Is loveboming, faking love and future faking to get sex so low?

[CelineBV]

Scenario:
Adam can't get casual sex easily so instead he pretends to seek a relationship. He searches for a girl looking for a serious relationship, lovebombs her so much (tells her ''We're soulmates, I love you forever'', etc), fakes it all and even lies about having a future with her, lies about wanting marriage and kids. He continues the act for so long.

The girl falls for it and he has all the sex he wanted.

Isn't lying, misleading girls and faking it all just to get sex (ruining the girl's innocence, dreams and goals, wasting her time) because that's the only single way you can get sex (basically you suck... you have to lie about what the same thing she wants to get sex) from a girl still soooo low?

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+1 y

Meanwhile the guy is getting all the sex, while still lying to her, still faking it all, stringing her along, wasting her time. He knows he'll never have kids with her nor marry her but he continues lying as long as he's getting sex.

[Vegasrunner]

Na it's part of the game. Just like you Adam has needs and if he can't get casual sex easily then he's going to have to do something different. Obviously if you can get to a womans heart she's more likely to have sex w/ you. I dont think he's doing anything wrong he's just doing what he has to do, If Adam is only in his 20's like u then in my opinion it would be a mistake for him to be thinking about starting a family so young. In their 20's men should he focused on building their empires and being w/ as many women as possible so they dont enf up settling.

[CelineBV]

Ruining women, wasting their time with lies, going as far as lying about wanting kids and seeing a future marriage. That Adam must be so unwanted if he can't be straight forward and find a woman on his same page that only cares about sex.. if he has to lie to get sex he's must be so low quality.

[CelineBV]

People are not game to play with.

[Vegasrunner]

That's certainly an opinion that your welcome to hold but it shouldn't matter to Adam. He can't live his life based on someone elses beliefs. He certainly wouldn't be the first guy to lie to a woman to get laid, it's just part of the game. Just two different POV's and what I've learned as I've gotten older is women are unable to see anything if it isn't their exact POV.

[Vegasrunner]

People aren't but relationships are. As a man if you want to be successful w/ women you have to know how the game is played

[CelineBV]

So basically the only way to weed out all those lying lovebombers and users is for them to stumble into an adament woman that only believes in waiting till marriage and will sticks to her beliefs (one of those deeply devoted types). In that case, no game can be accomplished right there. She doesn't have to suffer heartbreak nor a horrible 1st experience story like many girls have.

[Vegasrunner]

I'm not sure if that would "weed" anyone out most men are going to say what they need to in order to get laid. I'm sure there's some man out there desperate enough that he would invest his time in a wsn like that though.

[Phoenix-gb]

While I agree it's wrong, she also has the option of going for the guys who are honestly looking for the same thing she is. It's just they will usually be the ones who are less attractive, have a lower paying job and be honest about it.

It ends up hurting the women who get scammed, and the guys who are being honest as it sows distrust in the women going forward, meaning those guys then start adopting these tactics to get what little they can and perpetuating the cycle.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Yes. It happens, and it’s horrible.
Sounds like my ex, minus the sex. He just wanted to hurt me lol.

[CelineBV]

Thank your lucky stars that he's your ex and you didn't waste too much time. Some girls met those lovebombing users when they were young and wasted 4+ years, only to find out he's never going to have kids nor marry her as promised.

[CelineBV]

If there is any karma out there, they would deserve all that's coming to them. I hate those guys.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I hate those guys too. I wasted a year with that guy. Shame on me. Karma will get to them.

[Gorge95]

Lol that’s a psycho you can spot from a mile away. All that effort for sex? He must me an undesirable…

[tommyvegas7618]

Any type of lying is low and wrong, but this is really not cool. I love sex a lot and crave it almost, but sex is, IMHO, a spiritual thing and there should be a connection to do it; even if it's a one night stand. And personally, I don't understand how people can lie in peoples faces, especially to get things from that person.

[CelineBV]

Exactly. I'll never understand how is wasting someone's time for your own pleasure even fun? What's the fun of knowing the person would've never been with you if you were honest?
Fun is when both two are on the same page and know the deal.

[Aerissa_Jade]

It isn't always just guys who can't get it any other way, many times these so called men are doing this to multiple women at the same time.

Some guys, that can get it, want to get as much as they can from as many as they can. Much like Vegas guy said, about how men should be trying to be with as many women as possible.

Using someone for any purpose, is bad but playing with emotions, faking love, and pretending to want to have a future with someone is one of the lowest lows. Even worse when your using someone for their body sexually.

I hope someone didn't do this to you.

[boggboss]

Yes its shit don't think anyone would say its right

[CelineBV]

I got disappointed when I noticed a couple guys agreeing with this either on this site or elsewhere. They don't want marriage but they saw nothing wrong in lovebombing girls. Wow. How can any human be happy about using people for their own pleasure, ruining someone's innocence?

[boggboss]

Because many people actively don't care about other or the effect they have on them nothing new qe live in a woulrpd where people can rape and murder so lying ain't that surprising

[EaterPeter]

Fool me once shame on you,
fool me twice shame on you

[CelineBV]

That still doesn't make it alright to use people.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

What if both wants same thing and know what's going on?

[CelineBV]

Then what's different. If both are on the same page and know the deal ok. If not and they guy is just entering a relationship just for sex but lying to the girl about wanting a family... that's not ok.

[EaterPeter]

Low it is, not all equal though

[EaterPeter]

Definitely not, yet people do that, should we call it ignoring red flags?

[EaterPeter]

Are you in US?

[EaterPeter]

Do you watch reality court TV shows

[CelineBV]

I'm from Fl and don't watch too many reality shows but have read horrible stories about women that got lied to and strung along for years by those users. I'm aware there were red flags but maybe it must have been that girl's first experience and she didn't know any better.

[EaterPeter]

Makes sense, this people live on this things, person should file complaint or do something about it so at least this person cannot do same thing with other women

[EaterPeter]

She must become smarter

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes!!!

[CelineBV]

I really hate those guys. They ruined every girl's dreams, innocence, future. Then she's going to grow older and distrust men. They make it harder for the real genuine men out there that want a family.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell me about it