I feel like a burden to my family. Everyone is stressed out and sad because of me. My own parents said that right to my face. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

My parents want me to find a guy and get married ASAP. Im only 20.. I'm in serious relationship with a guy but he is from another religion and my parents hate that. They forbid me not to be with him anymore. I'm Indian and moving out is NOT an option. I can't breakup with my boyfriend cuz he is perfect for me. If I go out with him it will cause 'shame" to the family according to my parents. I'm going through hell. They are not considering my feelings.. All they are talking about is how shameful it would be if I love my boyfriend. I don't want to cheat on just cuz my parents told me to. But I hate seeing them be sad angry and stressed.. I don't know what to do.. I don't want arranged marriage with a stranger and get married so soon. They don't know I'm still in a relationship with my boyfriend. My boyfriend is not ready talk to parents cuz he is still getting his life and career together. If anyone have an idea or opinion please do share. I'm depressed and having anxiety. I'm having stress induced headache and I'm so weak.. please.. Any opinion is helpful

[RavVid]

Hmmh. Difficult. A friend went back went back to India to visit relatives and he was surprised to be met by his bride-to-be at the airport. Fortunately the horoscope was bad so he got out of it.

Arranged marriages do work but you have a love match already. But we do know that love matches are increasingly failing.

I really do sense that you are going to have difficulty resisting your families direction and giving up your love match. That is an impossible circumstance and I don't think any one has a magic wand here. You can break with your family or break with your boyfriend. Doesn't really sound like you can negotiate with you family but perhaps you could try for a time line such as no arranged marriage before you are some age whilst you see how things go with your love match.

Can't see much else.

[Anonymous]

"moving out is NOT an option."

Then make it possible to happen. Think you're the only one with this problem? Get to making money and don't ask for permission.

[Summeroflove]

You’re 20. Do what the fuck you want.