Do you do Google searches on people you're about to go on dates with?

[Bethany22]

And if you do, do you pretend that you haven't researched them, and ask them questions during the date that you already know the answers to due to your research, or do you let on that you already know stuff about them? Does the research you do about them make you more hooked/obsessed with them? Do you research them primarily to gauge whether their safe to meet in private, or because you want to know whether they're a good potential partner?

Yes I research them

No I don't research them

[MCheetah]

No. Because that's creepy and paranoid. I wouldn't want to waste my time with someone who needed to background check my entire internet history and decides not to be with me because in 2016, I said something on Reddit about how "people should stop wishing to see Trump shot in the head or murdered," so that must make me "an alt-right Nazi, white supremacist" in their eyes.

In fact, I brought up Reddit because this kind of online faggotry is exactly what they did on that site; spend hours coming your "history" to cherrypick a few lines to try to publicly assassinate your character with. A date doing that, sounds like a real piece of sh*t person.

You're going out to a public place for coffee with someone; you're not moving in with them.

[Rosexøxø]

I’ve done it with online people I would consider dating. I don’t see why people can’t do that regardless of meeting status, before they go on a date.

Saftey first. Make sure they’re medically stable and mentally stable. I mean.. financially stable as well! Date a stable- or “*hardworking and able,* with good insight” person, not someone who is unstable and gonna light you up! Lmao

A wise person is someone who researches their product before buying, and a wise person is someone who knows a person before saying you’d just go waste time together, catch a bullet for the other, and shed blood, sweat, and tears for them.

Weigh the options.

It’s not cruel to keep someone in a “friend circle,” than a “close-to-heart-and-home” circle. That’s just being healthy.

[Rosexøxø]

Voted A 🤜🤛

[NotMyRealBirth]

When you search on Google, did you ever found your date there? (in the search results)

[Rosexøxø]

@NotMyRealBirth a few times, yeah. Other times I hadn’t, but it was fine because the relationship never took off anyways lol

[Labokachulaa]

I've done a Google search on two people, one was someone I dated who I found out he was A LOT older than he told me he was. The second person was someone who stalked me. After that I did one on myself and I saw how easy it is for someone to actually stalk you. It listed way too much of my personal information.

I think everyone should do a Google search on themselves. It's quite scary or at least for me it is, because you never know what someone will do with the information.

[CaptainOverthink]

Back in 2014 and further back it was a creepy move and would never have been accepted... from a man.
It would not at all surprise me if that's changed now that people grow up on social media and it's just so easy to get away with things online. IRL though, everything is on camera and you burn for other people's impression of who you are, context excluded.

Speaking of context..
Back to the question..

I don't research people. Partly because I shouldn't and partly because It will be harder for me to act natural if I have my mind filled up with details, I do live up to my username.

[coachTanthony]

Yes I do a little digital footprint check via google facebook and spydialer.

[DizzyDesii]

Always. ain't nobody safe lol. I shouldve worked in cyber crime or something because i can easily find people online without knowing the basics

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Oh geese! There you go!

[DizzyDesii]

@Wish4UrB00ty i didn't wanna major in criminal justice though after watching Quantico

[blackgaletiger]

Honestly this never crossed my mind. I also dont really see the point either because a person may have different accounts for different platforms under different names. If I find one what am i really looking for and is it enough to make a judgment of this person based on a small sample size. I would much rather have my date define who they are in person and not their web or social media platforms.

[TheVigilantOne]

No I don’t Google my potential partner 🤣


I do however turn CSI on them if I smell a rat.


A couple of people who I was going to date said things that didn’t add up so I will research then and then I’d dump them if I found out it was all lies.

[Phoenix98]

Call me old fashioned but I think the mystery and learning about each other is part of the fun don’t you agree?

and no I don’t it’s kinda creep behavior and is sorta one step away from cyber stalking in my opinion.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, I haven't actually thought of that. But I don't want to. After all, people post what they Want us to see. And the bad stuff we leave out, right?

[SnowedIn]

I've never done that. Did have to do it for a boss once for people he met with but never dates.

[NathanDavis]

no, I NEVER date strangers... lol

I only go out with people I already know enough of that was always worked for me the best

[BeMuse]

I don't use Google. It's a CIA mass surveillance tool.

[Curiosity2006]

lol What do you use? *cough*Newspapers?*cough*

[BeMuse]

@Curiosity2006 I use a anonymous decentralized search engine which provides much better information results than google.

[BeMuse]

@Curiosity2006 I've consistently know endless things years to decades before the average person. That should tell you how much Google censors what you are allowed to know.

[Curiosity2006]

Okay, maybe a VPN is best for all intents and purposes though!

[BeMuse]

@Curiosity2006 A VPN isn't a search index

[Curiosity2006]

So you mean you're not worried about going under surveillance, but having the material shown to you under it / affected by it is in question?

[BeMuse]

@Curiosity2006 A VPN's purpose is to mask your IP. It's not going to find information for you.

[Curiosity2006]

Okay! Thanks a lot <3

[dustybiker]

People I was interested in back at the time still do not do social media.

[jshm2]

Don't be daft. You should do your due diligence before the date, not the night before.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, that would be redundant.

Never date a stranger, only date them if you have known them well for years.

[chicosuave]

they will never find me because my accounts are too secret.

[Jamie05rhs]

Everyone should always research someone that they are about to meet for the first time. This is a best practice of dating safety.

[magiusX26]

this day and age, with this resource readily available, it is foolish not to research.

[Googlemyahoo]

Didn’t have that luxury when I dated. Had to actually get to know them in person 😬

[Alex8736]

if they seem a little off I'll do a CORI check on them which would be the best $25 I have ever spent especially if they have a shady past

[KostasKouvalis]

I always snoop around her social medias to find out if she's single then proceed from there

[LiamJHayden]

No, but I might if we get past the first few dates.

[Avatar74]

I just take them as I see them, we either are compatible or not