My boyfriend eager for sleep with me?

[elliema]

My boyfriend has asked for sleep with me many times this week. I refused him each time since I didn't want to. But he keeps on asking. It seems he is so eager for it. He didn't act like that before. What's wrong with him? What's the usual reason guys desire it so much?

[SallyTho87]

It's natural, in a relationship to feel that connection and crave each other intimately. Despite his "wants" what do YOU want?
Do you feel it's the right time for sex? Are you on any birth control, IUD, or preventative contraception?
Have you two discussed condom use and STDs? Are you comfortable with him, feel emotionally ready to be intimate with him?

If not, PLEASE do not let anyone rush you.
I did not sleep with anyone until I was 24, in my first committed relationship that lasted 8 years. You have plenty of time to decide, but do NOT let his wants cloud your judgment, or make you feel you HAVE to, because it's "what couples do" It's all based on personal preferences, needs, and it's absolutely ok to feel intimately craving your partner, but sex is a big step. Be sure you're ready.

Also, if this bothers you that your boyfriend continues to bring this topic up, I recommend discussing it. It's clearly something important to him, something HE desires from the relationship is that intimate bond. If you are waiting, or don't feel ready, or don't feel it's as important, this could flag you two have different sex drives and MAY be incompatible. You need to talk with him, tell him how this topic being brought up makes you feel, and either
tell him how it makes you feel (pressured, uncomfortable, anxious) and inform if you are wanting to take that step with him.

[poshspice123]

Tell him you want to take it slow

[zeitgeist057]

I would worry about him not listening to you saying no. He keeps asking, it's bothersome. I would tell him, stop asking, I will let you know when I want to, and ask you at that time. I don't want to keep answering the same question every day the answer is the same. If he keeps asking after that, it confirms he's not listening and doesn't care about me, it's only about his desires he's concerned with.

[bowenw]

He wants to know what it feels like if he is a virgin. He may also be wanting to brag about it to his friends.

[Alice18]

Sleeping together is so sweet and so pleasant. You feel the warmth of a loved one, you lie in his arms, you can kiss every second. This is an extraordinary emotional and psychological closeness. I love it and have been practicing it since school years, so I understand you and all your fears and obstacles related to it. Your boyfriend just loves you so much. If you trust him, don't be afraid. To begin with, find some time to just take a nap together during the day. Believe me, it's very cool.

[sage2021]

Nothing is wrong with him, but something is wrong with you.

Usually couples sleep together. It's a time to be close with each other, and feel each other. Hold hands, lay on his chest and fall asleep.

There is nothing wrong with that at all.
You need to figure out what is wrong with you why you don't want to feel him close to you and sleep with you.

[zeitgeist057]

She's 15. It's fine to have a boyfriend you don't sleep with at a younger age. She's perhaps not ready for that level of intimacy, and aware it could lead to more that she is not ready for. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with her to not be ready for this level of closeness.

[sage2021]

He shouldn't even be in her bed or bedroom at age 15.

[Nikki1989]

At that age, it is not unusual. Just don't do anything you don't want to do.

[jjj101010]

He’s a guy it’s normal. Just wait till ur ready

[MrZameer]

He wants sex simple