Boyfriend is moving away soon, do I move on now?

[Anonymous]

I just found out my boyfriend will be moving to another state. We started dating not so long ago. He’s getting a raise soon and will be making more money and ready for new beginnings. He has family here and there but wants to move there. He’s plan on visiting in march and wants to look for apartments while he’s there. I don’t want to do long distance and where he’s moving to he will have tons of better options than me. Until the time comes what do I do? Move on starting now or just keep dating him until it’s time for him to leave?

[MaazHussain]

It can be a difficult situation when one partner is planning to move away and the other is not interested in a long-distance relationship. It's important to be honest with yourself and your boyfriend about your feelings and what you want in a relationship.

If you are not interested in a long-distance relationship and know that it's not something you want to pursue, it may be best to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about how you feel. You can let him know that you care about him and his goals, but that you don't want to continue dating if you won't be able to be in the same location.

On the other hand, if you are open to the idea of a long-distance relationship and want to explore that option, you can talk with your boyfriend about what that would look like for both of you. It may require a lot of communication, trust, and effort to make it work, but it's possible.

Ultimately, the decision is yours and it's important to prioritize your own wants and needs in a relationship. If you feel like it's best for you to move on starting now, it's okay to end the relationship and focus on finding someone who shares your goals and values.

[Guy13]

A man's Omissions, when one willingly does NOT perform what one knows he should, are the most Self revealing Action one can take. If this "man" don't have a plan for you, NOT him, but for you this weekend then that's all you need to know. Save the tears, wrinkles, and general failure-heartache for someone who deserves it.

If he does not roll this out Complete with Vision by Sunday then shake his hand.. thank him... and go on your way. Don't be angry or happy. Half-hearted effort doesn't deserve anymore than a half-hearted smile so greet and go. I hope he's got some sense...

[Anonymous]

It’s a tough choice. I remember a few years ago I was dating someone I thought was absolutely perfect then 6 months into our relationship he had to move to another state for a job much better than the one he had. You could try long distance, I did for a little while. But at the end of the day you’ve got to be honest with yourself and if LDR’s don’t work for you then they just don’t. Uprooting your life to follow him to another state is also a big decision, especially earlier in. At least if you lived together previously or had some real time together, but the timing of this sucks.

[AviatorTom]

Unless you want to move with him, which you don't say, but you do say you don't want a LTR, it's time to move on. Before you do that though, have a discussion with him. Maybe he has plans that you might like.

[coachTanthony]

"I don’t want to do long distance"

There's your answer. Move on now.

[SnowedIn]

Move on graciously and gracefully now. I sense you don't want to go with him and it doesn't sound like he has you in his plans. So, unless there's something -- physical or otherwise -- keeping the two of you together, have a last dinner and whatever else, give him a hug and kiss, wish him the best, and move on.

[earthcitizen7]

You didn't mention the obvious solution: Move with your guy. I have moved more than 25 times. It is doable, and it is GREAT, when you move to a better place, and can be quite stressful if you move to a worse place.

From reading your comment, I believe you really want to break up with your guy, and change your life. If that is what you want, then do it!!!

God created Our Universe with Love and Free Will. Use your Free Will to Love!

[HighValue]

Ask each other lots of questions about things that would matter to each of you long term to see how compatible you really are and if you both match very well, move with him. A well matched long term partner is very difficult to find.

[lightbulb27]

I'd hope he'd be clear about if you both try to continue.

if not, you have to move to him,

or you have to move on.

[Stevefiveo]

I would move with him. But that depends on you and how strongly you feel about him. "Only love can steer you right." - Neil Peart

[MadAndBankrupt]

I don’t know, its your life

[kareka]

Yes start frinding other

[exitseven]

The choice is yours.

[In_Trance]

Might as well, yes