After lose weight will my crush love me?

[Meryln]

Im 28 this year and never try to lose much weight. Im in love with my guy Friend for so long, Its been 4 years now. Basically he likes thin and pretty girls. He too always goes on diet and does workout if he put on weight. Since his sis is my Friend i goes to their house and his parents likes me too.
Now i came to a point where i wants him and i feel the only last chance will be losing my weight. 5 months back i was 87 kg now im 78 kg aft following interminent fasting. My aim is to reach 50-65 kg.

My Question is if i lose my weight will my guy Friend attract towards me and like/love me or he won’t?
PS: he knows i have feelings for him but we never Talk about it till now n i found out he jst got broke up with a long distance relationship.

You opinion would be great my appreciated and valued. Thanks.

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I thought of just stop talking to him n give distant so that i can meet or see him less so that i can forget him n live my life. But once i started distancing each and everytime he find ways to text Me, inviting dinner with his siblings , all of sudden replying my insta story. Its like i wana avoid myself frm him but feels like he keep reaching Me somehow. What should i do?

[Guy13]

Boy, talk about a sweet soul you have one. I would not let you get away but not everyone has the same perspective. Do what you can but above all try to enjoy the process. I have a method that will work. It has for too many people. And the month of "no contact" would show noticeable change... especially the first two. After that, it is personal determination.

I'll be glad to share if you are interested... this is enough to read !!

[AnUglyBarnacle]

If he loves you, then that would be independent of how you look. Sometimes, a person falls in love very early on.

But, looking better does incentivize a man to approach or initiate as a reason to be around a woman. With the sexual draw keeping him around her for a while, he may see her value and start to love her as a person.

Looks tend to attract a man; character tends to keep him.

If you're not doing anything extreme, then improving your appearance wouldn't hurt your chances.

[AnUglyBarnacle]

Thanks for MHO!

[Киттйлинк]

lol @ love. that's funny.
he won't LOVE you just because you lose weight, HOWEVER men in general are attracted to fit or slender women rather than plump and round.. so in that aspect he can POSSIBLY feel attraction if he doesn't feel it already and THAT can lead to something else.. perhaps even love eventually.

[Meryln]

Understood, thanks for ur opinion

[Anemone978]

I dont think he will like you tbh... else I think he would like you already

[Meryln]

How come?

[Anemone978]

I just think because if he would like you I dont think your size would matter that much to him and he didn't want to talk about your feelings for him which means he isn't interested

[Meryln]

Understood. Thanks 😊

[Anemone978]

No problem your welcome :)

[Meryln]

I thought of just stop talking to him n give distant so that i can meet or see him less so that i can forget him n live my life. But once i started distancing each and everytime he find ways to text Me, inviting dinner with his siblings , all of sudden replying my insta story. Its like i wana avoid myself frm him but feels like he keep reaching Me somehow. What should i do? Any idea

[Anemone978]

Hmm maybe try talking to him again about it and being honest about how you feel with leaving him alone and distance since he doesn't feel the same then see what he says

[Summeroflove]

If someone does not accept you for who you are…. They’re not worth it. Sure you should try to be the best version of yourself and a guy who pushes you and motivates you is good. But not tear you down.

[Screenwriter]

This man keeps you around because he knows you admire/like him and this is VERY flattering. STOP doing this. It will not help him to be attracted to you.

It isn't JUST about your weight issue. It's about you as a person. And, if you're not his physical type, you have no chance. That's just a fact. And, at this point in his life, he's shallow enough that that's all he wants. It might be true for him forever!

He wants to keep you as a friend. I'd advise against it.

Tell him, your feelings prevent you from being just friends and END IT. Someone else will like you as you are. You can keep losing weight to SATISFY YOURSELF. But DON'T EVER DO ANYTHING TO SATISFY SOMEONE ELSE. Any life change has to come from inside YOU!

If this guy insists on seeing you, block and don't respond to him. This will lead to hurt and disappointment for you. Withdraw, work on you, make yourself happy doing good things for you, and make yourself open to meeting a man who likes you as you are no matter what you weigh! Work on improvements you want to make and Good Luck!

[Meryln]

Thank you so much

[Weapon77]

All I can tell you for sure is that if you get an athletic physique, you will attract several guys, possibly including the guy you like. Even if not, you'll easily be able to attract new guys who actually do like you. PLUS you'll live longer and have higher quality of life. Do it, but don't do it for a guy. Do it for yourself and your loved ones.

[Meryln]

Thanks ya 😍

[Weapon77]

You're welcome!

[Vikkrram]

If a man truly loves you he will appreciate you as you are. Don't worry be happy.
And yes of you do want to look attractive then go on loose weight. Who dosen't want to look attractive.😊

[Meryln]

I mean after loose weight and looks attractive, does he will attracted towards me or not so?

[Vikkrram]

I can't tell about him what he would think

[Meryln]

Okay, thank you 😊

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The heart wants what the hearts wants & if you have to lose weight for your crush to love you I wish you the best & I hope it works out. In life if you never try you will never know & if you like someone you should let them know.

[Danny_dan92]

Maybe

[Meryln]

I thought of just stop talking to him n give distant so that i can meet or see him less so that i can forget him n live my life. But once i started distancing each and everytime he find ways to text Me, inviting dinner with his siblings , all of sudden replying my insta story. Its like i wana avoid myself frm him but feels like he keep reaching Me somehow. What should i do? Any advise?

[Danny_dan92]

It’s very simple. Eat right and exercise.

Completely cutting communication with him might end result in him leaving your life for good.

Do not go out of your way to let him know that you’re trying to lose weight and get in shape. Instead, focus on achieving your goal, when he notices he’ll more than likely comment which usually will mean he likes what he see’s

[Anonymous]

Probably not.

[Meryln]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

Because you think it's weight alone that wins or loses this guy. You're still you. And I know this sounds harsh but it's not. You can't always choose the guy you want.