I've been seeing this guy for a couple months. We met eachother a couple years ago, when we were briefly coworkers. He's 30. I'm 25.
We've both stated that we weren't seeing other people... but never really said we are official. We've kissed, cuddled... We've talked about sex, prepared for if the mood hits us. He treats me well, doesn't push boundaries, He always open to see me, talks to me all the time... but we haven't labeled it. I'm afraid to lose him if i ask. No one has ever wanted to be with me.
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Why would you be afraid to lose someone that you don’t really have to keep? Is it really worth keeping if he doesn’t want to be kept?
He is probably waiting to see how sex is before “I love you l” comes out. We’re physical then emotional.
No one has ever wanted to be with you, but here you are, with the potential to have someone be with you. So ask the hard question, and if asking him about commitment scares him away then in reality isn’t this just prolonging the inevitable? Maybe you haven’t had much luck with dating but it doesn’t mean you have to settle for whatever this man is willing to give — you aren’t desperate. So if you decide to ask, I hope it brings you the answer you deserve. If it doesn’t then I hope you have the strength and courage to love yourself more than you love him by letting him go.