luck, but hating it won't change it. Man-woman romance is, by dictates of nature itself, a battleground, and not a place to hug and cheer. Like in all battle scenarios, openness of mind and frankness of speech aren't featured there.
Let’s be honest. This isn’t a good start for the relationship when he flat out tells you he’s not your type. It sounds like he’s just dating you because he’s bored and hasn’t broken up with you because he hasn’t found anyone else to go to after you. If you’re having doubts about the relationship, you should break up with him. At least then you can see if he’s serious and wants to be with you. If he just lets you go without a fight then he really wasn’t interested in the first place but if he begs you to stay and shares his feelings for you, then you may be his type after all.
Boys don't usually know what they really want... hell, girls are like that, too! Don't think too much about that part. But, if he isn't expressing that he wants to be seriously pursuing you, then believe it... he's not lying. Have fun in the relationship and just enjoy yourselves, but don't expect it to be anything lasting.
Well, perhaps he likes more than one thing, hm? Or rather he’s pushing outside of his boundaries of what he’s comfortable with to try something new.
I thought I had a certain type before, only to date someone outside of that and then find out that I also like this other thing. I mean, it happened when I dated a man and it lasted longer than any of my other relationships have-
So you’re an experiment to him? Yea Id have been done with the relationship then and there. Ill be honest that my girlfriend isn’t my perfect type. But I stay because she has a lot of Amazing qualities and we love each other. My mind set is we could spend forever chasing perfection. Or we could chase actual attainable attributes ( love, loyalty, trust, honesty, etc) first and with a bit of luck maybe the rest will follow.
Don't have to be someones type to like them. If people only went by a strict type it would be a very narrow dating pool.
Longs if there no major issues in personality differences it don't really matter about type.
Though his answer here don't bring much confidence if he's talking about it been casual. (Pun not intended.)
Well. From on point, he must just accepting the fact that he cannot find a girl the way he wants her and just settling down. At the same time, do you want to be with someone who feels like settling down even if he's going to take you serious?
trying to be someone you are not never works.
Sadly, I think he is with you until he finds someone else, that way he is not alone.
I think it is time to set him free and find someone that likes you for exactly who you are.
No, you should dump him and date a man who thinks you are his type.
NO! Be your own person. He needs to find the type that he wants and you need to move on.
The question is why are you dating him.
He continues to date you so he has sex on tap.
You dont wanna do that what a shitty thing to say you might just need to tell him to kick rocks there are plenty of dudes your type
Yeah that’s crazy. Move on. Let him find his type
He's with you because he sees potential in you.
No. This is his way of saying, "I'll have sex with you till something else comes along." No reason to stay with someone who openly rejected you like that.
He may or may not stay or may find someone else. I don't trust this guy. Neither should u, cookie.
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