I feel that I’m just a burden to everyone and I feel sad, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I (23F) started feeling this way a few days ago when I called my 24 year old boyfriend who I haven’t seen or talked to in so long because we both study hard. He answered and he told me he was moving his stuff out of his place from college and said he can’t really talk because he’s about to drive and asked me why I called. I told him I just wanted to say hi and ask how his semester went and he said it was okay because he passed his classes but now he’s nearly broke so he’s trying hard to get a certain job he’s looking at. I was having anxiety because I felt so bad, especially that I called at a really busy time cause I thought he would’ve moved out by now since it’s been a week and a half since classes ended. He asked if I called for any other reason and I wanted to say that he can visit me anytime now that I’m not many hours away from him but I figured he wouldn’t of been able to because he doesn’t have much money for gas (because he lives an hour away from me when I’m home) and once he gets some job that he won’t have time to see me while I’m home for a little over 2 months. As soon as I was about to say no he just hung up on me without saying talk to you later or anything like that. It just made me feel like I was wasting his time and was in his way. Yesterday my close friend was angry at me because I had my hands too full with chores to where I couldn’t talk to her at that moment and now she won’t talk to me at all. Today I call the hair salon I go to for haircuts cause I haven’t gotten one in almost 3 years, so my hair is very long right now and I can’t wait anymore cause I have so many classes next week and the hair salon isn’t open on weekends and Mondays. I messaged my mom since she planned on going to the store near the hair salon and I told her that the person who cuts my hair is only available in the mornings and I texted if that was okay and she said, “ok😕”and I got upset that she felt sad about waking up at 8:50am to go there

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I cleaned up the house for her and she said“no I’m not upset”and I was just confused because of the emoji but I guess I’m also feeling unappreciated from my friend and my boyfriend. I just feel really sad right now and don’t know what to do. As far as calling my boyfriend to talk to him, I know he’s still moving out his stuff (he’s got a lot) I offered to help him but he didn’t want me around at that moment. I just feel unappreciated in general because I work so hard and so thoughtful things and

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do* thoughtful things and don’t feel appreciated for it even though I don’t know why I should care about being appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is low-key jealous of you because he sees you as having a better living situation than he has and every time he is in contact with you, he is reminded of his shit life compared to yours and gets pissed off. The more you offer and the more you try to be present, the more he will be pissed off. I’d consider ending the relationship and finding someone else.

As for your friend and mom, I wouldn’t take their responses personally. It’s not like you did anything wrong, and they probably just have other shit going on.

[Opinion Owner]

And when your boyfriend hung up on you, he did it because he wants to low-key make you feel some pain like the pain he is feeling given all the stress he is going through.

[Opinion Owner]

If you actually do try to leave him, it may rock his subconscious enough that he’ll try to get you back somehow, but alternatively, he may honestly just be like “good riddance, one less thing to deal with” and move on, even if he does feel guilty for being nonchalant inside.