Do you do Google searches on people you're about to go on dates with?

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And if you do, do you pretend that you haven't researched them, and ask them questions during the date that you already know the answers to due to your research, or do you let on that you already know stuff about them? Does the research you do about them make you more hooked/obsessed with them? Do you research them primarily to gauge whether their safe to meet in private, or because you want to know whether they're a good potential partner?

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I’ve done it with online people I would consider dating. I don’t see why people can’t do that regardless of meeting status, before they go on a date.

Saftey first. Make sure they’re medically stable and mentally stable. I mean.. financially stable as well! Date a stable- or “*hardworking and able,* with good insight” person, not someone who is unstable and gonna light you up! Lmao

A wise person is someone who researches their product before buying, and a wise person is someone who knows a person before saying you’d just go waste time together, catch a bullet for the other, and shed blood, sweat, and tears for them.

Weigh the options.

It’s not cruel to keep someone in a “friend circle,” than a “close-to-heart-and-home” circle. That’s just being healthy.

Labokachulaa · Accepted Answer

I've done a Google search on two people, one was someone I dated who I found out he was A LOT older than he told me he was. The second person was someone who stalked me. After that I did one on myself and I saw how easy it is for someone to actually stalk you. It listed way too much of my personal information.

I think everyone should do a Google search on themselves. It's quite scary or at least for me it is, because you never know what someone will do with the information.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

No. Because that's creepy and paranoid. I wouldn't want to waste my time with someone who needed to background check my entire internet history and decides not to be with me because in 2016, I said something on Reddit about how "people should stop wishing to see Trump shot in the head or murdered," so that must make me "an alt-right Nazi, white supremacist" in their eyes.

In fact, I brought up Reddit because this kind of online faggotry is exactly what they did on that site; spend hours coming your "history" to cherrypick a few lines to try to publicly assassinate your character with. A date doing that, sounds like a real piece of sh*t person.

You're going out to a public place for coffee with someone; you're not moving in with them.

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

Back in 2014 and further back it was a creepy move and would never have been accepted... from a man.
It would not at all surprise me if that's changed now that people grow up on social media and it's just so easy to get away with things online. IRL though, everything is on camera and you burn for other people's impression of who you are, context excluded.

Speaking of context..
Back to the question..

I don't research people. Partly because I shouldn't and partly because It will be harder for me to act natural if I have my mind filled up with details, I do live up to my username.

coachTanthony · Answer

Yes I do a little digital footprint check via google facebook and spydialer.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Always. ain't nobody safe lol. I shouldve worked in cyber crime or something because i can easily find people online without knowing the basics

blackgaletiger · Answer

Honestly this never crossed my mind. I also dont really see the point either because a person may have different accounts for different platforms under different names. If I find one what am i really looking for and is it enough to make a judgment of this person based on a small sample size. I would much rather have my date define who they are in person and not their web or social media platforms.

TheVigilantOne · Answer

No I don’t Google my potential partner 🤣

I do however turn CSI on them if I smell a rat.

A couple of people who I was going to date said things that didn’t add up so I will research then and then I’d dump them if I found out it was all lies.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Call me old fashioned but I think the mystery and learning about each other is part of the fun don’t you agree?

and no I don’t it’s kinda creep behavior and is sorta one step away from cyber stalking in my opinion.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, I haven't actually thought of that. But I don't want to. After all, people post what they Want us to see. And the bad stuff we leave out, right?

SnowedIn · Answer

I've never done that. Did have to do it for a boss once for people he met with but never dates.

NathanDavis · Answer

no, I NEVER date strangers... lol I only go out with people I already know enough of that was always worked for me the best

BeMuse · Answer

I don't use Google. It's a CIA mass surveillance tool.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, that would be redundant.  Never date a stranger, only date them if you have known them well for years.

dustybiker · Answer

People I was interested in back at the time still do not do social media.

chicosuave · Answer

they will never find me because my accounts are too secret.

jshm2 · Answer

Don't be daft. You should do your due diligence before the date, not the night before.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Everyone should always research someone that they are about to meet for the first time. This is a best practice of dating safety.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, how paranoid and insecure do you have to be to do that?

magiusX26 · Answer

this day and age, with this resource readily available, it is foolish not to research.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I always snoop around her social medias to find out if she's single then proceed from there

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Didn’t have that luxury when I dated. Had to actually get to know them in person 😬

Alex8736 · Answer

if they seem a little off I'll do a CORI check on them which would be the best $25 I have ever spent especially if they have a shady past

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, but I might if we get past the first few dates.

Avatar74 · Answer

I just take them as I see them, we either are compatible or not

Jerre · Answer

I voted B. I usually already know about them, at least what I want to know.

Cannibisluver96 · Answer

I’ll look at their facebook/Instagram but I won’t go any deeper than that

Nomina · Answer

No. I find it weird, tbh.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope, I run a background check.

sheikalana · Answer

I usually take a look at their Linkedin.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Whatt? For real? I never did tht

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, I don't research them

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Never did that

KatieSims24 · Answer

Iit deponds just minor things to check.

collie22 · Answer

I'm not dating

justFriend · Answer

No I don't research them :)

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Only insecure and creepy people do that.

DexWest · Answer

I run them through the ncic

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope I never do that lol Do you do that lol

CubaPirate · Answer

Not very often

Songomatic · Answer

It’s a risk either way. Just enjoy it.

Anonymous · Answer

It never crossed my mind.

jjj101010 · Answer

Probably just check out their socials

Nattt123 · Answer

Sometimes!

EaterPeter · Answer

I have.

MadKez · Answer

Never

ZenJen444 · Answer

Absolutely

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