Are you less likely to get an abuser if your outgoing?

[jennifer_bloom]

There was a bad apple at my old church who liked me and he tried to date me a year after I rejected him cause I mentioned in one of my online profiles which he stalked that I thought he was good looking when I first met him and than I left hostile comments on the same site about how he was an evil abuser who ran my name through the mud and disrespected me after I rejected him and he went avoidant again. I think if women don’t want to date disrespectful guys, they should publicly denounce them and criticize them when the guy disrespects him. No wife beater is going to stay with a woman who posts on social media about a beating every time it happens, an extremely small percentage might kill or kidnap but most guys will leave you alone and flee to another social group where nobody knows about their abusive history of bad behaviour.

[FilmGuy93]

The trick to avoiding abusers is to have healthy emotional boundaries; being outgoing doesn't really change anything. A lot of people really struggle with asserting boundaries, women especially, but the value of setting those boundaries is that abusers get scared off because they don't get what they want.

[Wise4myage]

No, not necessarily. But being outgoing is the way to go in my opinion.