Girls, when will there be a trend of not rejecting men for their height?

[wowop99266]

Do you know when height questions will stop being asked on G@G?

When women stop categorically rejecting men for not being 6'0+ and actually consider the fact that maybe that man has more to offer, instead of deciding within a few seconds of seeing him that he has nothing to offer just for being 5'6...

[FieldOfVision]

First things first, I never had feelings for anyone before and I hope one day that will change. I'm not asexual, I just haven't found anyone yet. In my opinion, height doesn't necessarily matter to me. I definitely want to be with someone attractive in my own perception and also who will respect me as a person. To be honest, it will be difficult to find a man shorter than me if I'm 4'9 (an inch shorter than Danny Devito) but if I ever do end up with someone shorter than me, that's okay. It goes both ways, as long as the love is real, it matters. I just hope I will experience the feeling of loving someone in that extent and if I never do, I'm content with that. Just remember, it may not be easy being short, male or female, but it's also not be easy being super tall. For some reason, there is this trend where everyone should be a perfect height and have a perfect appearance but the truth is, no one is perfect, but that's what makes people different. If we were all the same, life would be boring.

[milkov]

Of course! Height difference is slowly becoming a trend nowadays.. slowly...

Because there's a lot of famous personalities that doesn't conform to the height norms. Also, I saw many couples who have the female taller than the male so I guess the stigma is slowly breaking and the height difference with the woman being taller will be normal in the future

[Aerissa_Jade]

I married a 5'9 guy and it didn't work out, I don't reject guys for not being taller. I only want him as tall or more than I am and I'm 5'3 so generally that isn't a problem.

[alice55]

You're a bit wrong here cause if the man have money the girls won't be rejecting him. And for the trends to end then their parents / family should stop telling their daughter not to date shorts man or that the girl deserve better if she date a shorter guys but I doubt it's going to happen soon.

Because people are more and more hypocrite about in my country women say looks, money and height doesn't matter and say only things that matter are chemistry but they all date the same kind of guys..

But in the end there's many women who have married and had children with shorts men so

[wowop99266]

I'd love to talk about what you first mentioned. I'm not wrong, because a man having money doesn't mean women will be interested in him. Yes he can get more of women's attention through money but those women are attracted to the money, not him. If a man has to flash his money in order to get attention, that shows weak character.

Everything else you said was spot on though. And all it takes is to go to the street and the only thing that has variety is what the women look like. Their men all look physically identical.

[alice55]

I talked about money cause you talked about more to offer and for many women more to offer is usually equal to money (not for everyone but for a part of them).
Also what's more to offer? For today it seem that men and women don't have much to offer each other except sex and money (and lower tax in case of wedding). since women work and many men cook / clean both gender do things that used to be gendered so both doesn't really need each other anymore we could talk about quality time but there's family and friends for that and sex (but ons are pretty popular).

It's pretty creepy also the fact women prefer "stealing" / "seducing" a man who have a girlfriend already (or are married) instead of dating one that is single.

[wowop99266]

I wouldn't say it's creepy, it's just normal now. Women are attracted to men that can attract more women. The sexual market has developed it's own currency, so abundance draws more abundance, scarcity leads to more scarcity.

On that note, if men only have sex or money to offer, and aren't physically attractive enough to draw people in, what is he to do? Just offer money?

[Anonymous]

Im honestly considerably tall (168cm) and men usually reject me for my height too. The men i meet usually feels insecure being with a tall girl, it doesn't seem to make them feel masculine. But I personally am proud of my height and will always be and i would love to see a man of the same height or just slightly taller or shorter be confident of their height when trying to start a relationship with me.


My guy bestfriend is as tall as me and he is very insecure of his height, he knows i have feelings for him romantically because he is an amazing person as i have known him since we were younger.


Tho I think if the men is a childhood friend or approaches you with a dynamic of being friends first, woman in general would be more likely to realize what’s within them. Cause honestly i think being friends first gives everyone a chance to know eachother.

[Razp_Sorbet]

I feel like this hardly ever actually happens. Maybe it's just where Im from because people here really don't give a shit how tall you are. All my friends have short boyfriends. I'm literally the only one with a tall boyfriend and I COMPLAIN ABOUT IT.

[Cassie88]

It must be something that only happens in the US.

[KathrynTaylor]

Well, I see your point and I sympathise, but women aren’t obliged to date little men just out of pity. When they’re not attracted to them. I suggest you look for really little women. I’m not trying to be unkind. If the women are tiny, you’ll seem taller.

[wowop99266]

I don't think short men have to exclusively search for really little women just because they're short? You don't tell short women to date another short man, so why would you tell a short man to exclusively search for a shorter women.

[KathrynTaylor]

Because taller women usually aren’t attracted to little men.

[wowop99266]

First of all I don't appreciate you saying 'little men' in that condescending manner. Secondly, I believe that preconceived prejudice is something that should be fought against, instead of encouraged.

[KathrynTaylor]

Ok you’re going to be snippy, so I’ll say what I didn’t want to say. Women don’t want to date little men because they are turned on by bigger men. We want to feel protected by our men, not like we’re the stronger alpha ones. It’s probably also genetic programming to seek out the most attractive, strongest, fittest men to produce healthier offspring that are more likely to have successful mating opportunities.

[wowop99266]

The prejudice is strong in you. First of all, this is the generation that is having the least human reproduction, so it's not like humans are trying to survive. Secondly, you're under the impression that short means weak and feeble, and that is just not the case. A man's height doesn't determine his capacity to protect you or dominate you. A man, as short as he may be, is still physically stronger than many women taller than him.

[KathrynTaylor]

Oh you didn’t want the truth. I’m sorry I offended you. I just take it literally that people want honesty when they ask for it. I should’ve not said anything. Because I don’t like to lie.

[wowop99266]

You didn't offend me. You haven't said anything I haven't heard before. But the points you made can be debunked, as I already showed you. I'm not fighting statistics or biology, I'm fighting simple subconscious prejudice.

[KathrynTaylor]

Fair enough. Well if I did, I’m sorry. I don’t pick up on social cues. But I don’t deliberately aim to be cruel. Anyway, I think Nicole Kidman married a shorter man and they’re happy. Tom Cruise has been married a few times.

[KathrynTaylor]

I had to speak to my mum about it and she said I shouldn’t have said anything. I’m Autistic. That doesn’t excuse it though.

[wowop99266]

I'm just saying if height discrimination can actually be discouraged instead of blatantly encouraged by society, maybe some people would think twice before simply just rejecting and the balances can work on getting even...

[KathrynTaylor]

Maybe so

[girlypop00]

Well then wouldn't the same question be fair with men wanting shorter women? Why not give a chance to a woman taller than you?

[wowop99266]

There are plenty of short men that wouldn't care if a woman was taller than them. The trick is getting the taller women to give the shorter men an opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Did she tell you that’s why she rejected you? How many women have said, “I don’t want you because you’re under 6’?”
I’m 5’9 and have dated men down to 5’3, I don’t care! Most the women I know don’t care. 6’ is a lie from the internet that men believe for some reason. Sure, many women prefer a taller man and would love 6’… just as many men prefer a curvaceous yet slender woman! That’s ok!! Yeah, most women want a man whose at least a little taller but most men also want a woman whose at least a little shorter… honestly most couples I see are near the same height or only 2-4 inches of difference.

[petitedollbabee]

I’ve never rejected someone for their height. Only for when they’ve had an ugly personality.


I guess the same question could be asked of when will guys stop rejecting girls for their weight, or their height if they’re taller than the man. At the end of the day it’s just a preference, and your preference is what you’re attracted to, so why would you date someone you’re not attracted to.

[Subarugirl]

I mean people aren't going to stop rejecting advances from people they are not attracted to.

The question that I have is would you really want to be with someone who doesn't find you physically attractive? Would you want to be with some one that you weren't attracted to? I doubt it.

[wowop99266]

You can't really compare. I speak for myself on this, but I know I speak for other men when I say you don't have to be the prettiest or have the most perfect body, we just have to be attracted to you, and it doesn't take one single characteristic to do that. But women on the other hand, unless he's tall or taller than her, he's just wiped out entirely. I understand some men do that to women too, but a woman's dating pool is not categorially marginalized for one single characteristic.

[Subarugirl]

As you said it doesn't take one single characteristic. There are tons of dudes that will totally refuse a woman if she is fat or taller than he is, not a virgin or doesn't share his religion. It goes both ways. Sometimes a single characteristic is enough to not be attracted to someone, and I would know because I am taller than over 82% of men in my country.

[wowop99266]

Yes but just like there are plenty of men that will reject a woman for those characteristics, there are also plenty of men that wouldn't care about those characteristics, and that doesn't go both ways, because so many women use height as a sole characteristic to filter men out, to where men that aren't a certain height or even just taller are invisible to them.

[Subarugirl]

That’s just the way it is, you want to force people to be with people they are attracted to?

[thatshydork]

When men stop rejecting women because they’re too tall, too “overweight”, too muscular, too weak, and/or too skinny.

[wowop99266]

Personally as someone that has never rejected a woman for being too tall, too overweight, too muscular, or weak or too skinny, I have grounds to talk about height.

[thatshydork]

And as someone who’s never rejected a man for being “too short”, I do too.