Sounds contradictory coach, but dont be trying to attract women, rather keep trying to better yourself.
I went through a bad breakup in my early 20s. Dated a nurse for four years. First girlfriend. She suddenly ghosted me. No warning. No explanation. Nothing.
The only way I could move on was invest in myself. Prove im worth more than that. I took risks. Lived life to its max. Worked tons of long hours and made money. Learned to fly a plane. Bought a house. Bought a plane. Got back into skiing. It was a leap but it was fun. Taught myself music. Made new friends. I developed a new me. And other people wanted it.
Before long, women all over were wanting my time and suddenly became the one being selective. Some were just fun girls to be around. Others were premium. I got married and now my wife and kids are learning flying and skiing. What i built for me is now my legacy
Ironically years later the same nurse girlfriend contacted me thinking I was feeling sad about our breakup. She was. I told her it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Life is good coach. Treat people kindly. I've learned assuming the best in others will bring out the best in you. Good luck
Hitting the weights... DO NOT RELY ON MONEY TO ATTRACT WOMEN. I mean it's great to get your money game up, but hide it and keep it for yourself. Look at all these rich fuckers that end up with trans looking women... and then get divorce raped for more money... that's where the money route will get you. Just being buff you'll get a hottie that just wants you for looks... what's wrong with just that? Do you really need a fancy car when it can't really do more than my police interceptor that still has the car rammer in the front. You still have to drive the speed limit, but at least my car makes people slow down and get the fuck out of my way... every person in front of me thinks I'm about to pull them over. I replaced the stereo with a back up camera screen and a awesome stereo... a fucking Lexus can suck my fucking nutts and get out of my way when I'm coming through. I've digressed on a tangent.
Just be buff... She could be rich and educated and you won't win anything for that... a 18 year old hottie that is broke as shit is more of a win than some trans looking woman that will divorce rape you.
Girls want a guy that respects them and is honest. His morals are more important to him than his relationship with the woman and girls like guys that are caring and sweet. If you choose the relationship over your morals, you will end up with an exploiter, a leech or a control freak. If you choose morals over the girl, she will respect you because she knows you are not intimidated by her enough to bend to her selfish and unreasonable expectations. I've scared bad guys off by showing them I have boundaries and will not protect their reputation if they are abusive in language, meaning they will never get a chance to abuse me with their fists or their money.
Maintain appearance, women like a pleasant looking man not necessarily a suit and tie. well fitting clothes that are clean, ice smile, and smells pleasant , but not over done. Too much is to much They have glasses to that teach both sexes how the opposite sexes mind work. This helps with communication. Because there are definite differences. Man are more straight to the point and women often beat around the bush if you know what I mean. The handle things differently. So maybe learning some if the differences would help with communication.
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Don't tell them your GAG, username or profile... that's the first step!!!
Seriously, self-reflection my man, it's hard to be objective about yourself, but if you can do it better than others then you will become more successful in life. Starts with honesty really, not with others, but with yourself. You have to be willing seek and find your own flaws, and work on ways and methods in which you can improve upon those things. Somethings you can change, some you can't and others you will not want to and maybe not need to... but know what they are and stive to be the best version of yourself you can every day.
Nothing brings out a person's anxiety more than dating, so know the signs, and take a step back and reflect on yourself before sending that next text.
Love video games less than you love others.
If you're addicted to cannabis you might wanna work on that too.
Broaden your hobbies and learn new things i. e. a language, skill, topics of conversation, etc.
In order to attract better women? Respect yourself by not letting just any woman use you or think it's okay to treat you however they want. Don't tolerate it when a woman doesn't want to respect how you feel or what you need. A true woman with a good sense of humility and understanding will not see you as something to abuse or toss around.
Truth is people are lazy and online avenues, such as dating apps and LDR feeds the laziness. Put that wasted time into local and in person events or situations. It is not difficult except for the expended energy and time required to find a better quality woman. Bars are not the answer but a high profile is.
Projecting a better image and more confidence always help, but so does being discerning. Don't just go for the first woman who gives you the time of day.
Honestly. If someone don’t accept you for who you are. Leave them be.
u the opposite of that...
he should better himself for HIMSELF, first and foremost... and for his own wellbeing, not with the idea of becoming attractive to women
the first is genuine care and leads to genuine growth
the other is a trap that way more often than not leads you nowhere good
sounds like a cliché but it is ultimately true... if you don't care for yourself first, others will not care that much for you, but genuine self-esteem very often leads you and builds you up and then it is these things that eventually make the other things easier to come across, as a result
im not going to give that "be yourself" crap (or fake it untill you make it)
1. dont lie. or at least tell the truth as much as you can.
2. dont fake anything. people will see through that faster than politicians promise.
3. never be a brown nosing kiss up. or a wet blanket (nobody likes them and neither should you) you get more respect if it isn't demanded.
4. unlike FB: not everyone of your friends is backstabbing you. dont be afraid to ask them for asdvice if you need it.
Better mindset, less hateful, more modern and respectful towards men and women. Good behavior and manners. Honesty, open communication and no fragile ego.
Other then that personal hygiene is really important! And clean clothes and fitting clothes (doesn't have to be expensive or brand stuff, just decent good looking clothes that fits his personal style)
These are the basics in my eyes, every man with those simple things can get a woman fitting to him personally.
Take care of yourself maturely. That means better nutrition, physical activity, satisfying income, no overdoing alcohol or weed, being responsible, calm, kind, good rational thinker and having stamina for sex. Go to places you like going and do things you like doing, basically take yourself out on dates and be the best version of yourself. I met my partner on a comedy standup event (we both went solo), never anything serious happened with any man I met in a bar or club, so I suggest avoiding it.
- Work on yourself which could include better grooming/hygiene or doing better in your career or life
- have an admirable personality and know how to socialize with people. Some guys act like they've never left their computer the last 20 years and people usually don't like boring people.
- learn how guys and girls view the dating market because they don't view it the same way. It won't be fair or nice in a lot of ways..
Hygiene and grooming, try to be physically fit, have personal goals (realistic ones), normal or nice clothes, good posture, eye contact wo staring, confident voice and appearance of confidence, and if you like a girl talk to her. I know all of that sounds obvious but it must not be!
Strong morals good social skills stay healthy and be caring. Thinking about others is important. Too many people (including women) think about themselves I’m social interaction but think about the other person and making them comfortable and show interest in them. This will set you apart from many men.
Keep your weight off.
Few or no tattoos.
No piercings.
Use polite English at all times. Take a class of needed.
Conservative hair style (not too long but not a Marine brush cut, either) and (if necessary) facial hair.
Dress conservatively.
Be cognizant of hygiene.
Have an interest in something that really matters, beyond her.
I'm no fun at all.
Plastic surgery to improve appearance, leg surgery to add height if he is under 6' tall, OR the accumulation of large amounts of money, in which case the surgeries are still desirable but not necessary, OR move to Southeast Asia if he is reasonable looking and under 6' and has at least some money.
One simply thing: don't be a dick. Now every women finds attractive something else. Here's what works for me: being a gentleman, having good manners and knowing the etiquette, elegant style, taking care of yourself (no it's not girly), being physically active.
Self care is a simple way to start. Take extra care with your hygiene and care for your skin a bit.
Make sure you have reasonably nice clothes that fit you well. A lot of skinny and chubby guys just make due with ill fitting clothes that only serve to accentuate their flaws.
Sort your shit out, if needed. That means different things to different people. Maybe you've got to settle some debt, get a car, hit the gym, whatever it is, chances are you already know what's out of balance in your life. Tackle the small things first and create and stick to a plan to chip away at the big obstacles.
Learn how to communicate, by practicing chatting with new people regularly. If you can't think of how, try Toastmasters.
Learn how to say no early to women you don't want or who try to bench you. Emotional vampires man, watch out!
Stay positive (at least outwardly), have a plan and get shit done. People love to be around a man with a plan.
Honesty, integrity, emotional intelligence, self control and discipline, healthy ambition, communication, respect, trust, problem solving, confidence, and understanding
A man has to know when it's time to be funny and when to remain serious. If he doesn't know when is the right time for specific behavior, he will appear boyish and this is a repellent for most girls.
Be confident
Care about yourself and those around you
Be driven to solve problems, not to point out problems.
Being fit and emotionally healthy is important, so is taking time to take care of your possessions and wear properly fitted clothing. Work on conversational skills, storytelling, joke telling, and have fun hobbies.
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