Does wearing a wedding band really deter men?

[pupluv45]

from my experience, it really does nothing to deter men

[Finchie40]

Just depends on the man and the woman wearing them , when I was married I wouldn’t take my ring off like I expected my wife not to take hers off out of respect for our marriage but sadly it doesn’t stop others from still trying to get with you , and sadly it doesn’t stop the person that is married either in most cases , so it just comes down to how devoted that person is to their spouse. you can tell someone you are happily married and they don’t give a shit , so it comes down to your own actions , I still got hit on by other Girl’s when I was married I was flattered but I stayed true to my wife and declined those girl’s even though it made
Me smile that this other Girl was flirting with me and found me attractive basically wanting to rip my clothes off but I loved my wife and wouldn’t jeopardize our marriages so I would just laugh and walk away , With hopes that my wife would do the same if she was in that situation , When my marriage was coming to an end one of the first things I spotted when my wife was going out with her toxic girlfriends to the bars was she had her ring on when she left dressed all sexy but when she came home late she forgot to put her ring back on that’s when I knew she was being up to no good , I was devastated inside but I knew I couldn’t accuse her until I had valid proof to take her ass down in court , so I become a private investigator because the red flags were waving right in my face , so I just played like everything is ok even though I was devastated inside , I played it off like I had no suspicions because once a. cheater knows you are on to them they become more sneaky , I honestly wasn’t happy becoming an investigator but I felt like I had no other choice and I didn’t want to spend lots of money hiring one even though it did cross my mind to write to Cheaters show lol i knew my attorney was going to cost me a pretty penny as well and I think part of me didn’t want to believe that my wife was being unfaithful to me cuz I loved our family but her actions were speaking louder than words , Her selfishness was shining and that’s how my gut instincts knew something was off. The next thing she did was change her passcode on her phone but little did she realize I already downloaded a tracker on it so I could see all her messages , and her location , thank god I did that because that’s how I busted the whore meeting her lover at a hotel when she said she was going out with her friends , I followed her to the hotel and stayed hidden watching her get out of the car to meet her lover , a old man co worker that she told me he is just a friend , friend alright and a married one as well , when I saw the POS get out of his car to walk over to my wife to kiss her and squeeze her ass I confronted them and said you are both fucked and you are both the biggest pieces of shit on this planet , He ran for his life , I told my wife to not come back to the house that all her shit will be on the front yard I have the proof I need to take your ass down in court , I got in my car and immediately raced back to my home while I was calling that guys wife to tell her everything she said she suspected something as well and said thank you for letting me know , when I got back home and locked all the doors and started gathering her shit and throwing it out on the front lawn she pulled in the driveway with tears running down her face and I yelled out and said save them for court cuz your ass is doomed you fucking whore. With the evidence I had on my wife she got nothing from me , Her life turned to complete shit so yes Karma is a real thing. So word of advice if your partner starts showing signs of selfishness they are more then likely cheating on you , I will not date a girl that doesn’t know how to remove selfishness for me , Why I am still single , Most girls are
Selfish people

[AviatorTom]

It depends on the man. Most men are gentlemen and respect that a married woman is already in a relationship. Some men might actually be attracted to a married woman, considering her "safe" for sex with no worries about her wanting a relationship.

[tiajoka]

I think likely most men aren’t respectful, unfortunately. It’s a different time and a lot of guys have allowed their masculinity and dignity to be stripped from themselves.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely think it deters men, because they don't want to get their heads blown off by the husband. But I know for a fact that a man wearing a ring is an attraction. I've talked to single guys who wear wedding rings when they go out. I was flabbergasted to learn that. Logic would dictate that they are off limits, and women would stay away.

It deters some women, but the ring is like a flashing neon sign that says "I've been endorsed by the sisterhood, and I'm not a serial killer." lol

And I realize that no one on this advice site wants advice, but to you fellas listening; when you and your homies go out and are "looking to get" bring a girl or two with you.

Just flat out tell them that you're using them for bait, but that you'll buy them food and booze if they go along with it. lol

When women see a table of just guys, a huge red warning flag goes up. If they see at least one girl at the table, the neon sign starts flashing, and the bitches be on them like flies on a cow turd.

[CrazyGirl2]

Not in my experience, for some reason many guys just do not care if you are married or not. i think the old wedding/engagement ring thing only works to keep the good decent men away, but nothing to deter the creeps! so it's a self defeating ploy. the men that you WOULD want to date will stay far away, while the men you wanted to avoid in the first place do not seem to be phased one iota! i tried the engagement ring ploy once, but very quickly realized the error of the idea.

[D_Bone_Steak]

This right here... best answer in my opinion.

[CrazyGirl2]

@D_Bone_Steak Thank you very much ;-)

[MrOracle]

Ironically, it deters the men with morals and values, but not the men who lack them. Cheater/player types not only aren't slowed down by a ring, but some specifically enjoy the challenge.

In the end, it's going to be up to the women, and her own morals, values, and boundaries to keep such men in check. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and that authority comes with a commensurate level of responsibility, as authority always does.

[ManOnFire]

Probably because there are enough men to know that a woman’s marital status won't change anything if she wants to cheat, and enough men have made moves on plenty of married women that gave in. Hell, even I've flirted with them before and some clearly could be swayed, but I don't have sex with married women.

[Irishgirl02]

I agree if a man thinks there's a chance that she's open for business he will try.

[ManOnFire]

@Irishgirl02 Yep, even with a ring.

[Irishgirl02]

If a married woman is very active on fbook, Instagram and tik tok sharing pics of herself in bikinis, sexy dresses, lingerie etc and silly inspirational posts guys take it that she's not loyal and open for buisness. It's why I stopped posting pictures of me in dresses going to weddings etc or at the beach unless my husband is clearly in the picture. But even then they still try to slide into your dms

[ManOnFire]

@Irishgirl02 Cuz they know it's still possible to persuade her. I personally think married women cheat more than a woman who is just a guy’s girlfriend.

[Irishgirl02]

I would never cheat on my husband but you are probably right. The divorce rate is like 50% and 60% or more of that is initiated by the wife so personally I think the majority of those women intiating divorce have been cheating because they are unhappy in the marriage and looking for a new man whereas most girlfriend's are pursuing commitment and marriage from their boyfriend or will dump him for another guy thus less likely to cheat because its much easier to end a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship than a marriage.
I've seen it all the time with women I know that have gotten divorced, a month later there's a new guy on the scene that she tells everyone she just met and fell in love with and they are moving in together, no she met him a year ago and pursued a relationship with him while she was married.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

women initiate vast majority of divorces because women lose in marriage while men gain in marriage. Its been proven that married men live longer than single men but married women do not live longer lives than single women.

Women take on more work and responsibilities in the house and at her job. but she will experience significantly bigger losses in her career compared to her husband.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

The data shows that men actually make more money after marriage because he gets a free nanny, free maid, free chef at home to cook his lunch boxes and wash his underwear and take care of his children. Thus, he gets to dedicate more time to his career- make more money.

women do not get this luxury. The average mother in the US works a full time job, then she has to rush home to cook, clean, teach her children, bring them to the doctor, go shopping.

This is why women are unhappy in marriage.

[Irishgirl02]

I'm not sure what you are trying to prove but God help my husband if he decides to divorce me. I will get the house, alimony, custody of the kids and child support along with half of everything he's worked his entire adult life and what has been passed in by his parents.
Both he and I fill out our days pretty well both contributing to shared chores and responsibilities. For instance I finish work before him and start later leaving me with more time to do some of the household chores which aren't really a big deal because it's not like it's 1930 I mean the washer washes the clothes, the dryer drys them, the vacuum vacuums, its very easy to prepare a healthy meal cooked meal, diswadher washes the dishes, fold sheets or whatever. If your organised and motivated the whole thing takes an hour. As for babysitting kids well they are my kids so I want to be the one who stays at home and does the majority of child rearing rather than pay a nanny to do it or do what quite a few couples I know of do where the father is the one to stay at home with the kids. Plus if you are ever getting divorced the parent who is the primary care giver is the one who gets child custody regardless of sex. In out marriage I generally handle a lot of the household chores while he handles the outside chores, car maintenance, house maintenance, paying bills and he works a very boring job for long hours though it pays well I would never choose to do it. He's a really good man and I appreciate everything he does in our marraige.

[Irishgirl02]

I think a lot of women get bored and think the grass is greener on the otherside and skme blame their husband for not being a good enough provider for not providing the big holidays, fancy house, fancy cars, fancy meals etc like what they see in movies and on TV. I do believe a lot of women regret divorcing their husband's and cheating, I mean if you think about it what kind of man would conduct an affair with a married woman? A man without honour is who and he's not going to respect or want to get serious with a woman who was cheating on her husband as he could never ever trust her. At most he will use her as a resource like a house to live in, use of her car, money and of course sex and whatever else she can offer him but in his mind he knows that while she was cheating with him she was also going home and telling her husband barefaced lies and sleeping with him too.
I think its important to be greatful fof what you have.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

if you come to think about it, there is not really a big difference between a married mother and a single mother. Married mother and single mothers BOTH have to work JOBS. Single mothers and married mothers still do vast majority of the housework, all the cooking / cleaning, babysitting.

what is the real big difference between married life and single life? not really that big.

so if her husband pisses her off, she can divorce freely.

[Irishgirl02]

Well the fact that most criminals in America as well as sex workers come from single mother homes shows otherwise.
Doing housework, cooking, cleaning, minding your own kids is just something that comes with being an adult. Unless you are a single mom with a really great job, supportive parents and maybe a good ex husband who makes good money so you get good alimony and child support you are in trouble.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

If you have ever taken a class on statistics. Correlation doesn't mean causation.

The reason why criminals arise from single mother homes is because criminal populations tend to have significantly higher rates of single mothers. Not because single mothers raise criminals.

Single mothers tend to be most common in ghettos or hoods or within black communities.

[Irishgirl02]

It's true of white communities too in America. Its also true of single mother homes in Ireland and Britain.
By your logic of Correlation doesn't mean causation the when you say "Single mothers tend to be most common in ghettos or hoods or within black communities." isn't the case at all.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

that is the case in america. I can say that 85- 90% of single mother homes in america are in black communities.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

there aren't any black ghetto communities in Ireland or Britan.

but fatherlessness tend to be more common in poor, criminal communities. Never middle class or wealthy communities.

Single motherhood is something that vastly affects the poor, not the middle class or the rich.

[Irishgirl02]

Well it's also the case that the majority of criminals and sex workers come from single mother homes not just in America but in Britain and Ireland too. Shows how important having a stable two parent family really is.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

I'm planning on becoming a single mother in 5 years. there's no chance my kid will grow up to become a criminal. I make a shit ton of money. I can afford to raise my child in rich communities and send them to elite schools.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

it has nothing to do with two parent families.

single mothers tend to raise criminals because single parent homes tend to make less money than two parent homes. As a result, single moms can't afford to raise children in nice neighborhoods. But criminal neighborhoods where rent is cheaper.

It all has to do with money, not having a 2 parent home.

[pupluv45]

Studies actually show that children of lesbian, gay, bisexual parents actually do better in school that heterosexual parents.

because lgbt folks tend to be richer than heterosexual parents. lgbt folks cannot have kids. but the lgbt folks who can afford to pay for modern technology to make babies - tend to have kids that do better in school.

why?

richer parents can afford to give their kids a better education.

[Irishgirl02]

There are a lot of black people in Britain. They come from the Caribbean and Africa. They aren't called ghettos or projects or the other one but are called housing estates which are basic houses and concrete blocks built by the British government to provide housing in the 1950s. I grew up on one for a time and yes single mother's are the norm among blacks in Britain.
The reason fatherless kids tend to come from poor backgrounds where crime is rife is because they have only one parent either working or on the dole bringing in a single wage. This is why a marriage and two parent home is better for any woman and her kids.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

Like I said, it has absolutely nothing to do with lack of a father.
It has all to do with poor economics.

Single parent homes tend to be worse off financially than two parent homes. Hence these single parents cannot afford to raise kids in good neighborhoods. Rent is lower in criminal neighborhoods.

In the carribean, fatherlessness is ridiculously common. I can say that over 65% of children in the carribean do not have fathers. Or if they do have fathers, he isn't present in their lives.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

50% of marriages in america end up in divorce.
I hear the numbers aren't too different in UK
If you think marriage is the solution to children, having a father, think again.

the typical situation is mother gets sole custody while the father visits the kids once a month. Its not too far from not having a father.

[Irishgirl02]

Poor economics caused by lack of a father. No male role model, and no one to teach them what a mother can not
A lot of women make bad choices but all my kids will know their father and there will never be a conga line of would be step dad's no matter what.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

It has nothing to do with lack of a father. If the single mother can make enough money to live in good neighorhoods, have enough money to provide for them , send them to nice schools. The kids will have no chance of growing up to be criminals.

Its very hard to raise a child not to be a criminal when you live in a neighborhood surrounded by criminals.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

truth is, there is no difference between a single mother household and a two parent household.

The single mother will work 9-5. The married mother and father will work 9-5. Single mother comes home to the kids at 6pm. Married mother and married father will come home to the kids by 6pm.

[Irishgirl02]

In the uk and Ireland it's different. There's welfare but there's no alimony and child support is low. Fathers also have more rights. At the minute the mother generally gets to be what's called the resident parent which means she gets the majority of custody for child support and welfare but the father may have every other weekend or every weekend or what is happening right now the father getting 3/7 custody and even the father getting full custody.
Again I believe the reasons for divorce in the uk are the same as in the US. The divorce rate in Ireland is very low.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

Its really not due to lack of a father. Its due to poor economics.

In the US, a large percentage of single moms located in black or Hispanic communities, not white communities. Fatherlessness is celebrated in black and hispanic culture.

[Irishgirl02]

Who is watching the kids when the single mother comes home at 6pm? Most married women with kids I know don't work 9pm-6pm, usually its 9am-3pm or 4pm. Some couples I know that both work full time will work it that one of them starts early at 7am so they finish early and that there's someone there to for the kids coming home from school while one starts at 9pm and gets the kids ready for school on their way to work. Then there what happened during covid with a lot of people figuring out that with technology they don't actually need to be in the office every day.

[Irishgirl02]

The thing about babysitters and nannies and daycare is that it cost money sometimes as much as what many earn so this is why many mothers choose to stay home with kids or work part time or less hours. People do what they have to. Plus it's not good for kids paying some stranger to raise your kids while your not there.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

[Who is watching the kids when the single mother comes home at 6pm? ]

the mother? who else?

same as married mothers and married fathers who get off work at 5pm and get home by 6pm.

I was raised by working mother and working father. I went to school from 8-3pm. Then I would stay at an after school program from 3-6pm where I would do homework. Then my father will come pick me up to go home by 6pm. I grew up with a couple of classmates who had single moms that also picked them up at 6pm.

You're acting as if kids from 2 parent families get more time with parents. They really don't.
The time you get to take care of your kids really boils down to your work schedule.

Nowadays, cost of living is so expensive, stay home moms are not affordable anymore.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

I went to an afterschool program because my parents couldn't afford a babysitter or daycare. It was cheaper. Its 3 hours a day.

[Irishgirl02]

Largely depends on the parents, what they have to do and the choices they make and what they have to do. Every family is different. Some are lucky sat they have grantfathers or an aunt that can watch the kids. This becomes more important during the summer. Not every family works the way yours did.
Cosy of living is high but being a stay at home mom often costs less because you aren't paying a babysitter a wage to look after your kids. I know mothers who work four days only and at weekends so they can be there during the school days, some who work nightshifts. I know a lot of office workers who now work from home.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

[Cosy of living is high but being a stay at home mom often costs less because you aren't paying a babysitter a wage to look after your kids.]

if the mother makes a decent wage, it is better for the mother to hire a babysitter. If the mothers a very low wage, it is better for her to stay home. But ultimately, kids being raised in broke families tend to be significantly worse off than kids born to middle class / upper class families.

just think about the parents' inability to pay for a good education / college.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

Having a stay home mother does not mean your kids will grow up into successful adults. If you're raised in a broke family with a stay home mom who cannot adequately provide their children with a good education, the kids will still be screwed.

[Irishgirl02]

If your a clever parent you won't rely on others to give your children an education. Parental involvement in kids education from a young age is what makes the difference.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

if you were a clever person , you would realize that vast majority of parents do not have sufficient knowledge to teach middle to high school education. You don't have a degree in science, history , biology, chemistry. so therefore, you are not knowledgeable enough to teach those things.

Its better to be born to a rich single mother than two broke parents struggling to sufficiently provide for their children.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

[Parental involvement in kids education from a young age is what makes the difference.]

parental involvement at 5 years old means nothing if you can't afford to send your children to college. your kid is just gonna find themselves broke working in fast food and struggling to pay rent.

[Irishgirl02]

Kids get college loans to go to college. From what I understand here in America is that kids are getting college loans for degrees they are either not academically fit for or degrees in stuff like feminist jazz dance theory which means they end up working in subway except they wasted four years of their lives and ran up debts for a college education that leaves them working for minimum wage in Starbucks.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

Thats actually not how loans work in america.

You must be able to provide a big payment before you can take out a loan. Loans do not cover everything.

Its not uncommon for parents to pay 15,000- 20,000 (portion uncovered by loans).
Average college student tuition per year is anywhere from 25,000-60,000 EVERY YEAR.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

for example, if your child's annual tuition is 55,000 for 1 year. You cannot pull out a 55,000 loan for that 1 year. Typically the loan covers 20,000 while the parent needs to pay 30,000.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

[degrees in stuff like feminist jazz dance theory which means they end up working in subway except they wasted four years of their lives and ran up debts for a college education that leaves them working for minimum wage in Starbucks.]

low wage jobs are being automated by modern technology. Its only a matter of time before all these jobs disappear. you will just find yourself homeless without a college education.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

I have actually worked at a university for law school / medical school students. Over 90% of these to be doctors / lawyers come from financially well off families.

If your parents didn't have money, your chances of becoming a lawyer or doctor is minimal.

[Irishgirl02]

I know my husband got his paid for through military service but
"Student loans in the United States are a form of financial aid intended to help students access higher education. In 2018, 70 percent of higher education graduates had used loans to cover some or all of their expenses. With notable exceptions, student loans must be repaid, in contrast to other forms of financial aid such as scholarships, which are not repaid, and grants, which rarely have to be repaid. Student loans may be discharged through bankruptcy, but this is difficult"

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

loans help but they you can't pull out an unlimited amount of loans.

[Irishgirl02]

Seemingly you can hence the student debt crisis, the 2006 financial crisis and so on

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

it still is not proof that the amount of student loans you can take out is unlimited.

I"ve been through college in the American education system. Trust me, loans are not unlimited.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

and its quite terrible how you'd rather force your child to be burdened with 100,000 in loans at the age of 22 rather than for you to be able to afford a decent education for your child.

[Irishgirl02]

That's personal choice. $100,000 is a years wage for the highly educated

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

so you prefer to burden your own child with hundreds of thousands in loans the first moment they step right into adulthood than to be able to afford to pay them a good education yourself?

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

you're not giving your children a choice. you're intentionally forcing them into debt which they will likely never ever pay back throughout their lives

[Irishgirl02]

When your 18 you are an adult capable of making your own decisions. In Ireland you are an adult at 16.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

sweetie, if you're happy to see your child to be suffering working job that pays an unsurvivable wage or you're happy to see your child to be burdened with 100,000 in debt once they take their first step into adulthood. YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR CHILD.

so your meaningless bullshit talk about how its best for the child to have a stay home mom during their early years. is COMPLETE SHIT.

you don't care about what is best for your child. Any parent who loves their child will fight to do with is best for them.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

the only thing you can about is furthering patriarchy and for you to maintain your status as a lazy stay at home mom where the most that you do is cook a few meals a day. Then let your washing machine and dishwasher do the rest of the housework for you.

[Irishgirl02]

Patriarchy? Feminism is supposed to be about women being able to choose not about shaming women for their lifestyle choices, much as men who decide to be a stay at home dad shouldn't be shamed or for that matter a single mother or yourself for your choice to stay single mother in the future this wouldn't be my personal choice, having grown up in a loving 2 parent home.
Like I say most people do what they have to to get by.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

At least I have sufficient resources to provide my child a good future. Unlike you, your child will be unemployed and likely homeless.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

Nobody cares about growing up in a 2-parent home, if you can't provide your child with a good education. Your child won't have a good future without a good education.

[Irishgirl02]

Well I'm glad you will be able to provide for your future children, good on you if you can as a single mother with no husband. I hate to see people living in misery. That's your choice, I'm very happy in the choices I've made. The best thing is that its not I that's responsible for my children's future but we, that is my husband and I. My children will be born with the citizen of 3 countries and a citizen of the European Union, they won't end up in poverty or homeless.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

Its been proven by statistics that children born to parents without the financial resources to raise their children tend to be worse off than kids born to parents with adequate financial means.

having two parents really is not the key to raising successful children. Having adequate financial means is much more important

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

I was born to two broke parents struggling to raise me. I know firsthand how hard it is to grow up that way. It is also 10 times harder to succeed as an adult when you grew up under poverty. Poverty is a form of abuse.

Many people pity kids without a father. But the truth is, the real pity should fall on the kids who grew up on little to nothing.

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

education is not free. tutoring is not free. the luxury of being able to enjoy karate, violin, piano lessons, driving lessons are not free. summer camp for children is not free. computers , video games aren't free. law school , medical school is not free. there are people out there who pay 100 dollars an hour for driving lessons because their parents could never afford a car.

take a look at how much you're missing out on if your parents just didn't have the money

[Irishgirl02]

Yea and criminals and sex workers will say the same about growing up without a father.

[ManOnFire]

@Irishgirl02 How does any of this looooooooong argument have anything to do with what my answer was? Just the other night I was at the bar with my guys and a married woman next to me was drunk and literally asked me if I would leave with her so we could fuck. I turned her down because I don't have sex with married women - and we did end up having a nice conversation about her life and where she's from - but her actions are exactly what I was talking about.

What point are seeking to make with all that long unnecessary debate?

[ManOnFire]

Sorry that was meant for @pupluv45

[pupluv45]

@Irishgirl02

that has nothing to do with lack of a father. it has to do lack of economics.

same reason how kids born to heterosexual couples under poverty tend to be more likely to become criminals than kids born to richer parents.

[jennifer_bloom]

A way to get rid of men is to wear a fake ring with a gigantic fake diamond on it. If they believe your husband is filthy rich, they won't bother dating you. My mom had two guys that would constantly stalk her when she was a teenager and one day her younger brother came to visit her and they thought that the younger brother was her boyfriend and after seeing how good looking the guy was, they decided they had no chance with her and left her alone.

[Avicenna]

It deters normal, respectful people. But not the bottom of the barrel scum.

[AmandaYVR]

For me it always has, yes. There have been times they didn't see it, which was weird to me. But it's almost always been respected.

[Summeroflove]

Be clear that you’re married. You do know that some people wear rings for other reasons.

[Guy13]

According to my mom, yes.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Don’t know for married, but men still asked me out even when they knew I was taken, I thought it was really disrespectful to me and my then-bf, so I always made sure to tell them how happy I was to have a man I had by my side and no one other than my boyfriend had a chance with me.

[ArrowheadSW]

I know a lady who works in a very male dominated blue collar industry and she wears a band. She says it is a deterrent to a degree. I told her to wear a badge with her photo Photoshopped in with a husband and two kids. She hasn't tried that yet... LOL

[Qdbrown]

As a guy, I respect the ring and marriage on a woman. I will not treat her any different.

That said, if she has a ring, gives me those looks, and kind of flirty, my second hunch is that she wears the ring to wart off losers,. or she is about to come out of her marriage.

It's not the ring. It's the person wearing it. Funny how married guys at least take off their ring to expose their tan line from their ring, to act single while sucking in their gut.

[Screenwriter]

If you're hanging out at a place where people meet other people, such as a bar or an event where a mix of people are, It's unlikely that a wedding band does anything. Some people wear FAKE bands, just for your information.

The only think that will deter a man is if you say, "You're lovely, but I'm married. Thanks but no thanks."

[TheorionMage]

It has been my life's experience that Anyone is ONLY as 'married' as they CHOOSE to be.
I personally, tend to respect fidelity boundaries with VERY rare exceptions~
It is impossible to 'rape' the Willing but One CAN tempt & seduce the dis-satisfied to a 'friends with benefits' circumstances.
Often their Spouse chooses to turn a 'blind eye' PROVIDING One is respectfully discrete.~ : )

[D_Bone_Steak]

I stopped wearing a wedding ring because it was actually making chicks hit on me. I am a man though, so I'm not sure how it is for a woman. I imagine it just makes you a target of desire like it does for me though. Every chick I know that's cheated had a ring on it. I would hands down claim it does nothing to keep the men away. That's my opinion on the matter.

[red324]

Seems like a way to have a simple fling where she'll leave you alone after.

[sheenagwapa]

it will make them think twice but if the woman is so attractive even men with good moral stqndard will you know express interest. but i think it should be normalize that if you're a man who cheat it's basically tellinh the whole wide world that you are ready for your wife or girlfriend to leave you. it should be a sort or declaration

[jshm2]

To be fair. pussy is pussy, just because it's "wearing a ring" doesn't mean much to the philanderer. In fact a bit of "loose pussy" is probably their kink.

Yes, some men and lesbians will chase women with a wedding band.

[Bricealan]

I am not sure as to what you are talking about. Being married should not put a cage around you, unless you want a steel impenetrable cage around you socially? I talk to women socially almost daily, and cannot see that it creates a problem for me or them?

Only problem I see is if your husband is insecure, and resents you talking to other men, for whatever reason, he might be jealous and put you in a position that makes you feel you are socially 'isolated"

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not, I've encountered more than one married woman who openly told me she wants to mess around with me while staying with her husband. This is also why I am against marriage as a formality because not only does it not change anything regarding genuine love, a wedding band doesn't change the person wearing it / doesn't prevent the person from changing from their life experiences.

[pupluv45]

sleeping around does not mean you do not love someone. Reality is, if she didn't love her husband, she would've said she's open to an emotional affair rather than just a sexual one

[Opinion Owner]

I completely agree with you though I'm sure it wouldn't have made her husband feel any better that his wife wanted another man in some way :/

[pupluv45]

you make it seem so tragic. Reality is, married men cheat on wives and have slept around all the time all throughout history. Its nothing new. You're acting like you're hearing this for the first time

[Moose304]

A wedding ring is a symbol of a commitment to another person. It is only as good as the person wearing it. In my life, I have seen just as many women ignore a ring as men. Generally speaking when you get out of bars and other types of hook-up places the respect from BOTH sexes increases for that ring and what it represents.

[Friendlybro79]

Well said.

[Friendlybro79]

It would for me and it wouldn't for others. My male friend who is married that never had women approach him in bars has gotten approached 3 times in the last 3 times we went out. It's a joke now for him to make sure his wedding ring is showing as his hand is on the bar. Even his wife thinks it's funny lol. That said it could be coincidence but it's become a joke can Mike can approached by flaunting his ring lol

[Friendlybro79]

And he always kindly declines if that wasn't evident

[Anemone978]

No men don't give a fuck they love fucking other guys wife's
I told a guy I was married and he was like So? Can I get your number? lol
And plenty other people online don't care... Its up to you to deter them...

[miniskirtcaley81]

Not if they want you bad enough.
Men will stop at nothing to get the woman they want or feel entitled to.
Honestly it’s both super flattering and super disrespectful at the same time.
Also how you look/dress can trump a 💍

[Stoner710]

Depends on the guys for me yes because it’s a simple not only of your love and affection but as a guy it’s a Signal to other women that I married and a reminder to myself that I married should remain loyal to her

[CateM]

Men who truly look out for other men won't try to sleep with a woman who isn't single or open. The only type of men a relationship or wedding band won't deter are the assholes

[BeMuse]

If you’re married or previously married you would probably look at jewelry. Otherwise men are mostly totally oblivious to it unless they are a jeweler or gay.

[BeMuse]

If I see a bunch of jewelry the general perception is just that she is materialistic. I don't actually account for what jewelry she actually has or what finger it is on.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

I agree. I've bought a fake wedding ring to deter the guys at work but it did nothing. They even took that as a challenge and did not stop pursuing me.

[Adaeva]

I'm certain it depends on the man. Some men have ethics they will not violate. Other men less so. No doubt it also depends on if the women is flirting and receptive.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

No, it doesn't deter stubborn creeps from taking their chances to flirt with me.

Some creeps can be really stubborn no matter how many times they're made aware that I'm married.

[4ngelic]

wouldn't know since i'm not old enough to pull that off but i'm pretty sure if they know its a wedding ring most guys will be turned off. the only people who wouldn't are the weird ones

[teamvic]

I feel it can work but I wouldn't say it's 100 percent effective so maybe it prevents 3 dudes from approaching but not the other 7 or whatever you know.

[mobiusforniner]

A woman wears a ring to remind men she's spoken for. Thats why women rings are elaborate and showy. Theyre meant for others to see.

A man wears a ring to remind himself.

[RavVid]

It deters me because I don't want shit in my life. Morally it is like being an accessory to a crime. I might be single so I am not cheating but the girl is so I am part of that immorality.

[CubsterShura]

A lot of men want no strings attached flings and married women are the best choice for that.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It definitely would deter me, and i really wish women who were taken but not married yet would wear them or something else. Should also be something to wear that says single and looking.

[summiter]

When I was single it did deter me at least (unless she hit on me first)... as I respect marriage, I know it does not deter some guys however.

[Lusciousphilippa28]

When I was married, they still came, acted as if they didn't see the ring and even flirted with me in front of my ex. Some have no shame.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

A wedding band could deter some people & as for me just the thought of getting married would deter me.

[katiesmuff]

No I don't think it even phases them! Some totally believe that a married woman is easier to hook up with than a single lady.

[B0nerD0nor]

In my experience prior to marriage it was much much easier to hit it and quit it with married women. They wanted what they wanted and didn’t care about all the extra “fluff” they a guy ford through to date or wow a single girl.
They want to get the sex they want and go home.
I had a few that took the ring off but was still evident they were married. Others that were very open about being married and what they wanted. The majority were keeping it discreet but you could tell why they were there.

[CindyRuns]

I completely agree... I've had way too many guys try to pick me up and I do have a wedding band on my finger.

[Pudsmucker]

What I've also learned that wedding band may not deter. But one of the things I do know if she's faithful that is a deterrent. I cannot wear a wedding ring because of allergies that I have on gold.

[red324]

It doesn't necessarily mean they're married. You ever see all the rings they wear on all the other fingers? I've even asked and she'll be like oh this isn't a wedding ring it's something my grandma gave me or blah blah blah.

[Luciferstar]

Only if you wanna get rid of Good Family Guys, But for FB's it won't matter

[Lalalove11]

It does help a bit to stop guys hitting on you when you are working. :)

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If I watch porn, and I see a girl wearing a wedding band, I lose the interest in watching porn.

[Kori1236]

Nope; for some it makes them try harder. There are some men though that respect it, and move on.

[exitseven]

I knew a girl that used to wear an engagement ring so guys wouldn't hit on her. She claimed it worked.

[Anonymous]

Some it will some it won’t i wear a wedding ring and 2 carat 💍

Some check out then look at the hand and look away others continue or talk to me.

[SphynxUK]

It deters respectful men who won’t intrude when they know you’re married.

[Anonymous]

Not if they are looking to cheat. A lot of women get turned on by it because they know he can't get serious with him and they like fucking a married man

[DJB72]

Sadly not these days if you're under about 27.

Having a husband sitting with you doesn't even deter some guys

[dustybiker]

Yes. And no. Depends on the man. It will effectively eliminate the decent men.

[Anonymous]

I've found no. If horny men find you attractive nothing deters them apart from you making clear it's not happening no matter what.

[chicosuave]

no because i dont notice it. i never look at women hands

[Phoenix98]

It'd deter me I'm not gonna try and get with another man's woman, that's crossing the line.

[HaveNoName]

I have no interest in it as I am a married guy. But I do sometimes notice it only to say in my mind... "Lucky fucking bastard...".

[Iron_Man]

I don’t really even pay attention. Women wear so many rings but if they’re married, of course I would back off.

[jamesgoldman]

It deters women, at least enough to me I still keep one for nights at the bar

[Anonymous]

Most it will do is it will deter men, who look for a partner for heart. It will not stop any cheaters, those, who are only after sex and rapists.

[bamesjond0069]

Doesn't do shit I'd bet. Just keeps virgins away. Like they had a chance in the first place 🤣

[joeldalton]

A soccer match has a goalie. Doesn’t mean you can’t score.

[KrakenAttackin]

Of course not because plenty of married women cheat.