How likely is it for a guy to be date less, no girlfriend, or sex life for a year? When somebody tries to improve, how do you not feel lonely?

[poneglyphs]

So, how don't you feel alone in the process of self improvement? I haven't been on a date for 2 years, & it's getting annoying when my friends & family ask me about girlfriend's or when I'm getting one.

Then, I just think about all of the rejection and ghosting. Then, I get sad 😔 Have you ever felt this lonely before? It's gotten so bad that I get dreams that I'm in a relationship and happy with someone.

[RobT312]

Yeah it happens. I had a bad breakup 6 years ago. I was in a rut and felt alone. For me the best thing at the time was to get out there and feel a little carefree. No expectations…see what happens. Hung out with friends more, lots of dates and one night stands both good and bad. Get out there dude and socialize, you’ll find someone

[poneglyphs]

I thought I wasn't supposed to focus on dating or women when I improve myself?

[RobT312]

? Why would u think that?

[poneglyphs]

Because I don't need too and just focus on my goals? That's what other people told me?

[RobT312]

Well I see them as 2 different things. Sure everyone has goals and most work hard to achieve them. Having a girlfriend for me is personal life, and is in the category of friends and family. You can do both at once.
Perhaps what they meant was if you have goals to improve physical appearance, etc. maybe your chances of dating will increase as you reach those goals.

[Truthatanycost]

When you realize that most loneliness has nothing to do with anyone else, but the relationship that you have with yourself and God, that is when everything changes. Imagine wanting to be with another because you are overflowing, rather than empty...

[Anonymous]

Find purpose & meaning in life outside of a relationship. Find something that creates value in yourself that doesn’t come from others, but you. The irony is eminently doing that you’ll see Leo have more to give in a relationship so you’ll have better quality ones.

[ValeriusDover]

Wow, two whole years. Must be rough. I've never had anyone interested in me, you should consider yourself lucky that at least it's possible for people to like you. I've never had that luxury. If you pulled it off before, you can do it again. What's stopping you?

[poneglyphs]

People say to focus on my goals and I am. But at the same time I am getting lonely and rarely talk with anyone 🙃

[ChillaxingLove]

Hangout with Friends, get your mind off of being single. Change your mind as time to ready yourself to be the best version of yourself to your future wife.

[SpokenTruth]

I was around 21 years old when I stopped dating. Yes it gets lonely but taking into account what other men have gone through with marriage and divorce not including false accusations and materialism etc. It doesn't make me feel any less lonely but at least it's safe so there is a bright side to look at.

[FilmGuy93]

Based solely on what I've seen of other men; it seems like the situation you're talking about is extremely common.

[Pacquet]

I'm not sure how to not feel lonely in this process, my best suggestion is to fill your time with things you like to do outside of work, things that are fun to do by yourself and stuff that keeps you active.

[poneglyphs]

Well, I do play ganes, go out with friends and do other things but it does pretty lonely when you come home and no to talk too 🥺

[OddBeMe]

So when you exercise how do you not feel the burn?

When you try to improve, you will feel the pain of…improving.

[poneglyphs]

I exercise every day I'm tired and sore

[OddBeMe]

I don't know, apparently you’re emotionally out of shape. Lol

[Reem12345reem]

Get a pet , dog or cat or anything else u like

[poneglyphs]

I do have cats 2 of them but it's not the same as a real human

[Reem12345reem]

I don't know maybe try online dating? Or just enjoy the company of yourself , discover yourself more

[poneglyphs]

That's what I been doing all of my life the second option and the first one I do but I don't get matches or just get bored of online dating.

[Reem12345reem]

I don't know what to say 😭

[poneglyphs]

Yup, and now I don't talk to women besides my relatives 😒

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I've been that way my whole life.

[pethouse]

I’m in that situation rn