Guys what are your thoughts on dating single moms?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always wondered what guys think about dating single moms. I’m a single mother myself and haven’t put myself out there for that reason. I know some men aren’t okay with dating someone that has a child. Do you think a single mother could find love?

[JamesDiaz11]

First, I do think a single mom could find love, but this is rarely the story book kind of ending she would want where a strong, confident man would step in and save her. More likely she'll get a guy who's pretty desperate, or has kids himself, and will accommodate her kid because he can't get a woman without kids (say he can get a 7 with kids, or a 4 without kids).

I personally wouldn't date a single mom for several reasons, which seem to be paralleled in most guys (especially successful ones). First, I want to be the only person my future wife has kids with. Second, I don't want a constant reminder she's been with another guy, which is what that kid is (worst case scenario the other guy's in the picture, or she's bitter that he isn't). Third, it's significantly more of a financial burden for less actual benefit, the benefit being the girl, who will undoubtedly (and understandably) put her kid before you. All in all dating single moms is a terrible idea unless the guy has no choice.

[stratford]

I imagine some guys who have their brain in their pants would assume that single moms are despirate and hence an 'easy lay' which I find a little offensive.

Personally, I would treat a single mom like any other lady - with respect and if we were on a date I would be trying to make an emotional connection.

There are plenty of single dads out their too who are probably in the same boat.

Put yourself out there - you won't find your soul mate unless you do.

[Guy13]

Insta Dad and they have limited Time to share for relationship. It is not impossible but if you are single it will be difficult for you two to handle.

[Ligerzzero]

Single mothers can find love, but unless her kids are over 18, no thanks been there and your putting her and her kids first, your bending over backwards to help out and still never any time for you.

On top of that seams they are always looking for someone better and richer.

[SnowedIn]

Yes, a single mother can find love. It will take patience and time. Here's the thing, in a weird backwards way, it'll be easier: you don't have to filter through the guys. Most guys won't want to have a relationship with you: they are self editing off of your list and you don't have to waste your time on them.

You're awesome for doing what you do and there is a guy out there.

[FilmGuy93]

Single mothers can definitely find love. I know that I'm certainly not opposed to the idea of dating a single mother. Overall, I'd prefer that she didn't have children from a previous relationship (just because of where I'm at in life with my career and whatnot), but it's not a dealbreaker to me if she does.

[Searider]

There is nothing wrong with being a single mom. Most men don’t care. Just make sure that your future date understands that you come as a package and treats you and your child/children with respect. I know for a fact that you can find love. My mom did. 😊

[Caliguy88]

I have some female friends with kids I’d date, but I’d probably avoid them in general…. Like, I’d probably have to get to know them before dating. It’s a big deal I feel like and I just feel like you can’t casually do that. I don't know. I’m probably wrong but it just seems a lot to get involved with. Not because of the child as much as the whole situation with the ex, etc.

[Danisgivingit]

I’m not opposed. It is different because at some point you also need to develop some form of relationship with the child/children. However, as someone who enjoys quality relationships, it may be added bonus. If she is worth it, the extra work will pay off

[SpokenTruth]

My concerns would be adultery first and foremost. Then comes the risk that pertains to all men false accusations that could arise or some guy having to pay child support for his children he don't even get to see moving into his place as dad. Outside of all the horrors men of the west face all the considerations and cautions for men I would have loved to have been a dad with lots of children my own or not.

[SpokenTruth]

The threats to men are real horrors.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Of course she can. The child or children add a whole other layer depending on the state of their father as well, whether he's still alive and part of their life or a deadbeat or just dead. Stepping into the role of either a second father figure or even someone that ends up becoming their only father figure in addition to the relationship with the mother. Good luck. I hope you find something worthwhile.

[Paul09]

Very hard to say. I guess it's possible to fall for a single mother, if she has what you desire. But I think more of it as possible baggage or less time to spend with each other. I do not want kids, so I don't really want to father these kids. if I did, I think I'd at least want my own kid too then.

[cloud9vortex1234]

I've dated them, and actually really enjoyed the time with some of them, but I couldn't see myself settling down with a Single Mom. I'm not interested in supporting someone else's kid. I wish them well, but dating them is as far as I would go. I make sure to tell them that ahead of time.

[Adam1978]

No thanks, I think if a guy has had his family broke up and her kids are also out of the house there is room for another relationship for both. You have picked your guy and should have secured and keept it.

[boggboss]

Never gave it much thought If the kids where older it wiukdnt be much off a issue as she would have more time for herself which would mean more time for us so its not that I wouldn't just don't see it pleasurable with younger kids

[Drumlin2001]

Even before I had kids I did start to date a single mum. Now, i have two of my own, if I were single I would certainly date a single mum, may even prefer it as they'd understand the difficulties balancing priorities

[Leopard23]

She would have to be something special. Generally as a rule when single I would not date single mom's seriously for anything but a pump n dump

[chicosuave]

If they are hot They are good to tap buy not to date. If it's not my DNA then no reason for me to help raise those children

[OfDeath]

Single mothers are red flags. Why are they single mothers?

Then there is the fact that you csn never be number one to her. She's protecting 50% of her genes already in the world.

[exitseven]

I used to think that I would never do it but now that I am older I think if her kids were older like teen ages I would give it a go.

[Berethor]

Didn't worked with the father of her kids why it would work with me? too much baggage.

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

My personal thoughts are the woman put it up front that she [ or he] has a child before hand instead after a date or a few. People do not like that kind of surprise.

[AimeeKyle]

Single moms could absolutely find love. I would be upfront about having a kid /being a mom. Many wouldn’t have issues but some will. Give yourself and a select / potential few a chance.

[Anonymous]

Some men can barely look after themselves, let alone a woman with a child, so they are not up to the challenge.

[Keishio]

Why would I want to take part in a challenge where the prize is a single mum and someone else's kid?

[Fireguy17]

It's fine.
As long as both parents get along just fine I have had no issues at all with it.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, but every situation is different. I do not automatically refuse, but if she has a crazy ex or has several baby daddies I steer clear.

[In_Trance]

Some like it, some don't

[Echosoul]

Personally I wouldn't. I don't want to be a dad at all and even if I'm not a stepdad it's still complicated.

[LimitedBenefits101]

BIG RED FLAG.

Single mothers need to be AVOIDED AT ALL COSTS

[Anonymous]

She may be able to find love with some desperate guy with no other options I guess

[bamesjond0069]

Single moms can find love as long as they have very low standards.

[Shiningtempest]

I would never date single moms because I see it as an instant red flag.

[Twalli]

It's hard. Partly because we have to impress the woman and her kid.

[dinojames22]

I have no issues dating single moms. Most guys I know though can't handle the... kid is first priority thing

[Anonymous]

A single mom holds the allure to a man that homeless guy does to a woman.

[Anonymous]

I'll pass since i'm childfree. Try dating single fathers.

[Cheerfull009]

I want only casual hookup with single mom but don't like permanent relationships

[driven159]

single moms need Loven too.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

I Date Single Mothers.

[Randalama]

nonstarter

[Slim57]

It's whatever

[Anonymous]

Not for me