Why does my man stay in a relationship with me when he is not physically attracted to me? Just because I'm a good person? I feel used and I feel like I'm not in the right place.
Why men do that?
Maybe I wasn't made for American men, I need to be single or date someone else that isn't American
So, there are a few old sayings in American.
"If you cannot be with the one you love, then love the one you have." That means he may not truly love you, but he loves having you around because you are the one, he has and does care about you on some level.
Bottom line is men and women both date people for all types of reasons. Maybe he does care about you but does not see a long-term future with you. Maybe he thinks he can do better, but you are the one that is here and now.
I have met some really great women, and I did care about them... but there were some potential red flags at the start, but I thought maybe over time things could work out. I wanted them to work out. But as time went on those things became bigger issues for me, and even though I cared about these women I realized that long term it was never going to work, and yeah maybe I could do better. Over time I did do better and every woman I dated and cared about taught more and more about myself and the process and eventually I found as close to the perfect women for me that could be humanly possible. Nobody is ever going to be that 100% perfect person, but she is pretty damn close.
But as I figured that out for myself, I held onto relationships longer than I should of, yes partly because of the sex, partly because I did care about these women, and I wanted it to work even though I really knew it would not. Eventually the women themselves realized it as well and the relationships ended.
It's not something you, or let me say I, never did intentionally... but on some level I always knew something about it was never going to work out and it took time to figure out exactly what it was. But I did enter into the relationship with best of intentions and did truly care about and still do care about these women... but it just was not meant to be.
This is not a man thing; this is a person thing. Many women have the same types of stories, and it just is how the dating process works. It's not that you are a bad person or not a great catch, and it not that he is a bad person either... it's just not meant to be. But you will learn from this process, and you will improve upon it and next time you will find someone better and eventually you will find the right someone... as long as you do not get bitter or give up hope.