I have confessed to the whom I crushed for almost a year on his birthday. He said that nice to know but he isn't interested in commitments right now.. not only with me but with anyone.. he also said that he's focused on his life for now and that we can continue to be senior and junior mates. What should I do should I move on or should I wait for him
Move on and don't ever chase a man.
Many men with limited morals will see that and use you for sex, money and emotional labour.
If men don't want you they will still be in a relationship. Men can hate you and still have sex with you.
It's annoying but this is why you should never chase a man. You can show interest but he needs to put in effort to convince you to share your time.
Of a guy wants you, you'll know about it. You'll never be confused or have to wonder. He won't let your suffer or struggle. Even if he doesn't know you but has simply decided he likes the way you look.
Many men will try to shame you throughout your life to sleep with them, even though they don't like you. They just want sex. Don't let them in your head. There are good men but they're not a majority so be careful with yourself.
Don't ever wait for anyone, move on... do your best to find someone else.
There is always the possibility that down the road, the time may come again with him, but whatever you do, don't waste time waiting or trying to convince him... you have a life to live as well.
You EACH have made your long term focus clear.
HE sees you as 'friends with benefits' unless and until someone 'better' comes along... then when he 'ghosts' you... he can feel he wasn't 'unfaithful' to his uncommitted relationship of HIS convenience.
Move on from this selfish prick; youth, beauty and allure are 'perishable' commodities YOU will never be able to reclaim. ~ ;)
------A man will commit for the right woman, don't be fooled by the "not for anyone" speech. Time to move on if you want something serious.
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Nothing you can do. He is not interested in a relationship at all at the moment, best thing to do is take the rejection and move on. Do not waste your time by hoping and waiting he'll change his mind.
You should move on. Definitely. For sure. I'm very sorry.
Why would you be waiting for someone that already told you he doesn't want to commit to anyone? You should move on and find someone that wants to commit, someone that will propose.
Personally, I can't ever imagine doing the proposal to my fiance. Traditions were there for a reason. Why would a woman propose on something most of us want anyway? Let the man do his job at proposing. If he doesn't, then move on.
Wow. He gave a non-answer. He’s not interested in you, even though we all agree you are a catch, and he doesn’t feel like being confrontational so he gave the generic “I’m focused on my life goals and don’t have time for a relationship right now”. I would move on.
He is just being nice. He wants a relationship if a girl is pretty enough and you are not, but he is not going to hurt you feelings an tell you that.
he is just being honest. the question that comes into play of "Where do you see yourself in 5 years " or Where do you HOPE to see yourself in 5 years". It comes down to independent thinking which in reality job interviewers ask this question all the time to get a feel on someone's personality where only someone who is true themselves and only themselves where nothing in life is guaranteed
Hahahaha! Yes, at eighteen you should DEFINITELY move on. Hahaha!
You’ve got a lot of single life to live before you commit, and a lot of courting to do before you settle down for life. Don’t be in such a rush.
Time and tide wait for no man, and neither should you. There's only yes and no and it's no. Pay no attention to the reasons people give for rejecting you.
Move on and forget the crush thing, if he really wanted he would just be clear to you. He didn't want to sound rude by saying no so he made an excuse so just forget him.
If he changes his mind he will come after you
Honestly tell him you were JUST KIDDING & tell him you saw it on TikTok & wanted to see his reaction. Play it off you still have a chance.
He’s not ready. You’re still kids. I can’t blame him. You had your time together. Sounds like you are in two different head spaces.
yeah move on, he's not looking for anything, maybe something could happen in the future but stay friends
We live in a world that has long forgotten and even ashamed of traditional values.
The fact you had to ask him is already a red flag.
End of story.
I would move on. It would be a shame if you would wait on someone who isn't sure about what to do next when some other seemingly great guy comes along, but you don't go for it.
He has been honest with you. Was he under the impression that you were also not interested in a permanent relationship. No one is a mind reader.
Definitely move on and focus your attention on a different person.
He's smart. He knows how things are now. If I were you, I wouldn't chase after him. Tbh, a lot of us just aren't interested anymore. Fuckboys and pimps are, of course, because females are their lifeblood, but the rest of us are just disengaging.👋
Move on. If he was interested he would have gone for it.
He's made it explicitly clear that he doesn't want you. Why would you wait for someone who doesn't want you?
Move on, people who think that bad timing exists for the right person, are not marriage material.
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