Well I don't know where to start but my friends are calling me words like pick me or a weak woman and this made me self questioning. The thing is in my relationships I believe that men need to be like one step forward but I'm just applying it to my own intimate relationships like I don't wanna think about where we're gonna eat, where we're gonna go for vacation or dates or think about the things that is gonna give me a hard time to decide I just want my man to say the last words if I believe that he is an intelligent person. I don't wanna pay for myself because it makes me feel less feminine when I am with my man I feel embarrassed and humiliated when we have to pay separately even though I made a really good amount of money. When we’re in a situation like he's giving me signs he’s not gonna pay for me I suggest to him that I will give him my card and he will make the payment for me because like I said it is embarrassing for me and please don't judge me I dont know why I feel this way. I live in Europe and having child out of wedlock is very common I also think that this is very embarrassing for the woman. Like I think myself in a situation that I have a baby with a man who is not my husband legally how should I describe him to people like he is the father of my child or my boyfriend. The men in Europe thinks I'm crazy and I don't need no governments approval for having a baby. They dont understand me or I don't understand them I really don't know. In bedroom, in social life I want my man to be more dominant and make my life easier my friend circle says that I'm insecure and weak and also pick me and I'm not healthy in mind. I tried to go with the way my friends suggested but I was never happy I guess it is my temperament to be submissive. Sorry for my English if there is a mistake English is not first language
Your friends sound weak and pick me’s because they don’t want to put their foot down when a man doesn’t want to be a man. You want a man of tradition , meanwhile they want a generation Z inspired relationship. Sounds like you have standards and they don’t because they want to impress the new aged “man”.
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You’re making things very complicated for yourself and in these times many women help out paying for things also of course you have to plan and organize a vacation. You just don’t decide in a few days. Well let’s go here without getting your ducks in a row unless it’s a tiny road trip. You plan something like this out, so you can have the best experience and be prepared and be organized
You shouldn't have to pay yours all the time. That's F-ed up... Stand your ground and find you a man that is already Manned-Up, rather than boy-man.
A pick me is usually someone who just spews bs to get men's approval at all costs. It sounds like you just have a more conservative belief system and that's okay, as long as you don't apply those expectations to other people.
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hay I do understand the man should stand up and do those things
but its time you girls told us, men, what you really want from us
like paying the bill put it in his hand before you go in to eat.
tell him to hold the door before you get out of your home
he will understand we need guidance, please.It's perfectly fine to want a traditional man I don't think there's anything wrong with that if that's what you want.
doesn't sound like it. there's nothing wrong with what you believe in.
I guess you can say you're weak in my opinion. Saying that it's the man's role to do everything is tiring.
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